We’re surrounded by some powerful ideas about the sort of things
that will make us happy.
We tend to think that really to deliver satisfaction,
the pleasures we should aim for need to be: rare
We’ve inherited a Romantic suspicion of the ordinary
(which is taken to be mediocre,dull and uninspiring)
and work with a corresponding assumption that things that are unique,
hard to find, exotic, or unfamiliar are naturally fitted to delight us more.
随之 我们认为 特别就是要贵
Then we want things to be expensive,
We like economic endorsement.
If something is cheap or free, it’s a little harder to appreciate;
the pineapple (for instance) dropped off a lot of people’s wish list of fruit
因为 以前 得花几百磅才买得起的菠萝
When its price fell from exorbitant (they used to cost the equivalent of hundreds of pounds)
Caviar continues to sound somehow more interesting than chicken eggs.
当然 我们认为特别 就是要有名气
Then we want things to be famous,
in a fascinating experiment a celebrated violinist once donned scruffy clothes
and busked at a street corner and was largely ignored,
though people would flock to the world’s great concert halls
to hear just the same man play just the same pieces.
最后一条 我们认为特别 就是要规模大
Lastly we want things to be Large Scale,
We aremostly focused on big schemes,
that we hope will deliver big kinds of enjoyment:
例如 结婚 事业 旅游 新家
marriage, career, travel, getting a new house.
These approaches aren’t entirely wrong,
but unwittingly they collectively exhibit a vicious
and unhelpful bias against the cheap, the easily available,
the ordinary the familiar and the small-scale.
As a result: if someone says they’ve been on a trip to Belize by private jet
We automatically assume they had a better time than someone who went to the local park by bike
We imagine that visiting the Uffizi gallery in Florence is always going to be nicer
than reading a paperback novel in the back garden.
A restaurant dinner at which Lobster Thermidor served
sounds a good deal more impressive than a supper of a cheese sandwich at home
it feels more normal that the highlight of a weekend should be a hang-gliding lesson,
rather than a few minutes spent looking at the cloudy sky
It feels odd to suggest that a modest vase of lily of the valley
(the cheapest bloom at many florists)
might yield more satisfaction than a Van Gogh original.
And yet the paradoxical and cheering aspect of pleasure
is how weird and promiscuous it proves to be.
It doesn’t neatly collect in the most expensive boutiques.
It can refuse to stick with us on fancy holidays.
显然的是 小情绪 生闷气 发脾气 都能轻易毁掉我们的幸福感
It is remarkably vulnerable to emotional trouble, sulks and casual bad moods.
A fight that began with a small disagreement
about how to pronounce a word can end up destroying every benefit of a five star resort.
小事儿也许带来的愉悦感很微弱 例如 吃点美食 洗个澡
A pleasure may look very minor – eating a fig, having a bath,
whispering in bed in the dark, talking to a grandparent,
or scanning through old photos of when you were a child
and yet these pleasures can be anything but small:
if properly grasped and elaborated upon,
these sort of activities may be among the most moving and satisfying we can have.
Appreciating what is to hand isn’t a slacker’s solution.
It isn’t an attack on ambition.
But there is no point in chasing the future
Until and unless we are better at being more attuned to the modest moments and things
that are presently or readily available to us.
More fundamentally, the smallness of small pleasures
isn’t really an assessment of how much they have to offer us:
It’s a reflection of how many good things the world unfairly neglects.
A small pleasure is a great pleasure in-waiting;
It is a great pleasure which has not yet received the collective acknowledgment it is due.
体会那些身边绝妙的信息 代表 我们更加相信努力是会有回报的
Appreciating small pleasures means trusting our own responses a little more.
We can’t wait for everything that is lovely and charming
to be approved by others before we allow ourselves to be enchanted.
We need to follow the muted signals of our own brains
and allow that we are onto something important,
even though others may not yet be in agreement.