Have you ever been in a situation
where you thought maybe someone like you,
but once you start talking to them,
you found out that their feelings were
the completely opposite way where you had originally thought?
You see, people can be really hard to read sometimes,
especially in the realm of flirting.
We all have insecurity social abdicate,
another form of feelings that can make us come off one way
when we’re actually feeling another way.
But how do we know whether another person
is trying to play cool with us
or it’s genuinely not interested.
Experts have determined that nearly
55% how humans communicate is through our body language,
38% is through their tone
and only 7% is what they actually say to each other.
That sounds really confusing, right?
Well, it doesn’t have to be.
The next time you’re around the person that you like,
try and pay really close attention to their body language.
If you see any of these following cues,
you maybe have to get better idea about their feelings towards you.
So one of the best signals
is just open body langage towards you.
As someone is interested in the conversation that you having with them,
they will maintain an open body language
that is pointed in your general direction.
Their arms and legs will be uncrossed
and their upper body will be leaning toward you a little bit.
Now it’s important to know that this doesn’t show
they’re romantic interested,
but that they’re just interested in general.
You see, even the direction of someone’s feet is important.
If someone’s feet is pointed directly toward you
especially if it’s a girl that more likely to be interested.
If her feet point towards a door,
especially the door is in a different direction than you,
Then she’s most likely wanting to
actually leave the conversation and the room.
And one last quick note,
open body language doesn’t just determine how you feel about someone,
it can also determine whether or not you come off as attractive yourself.
Number two is eye contact.
Eye contact is a crucial sign of
how comfortable another person is around you.
If a woman is making eye contact with you for more than three seconds,
you might wanna walk over and start conversation.
And if during the conversation, she looks into your eyes
for more than seven seconds,
she’s probably definitely into you.
One study showed that looking into the eyes of another person
activates the same part of brain
that looking at each other naked void.
Where the other person is looking may also determine their intentions.
If a person is spending more their time looking around the room than at you,
they’re probably looking for a reason to leave or try to get away.
If they’re looking straight up,
then they’re probably trying to think of something
which doesn’t answer is signal attraction,
but it also doesn’t signal that they’re repulsed by you, either.
There are many different types of eye contact
that may signal different emotions or messages.
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Anyways many people make eye contact out of respect,
but a prolonged eye contact that focuses on the person’s entire body
shows they’re assessing and taking in your whole body.
This is typically by women
and something called “doe eyes”.
You can tell when a woman is making these typical ones,
because the muscles around their eyes will loosen up a little bit.
The pupils will dialate and their eyes will defocus slightly.
Body language cue number three to look out for
is very important. It’s smiling.
The position of the mouth will tell you more about what someone
is thinking when it’s not moving.
If someone is listening to you with the smile and parted lips,
they’re much more likely to be attracted to you.
And subtle lip bite might also indicate attraction.
But this is usually done consciously,
because, I mean, I’ve never seen anyone do this without knowing.
Slightly resting your gaze on someone’s lips
is a sign that you are thinking about kissing them.
But if you are doing it,don’t focus on this area for too long,
or you are starting to get creepy.
Number four is grooming.
We all want to look good for a potential partner.
So people tend to subconsciously groom themselves,
whether in a conversation with someone they want to be with.
Now this doesn’t mean that women is gonna
wipe out the tube of lipstick and hair straightener during your conversation.
But they may push back their hair out of their face
or adjust their jewelry.
Men also display some of the behaviors
when they are trying impressing another person,
though usually adjust their tie or their hair,
or fiddle with their buttons on their short.
And not all contact with the face signals attraction, however.
Common signs that someone may not be attracted to you
include, maybe, itching their eyes,
scratching their nose or rubbing the back of their neck.
There is a difference between trying to look good for someone
and trying to itch away an uncomfortable feeling.
Number five is touching.
Touching your own face or hair is one side of attraction.
But if another person is touching you,
that’s a pretty clear sign that they are interested,
even subtle touching can signal attraction.
A classic rule of body language and attraction is
that if another person touches you
5 times in 15 minutes,
you can usually bet on them being attracted to you.
If you are attracted to another person,
you may find yourself subtly touching them as well.
And this doesn’t have to be intentional.
But if you notice yourself touching a person,
pay attention to their response.
If a person is unfazed by the gesture
and continues to display open body language,
then you should probably continue to flirt at the rate that you are going.
But just because you are not getting verbal cues
from someone about you touching them.
If the other person freezes up or backs away
after you make physical contact,
it’s a pretty good idea to rein things in.
And the last about to have you guys is
not put all of your eggs in one body language basket.
When you start to understand common body language cues,
you can see subtle signs of attraction and general interest.
But remember that every situation and person is different.
Consider the contacts
in which you are having a conversation
with the person that might be attracted to you.
The best way to find out if someone is interested in you
romantically or even physically
is have an open, respectful conversation about your feelings.
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Anyway thank you guys so much for watching this video,
I hope you gain some value
and I will see you in the next video.