There’s something called”motherhood penalty ”
and essentially it shows that
a mother’s earnings dramatically decreaseafter having one baby.
有了第二 三 四个孩子后 收入会继续减少
They continue to decrease after two and threeand four.
When you look at fathers and you look at those same charts
they ’ re barely impacted in terms of their pay.
You know some of this is tied really directly
with just generally the pay gap between men and women in the United States.
当然 讽刺的是 当你想看看谁在工作中表现良好时
The irony, of course,is that when you look at who actually performs well at work,
women come back to work more capable than they were
before they left in many, many cases.
So they are, they have an end,
an end hard and stop to their day, right?
but this actually makes them more efficient
If they have been home at leave,
if they ’ ve been home with a baby on leave
that baby has been the toughest drill sergeant boss you will ever have in your life
and has taught them to pivot between tasks without really any transition time between.
You know, baby needs one thing,
孩子要那个 你要去 你要去 你要去 你要做
baby needs the next thing, you go, you go, you go, you do.
And that directly translates,
it ’ s been shown by women when they come back to work
they don’t need transition time betweentasks.
所以你会听到很多女性说 “噢 我现在效率更高了 因为我的一天变短了”
So you hear a lot of women say like “ Oh, I ’ m more efficient because my day is shorter. ”
Well actually they ’ re more efficient because they don ’ t need that kind of transition time between tasks.
They compress things and they do things really efficiently—like actually the real definition of efficient.
Women also sometimes like to say – and I think sometimes we undersell ourselves—
“噢 成为母亲后 我更加善于拒绝了”
They say “ Oh, after parenthood I am much better at saying no to things. ”
And that is true and that is valid.
But I also ask the women who I speak to
回过头来想想 没错 你善于拒绝 这没什么
to turn that around as well. So yes, you’re better at saying no to things that don ’ t matter,
that aren ’ t going to ultimately benefit your company, benefit your life,
help move you along in your career fine.
However, when a new working mom says yes to something,
—whether it is you know going out with some colleagues you know for a networking drink after work
or it is going for a big promotion or taking on a big new client—
when a new working mum says yes to something, she has done that compromise already
that “compromise math” is whatI call it in her head to figure out: “How am I going to make this work?
What am I going to steal time away from so that I can say yes to this?
so that by the time she gets to say yes,it’s an incredibly strong,incredibly real dedicated yes.”
And I think that you know so much of the way we present ourselves coming back to work
is require an internalization and an understanding of our strengths
and what we can contribute to the workplace.