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为什么说你在用错误的方法应对无聊

Why you're trying to beat boredom the wrong way

厌倦是我们现代生活最大的挑战之一
boredom is one of the biggest challenges of our modern lives
你多久会觉得自己 「我生活很无聊」
I mean, how often do you think to yourself”my life is boring right now”
或者「我无事可做」
or”I’ve got nothing to do” well,
如果你有很多这样的想法 这是一个让人担忧的信号
if you get these thoughts a lot it’s a worrying sign
容易感觉到厌倦的人
people who are easily bored are
同时也更容易引发忧郁焦虑
also more likely to develop depression anxiety,
工作效率低下和社交技能不足
low work performance and poor social skills
当然
of course
你能想象到为什么持续在厌倦
you can imagine why being in a constant state
状态下会让你感觉忧郁
of boredom can make you feel depressed
但你知道其实
but did you know
有两种完全不同的性格更容易觉得厌倦吗
that there are actually two distinct personalities that are prone to boredom
第一种是冲动刺激寻求型
the first are the impulsive thrill seeking types
这类人天生需要更多的刺激来感到兴奋
these people naturally need more stimulants to feel excited
所以当我们可能只需要乘坐普通过山车时
so while we might only require a normal roller coaster ride
他们正在寻求
they’re searching
最快速的过山车来体验同样奔涌的肾上腺因此
for the fastest roller coaster to feel the same rush adrenaline
日常生活对于
hence the average day to them
他们相对有点无聊
it’s a little bit more boring
第二种是过于敏感的人
the second type are those who are overly sensitive
这些人想做一些刺激的事
these people want to do something exciting
但因为他们对于疼痛和惩罚更加敏感
but because they are more sensitive to pain and punishment
他们更难走出舒适区
it’s harder for them to go outside the comfort zone
这导致普遍在外部世界中自闭
this leads to a general withdrawal from the world
让他们无事可做
leaving them with nothing to do
这也是一种忧郁
now this is also a depressing
但厌倦也能是一件好事
but boredom can be a good thing as well
这样来思考这件事
think about it this way over the millions
在百万年中 进化出人意料高效的消除不需要的性格特质
of years evolution has been incredibly efficient at stamping out unwanted traits
如果你有一种对你
if you have the trait which
有害影响生存机率的特质
is harmful to your chances of survival
这种特质会随时间消亡
this trait dies out over time
厌倦在这么多年的进化中保留了下来
now boredom has survived all these years of evolution
所以可能有他的原因
so there’s probably a reason for, right? well,
对吧可能是厌倦激发我们去做有趣的事情
it’s likely that boredom motivates us to do something interesting
它让我们保持好奇心
it makes us curious and more
同时更愿意拓展生活中的新事物没有它
willing to explore new things in life
我们可能会
without it we would be sitting
坐在那儿什么都不做并且还无发展
around doing nothing and make no progress
所以问题是 我们如果避免厌倦
so the question is how do we escape boredom well,
如果厌倦被定义成对于周围
if boredom is defined as a lack
的任何事都缺乏参与度
of engagement with whatever task is at hand
那么相反则是完全的参与
then the opposite would be totally engagement
回想你体验完全愉悦的时候
just think back to times when you experience pure joy
可能是和朋友间热情
perhaps it was an intense conversation
对话让你忘记了时间
with a friend which made you lose track of time
可能是你在音乐会
maybe it was a time when
中忘我的时候
you lost yourself at a concern
你可能也听
you may have also heard
过一些艺术家宣称
of artists claiming they’re in the zone
当他们非常专心在身边的事物时
when they so focused on the task at hand
其他一切都不存在这样的状态
that everything else is non-existent
所有这些经验都有一个共性
all these experiences have one thing in common
他们都非常具有吸引力 让你在其中忘我
they’re so engaging that you lose yourself in them
所以Ecstasy的希腊语
so it’s no surprise that the Greek root word
词根的意思是「到自己之外」
with ecstasy means standing outside yourself
心理学家称这种体验为「心流」
psychologists have labeled this experience — flow
要明白这点
to understand it take a look
让我们看这张图 X轴上 是你在特定任务上技巧的熟练程度Y轴上
at this graph on the x-axis you have how skilled you are at that particular task
是你认为任务的难度
on the y-axis you have the perceived difficulty of the task
正如你所见
as you can see you are
当你在做有挑战性但在你当前水平又可达到的任务时
most likely to achieve flow when you doing something
你更容易达到「心流」
that’s challenging but also achievable with your skill level
如果对于你的能力过于困难
if it’s too challenging for your skill set
你会焦虑而无法享受其中
you become anxious and won’t enjoy yourself
另一方面如果对你太容易
on the other hand if it’s too easy for you
你又会觉得无聊
you’ll find yourself bored again
因为你没有100%的参与其中
because you’re not a hundred percent engaged in the activity
所以你需要找到平衡
so you need to find a balance now
如你所见 这中间还有很多其他情绪
as you can see there are a couple of motions in between
但最糟糕的是冷漠
but the worst would be apathy
这才是我们犯错误的地方 因为当我们厌倦时
this is where we go wrong because when we’re bored
我们诉诸像浏览网页这样
we resort to passive activities
的被动活动来打发时间然而
like browsing the internet to pass time
他们不会给我们多少愉悦感
however they don’t bring us as much satisfaction
因为这没有任何技巧和挑战可言
because there’s no skill or challenge involved
而且
furthermore
还有证据表明体验
there is evidence to show
「心流」会带来更好的生活满意度
that experiencing flow leeds to better life satisfaction
一项研究中 研究者追踪参与者每天的生活
in one study researchers followed the daily lives of participants
通过一天中随机时间的电子信号
via electronic messaging at random times throughout the day
他们可以问参与者他们正在做的事情
they would ask them what they were doing
感到的难度和对应能力水平结果
and the perceived challenge and skill level of the task
那些体验更多「心流」的人更加快乐
turns out those who experience more flow reported being happier
更有创造力 更兴奋和更加积极
more creative more excited and more motivated
其他的话
if anything this teaches us
这告诉我们保持自我挑战
that it’s important to keep challenging our selves
对活得更加充实与有意义的重要性总之
in order to live rich and meaningful life
如果你感到厌倦 不要太绝望
overall if you’re feeling bored don’t despair too much instead
相反你处于需要
you are at a sign
探索新事物的信号下
that you need to start exploring new things
我的建议是找到值得做的项目
my advice would be to find a worthy project,
爱好或者任务
hobby or task
在其中尝试获得「心流」
and try to achieve flow in them

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