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你的爱之语言是什么?

What is Your Love Language?

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你的爱之语言是什么?
What is your love language?
两性关系专家盖瑞·查普曼 《爱的五种语言》的作者
Relationship counselor Gary Chapman, author of Five Love Languages,
经过35年的婚姻咨询 得出了结论
concluded after 35 years of marriage counselling
从本质上来说 人们会用五种爱之语言
that there are essentially five emotional love languages
来表达 展示和理解爱
in which people can speak, show and understand love.
恋爱中的人通常有不同的爱的语言
People in relationships often have different love languages,
这就是为什么随着时间的推移
which is why as couples progress over time,
夫妻情侣之间会因为误解
they may run into conflicts when they feel misunderstood,
忽视或者不和而出现分歧
neglected or smoothered.
当两人爱的语言出现冲突时 他们常会想
Common thoughts people may have when their love languages clash are
“要是他能用我爱他的方式爱我就好了”
‘I wish he could love me the way I do’,
以及“要是她能多给我一点空间就好了”
and ‘If only she could give me more space’.
听起来耳熟吗?
Does this sound familiar to you?
为了维持恋爱关系
Understanding how the two of you communicate love is
理解两人表达爱的方式十分重要
important in order to grow together in your relationship.
以下是查普曼的五种爱的语言
Here are Chapman’s five types of love languages.
第一 肯定词
One, words of affirmation.
这类爱的语言涉及到
This type of love language involves the use of
使用表达爱意的语言
words to show that you love someone.
喜欢这类爱的语言的人
Someone who prefers this love language would
会很乐意听你说“我爱你”或其它情话
rather hear you say ‘I love you’ and other compliments.
他们重视鼓励的话语
They value uplifting words that
这证明你支持她们 体贴她们
demonstrate you are supportive and considerate of them.
严厉 消极和侮辱的话就不要说了
Harsh, negative and insulting comments should be avoided.
因为很伤人 也很难被轻易忘记和原谅
Because they cut deeply and aren’t easily forgotten or forgiven.
第二 有质量的陪伴
Two, quality time.
这种爱的语言就是要求你一心一意地对待伴侣
This love language involves giving your parterner your undivided attention.
不像说肯定词的那种
Unlike using words of affirmation,
喜欢这种爱的语言的人更喜欢
someone with this love language would appreciate it more
伴侣花时间陪着他们
if their partner spends time with them.
随着年龄越来越大 责任也越来越大
It’s normal for schedules to fill up as you get older
日程表被填的很满很正常
with more responsibilities on our plate.
但是抽出时间留给自己和爱人也很重要
But it’s important that you make time in between to be with your lover.
三心二意 推迟约会或者不用心倾听
Distractions, postpone dates or failing to listen attentively
都会让他们感到受伤和失望
can all make these individuals feel hurt and disappointed.
第三 收到礼物
Three, receiving gifts.
喜欢这种爱的语言的人收到礼物会感到被爱
Someone with this love language prefers receiving gifts to feel loved.
但这并不意味着他们拜金
This doesn’t necessarily mean that the person is materialistic.
当知道你花心思买东西时
They most likely find it meaningful or thoughtful when they know you’ve
他们会觉得很有意义或感到你很体贴
stumbled upon something that reminded you of that.
你花时间挑选适合他们的礼物时
It makes them feel appreciated
他们会觉得自己被重视着
when you take the time to find something right just for them.
礼物贵不贵或者
It’s not about how expensive the gift is,
是不是设计师品牌不重要
or whether it’s a designer brand.
相反 他们在乎的是你有多了解他们
Instead, the individual cares more about how much you know them.
第四 调查活动
Four, acts of surveys.
你听说过这句话吗
Have you ever heard of the saying
“事实胜于雄辩”?
‘Actions speaker louder than words?’
喜欢这类爱的语言的人
For people with this love language,
这句话就是为他们量身定做的
this particular quote fits them perfectly.
这类人更喜欢伴侣在事情变得复杂的时候
These individuals prefer their partners to help them out
伸出援手帮助他们
when things get complicated in life.
帮助他们是获得他们芳心的最好办法
Lending a helping hand is the best way to win their heart.
最好不要违背诺言
It’s best advice not to make broken promises,
表现得懒散或者缺乏职业道德
show laziness or have a poor work ethic.
喜欢这类爱的语言的人会感激你的帮助
People with this love language often appreciate the favors you do for them,
重视你的努力 这表明你心里有他们
and value any hard work you do that shows you were thinking about them.
第五 身体接触
Five, physical touch.
喜欢这类爱的语言的人每天都离不开肢体接触
This love language involves everyday physical connection,
比如牵手 拥抱 依偎 亲吻
such as hand holding, hugging, cuddling, kissing,
以及其他示爱的肢体动作
and any other type of reaffirming physical contact.
喜欢这类爱的语言的人相比于
People who identify with this love language prefer affectionate touch as
溢美之词更喜欢肢体接触
overkind words and compliments.
但这并不意味着他们喜欢公共场合秀恩爱
This doesn’t necessarily mean they are aggressive about public displays of affection.
但是更多地和他们接触会让他们
But being touchy-feely with them does make these individuals
感受到爱和欣赏
feel loved and appreciated.
任何形式的身体虐待或非善意接触都是他们不能忍的
Any form of physical abuse or harsh touching is never tolerated from them.
你喜欢哪种爱的语言呢?
Which of these types is your love language?
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Thanks for watching.

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