People always want to sell something
when it comes to weight loss and health, right!
So they reinvent the wheel for that reason.
I’m sure you’ve seen a variety of fad diets
你知道的 像是 噢 我们现在马上要做素食主义者
whether it’s oh, you know, right now we are going vegan.
Wait! no! We’re going paleoWait! No!
It’s thirty-thirty-forty equal portions of everything.
Wait a second!
We can do everything but eat beans.
It just, it always goes on and on and on.
And the reality is that
weight loss, weight maintenance, is simple science.
It’s eat less, move more…
Food that you consume has calories in it.
Calories are units of energy.
Energy that does not get burned, gets stored as fat. Fat is stored energy.
And then obviously use common sense with your food choices.
We all know not to eat things in our food that is not food.
假脂肪 假香料 假糖 等等
Fake fat, fake flavor, fake sugar, and so on.
So, in reality if it’s this simple being healthy,
why do so many struggle with it?
And that’s because people utilize food for a variety of emotional reasons.
Whether it’s a coping mechanism
or whether it’s affording them a deeper connection
with another individual in their lives.
And that’s what we have to get to the bottom of.
And I remember somebody once said to me people are fat because they want to be fat.
And I remember going what an a-hole you are.
And the more I thought about it the more I realized it was true.
The more I began to work with people who were overweight,
the more I began to see what it meant to them.
And it could’ve been a connection with a parent.
It could’ve been a connection to grieving the loss of somebody
and feeling like if you stop eating like this
you’ve moved on with your life and you’re no longer connected to them.
It could be a sense of control.
It could be a defense machianism against being vulnerable and getting hurt in relationships.
But that is one of the reasons that losing weight or getting healthy is so difficult,
because it requires us to give up something that has been providing comfort
and defense against hurt for a very long time.
这并不是因为人们很脆弱 或是愚蠢 懒惰 又或者是天生肥胖
It’s not because people are weak, or stupid, or lazy, or genetically fat.
It’s funny I asked people a lot of times,
right and if I was to ask you right now
why is it that you want to be healthy?
And I would always ask contestants on The Biggest Loser, first day right.
And they would show up
and they would get on the scale- because they would get on the scale
before they ever had their first workout
and they would be like I’m changing my life.
I’m never going to see this number again.
I’m changing the world.
我正在改变我的邻里 我的学校 我的家庭 我的伴侣
I’m changing my neighborhood, my school, my family and my partner,
my.. so on and so forth , right?
Five minutes into the first workout
they are rolling on the floor, they are crawling for the door,
they are crying…
They’re throwing up.
那个时候我的反应就是 行 那么现在你是为什么而来？
And in that moment I was like okay, so now why did you come here?
Why…did you want to come to this place?
This place is not easy. Being healthy is hard work.
What is it?
And they would say
我 我只是想要变得健康 然后我就可以变得更好
well I would, I just want to be healthy. And I would go great,
What does that mean to you?
And then I would get like the Scooby- Doo.
know-wow!!It was ruff.
And people don’t think about it.
They really don’t know.
If I was to ask you right now
what does health look like in your life?
What’s your answer?
Is it I want to wear a two piece
穿两件式套装而不是连衣裙 因为我22岁了 吗？
instead of a one piece at spring break because I’m 22.
或者是 我想看到我孙子大学毕业 因为我62岁了 吗？
Or is it I want to see my grandchildren graduate from college, because I’m 62.
又或者是 你知道吗？我想开着灯啪啪啪 吗？
Or is it you know what? I want to have sex with the lights on.
Which by the way, I think it’s tremendously overrated
but nevertheless, it’s not dark all the time.
Whatever your motivation is that’s what’s critical.
And it could be that you are a new mom.
It could be that you wanna wear skinny jeans.
It could be that you wanna run a marathon.
You need to think about
what ways health will improve the quality of your life,
because I’m gonna tell you right now
that getting healthy usually is displeasurable.
Most of us would rather be watching our favorite TV show
than sweating it out at the gym.
我们中的大多数 不是全部 但是有很大一部分
Most of us, not all, but most.
Most of us would prefer pizza to grilled salmon.
And so, in order for these behaviors in the moment
that are less than pleasurable to become managable
you’ve got to have perspective and a long-term goal that’s worth it.
And we call that finding your why.
Um..there’s a great quote.
If you have a why to live for, you can tolerate the how
The how is the work and the sacrifice associated with the goal.
And so this is where you need to ask yourself some really powerful questions of
what is it that I want for myself in detail?
What do I want for my future?
How do I see this improving the quality of my life?
And you might find in the beginning,
you draw a complete blank.
And the reason for this is because so many of us live
in the way that we think we should,
that we’ve forgotten what it is we really want.
So I have an exercise for you.
I want you for the next two weeks
to set your alarm on the hour every hour, waking hours only.
I’m not a complete monster.
And when it goes off I want you to ask yourself
what you’re doing right now in the moment.
And then subsequently, how does it make you feel?
And by teaching yourself to become present
you’re better able to start identifying the things that you do want,
that you are passionate about,
and that will help you start to cultivate your why.