Why do we treat old people like babies? That’s ageism.
Elderspeak is a term coined by Yale psychologist Becca Levy
for the condescending language that so many people revert to.
Almost like baby talk for older people.
亲爱的 甜心 宝贝儿……
Honey, sweety, deary…
That is condescending and diminishing.
And no one likes to be condescended to, of course.
Her studies show that people, who are spoken to in this way,
actually start to think and move and act differently,
even people with severe dementia.
You might assume he wouldn’t be perceptive to that.
Nobody likes to be condescended to,
and certainly older people are no exception.
In the US,
it is really rare to be at an event that includes all ages.
Unless it’s a family gathering or a big social event
like maybe a sports event or larger something.
And it didn’t use to be this way.
In…as recently as 150 years ago
大多数美国人 可能不知道他们的年龄 不庆祝他们的生日
most Americans em…might not even know their age,didn’t celeberate their birthdays.
And then it began to be, along with the Industrial Revolution,
age began to become important.
It’s started to be used as a legal indicator of
来决定你什么时候可以做什么 结婚 上学
when you could have access for things. Marry, go to school.
School began to be divided into grades.
Nursery school came into existence,
Old People’s Homes came into existence.
当所有这些机构 有了教育 隔离的作用时
And when and all those institutions has the effect of fostering segregation,
人们开始与同龄人交往 接受教育 等等
people started to socialize and be educated and so on with their age peers.
And when you have segregation,
you foster discrimination.
So ageism came along.
And it is really really important to question why,
if you are in a room
and everyone is the same age,
why is that the case?
And unless there is a good reason to reach across age boundaries.
We have this idea that age is a huge gap.
But in fact
age tells you very very little
about what a person is interested in or capable of.
It’s a much smaller gap than class I think.
Or than a lot of um…
you know other things that shape who we are
and how we are in the world.
Ageism is based on stereotypes, of course.
The assumption that all members of a group are alike,
当然 这从来就不准确 也从来就不正确
which is, of course, never accurate and…never…right.
Very specially down when it comes to aging.
Because the longer we live
the more different from one another we become.
You know, a group of seven-year olds,
obviously, each seven-year old is unique,
but they have a lot more in common developmentally and socially
than a group of seventeen year olds,
who are way more homogenized than forty seven-year olds and so on.
So we tend to think of all older people as like old.
As though they, you know, reluctant into some category,
which is one reason I so hardly dislike the term the elderly.
As though you some how,you know, fall of the cliff one day
and get lump with all these same, you know,
同样的长相 同样的行为 同样的想法
same looking and same acting, and same thinking older people.
事实上 我们越老 我们就越不一样
When in fact the older we are the more heterogeneous we are
and the less our chronological age says about us.