6 Types of Unhealthy Father-Son Relationships.
In romantic-comedy drama film,”Garden State”.
Main character,”Andrew” returns to his hometown to attend his mothers funeral.
Andrew’s father, a psychiatrist, blamed Andrew for his mothers’ death.
And put him on medications, to try and control his emotions.
之后 他让男主吃药 尝试控制安德鲁的情绪
Believing it was Andrew’s anger that triggered his mothers’ accident.
People often say,”Sons grow up to be as great as their fathers.”
But what about those of us who grew up without a dad?
Or had a tough upbringing from them?
或者即使有父亲 但成长经历艰难的人 该怎么办呢
We want to inform the public just how important it is to understand
how toxic family dynamics can affect the individual state of being.
Here are six types of unhealthy father-son relationships.
1.The absent father.
A special shout-out goes to”Coffee Drop”,
who mentioned the Absent Father in our recent video:
“6 Types of unhealthy Father-Daughter Relationships”
If you haven’t already, please check it out after this.
The Absent Father was never around when you needed him.
CEO and co-founder of Psych2Go,”Tai Kwong”, can strongly relate to this.
His father left Tai and his family when he was little.
Tai’s father is a business man, who is constantly sucked into his work.
There’s nothing wrong with being passionate about your career.
But his father has an unhealthy obsession with making money.
As a result, he lost sight on finding a purpose from his work,
causing him to spiral down a dark, empty hole.
Tai was never emotionally and physically nurtured by his father.
This abandonment can be detrimental
to the sons’ emotional and physical development over time.
Tai learned what not to become from his absent father.
And is passionate about growing Psych2Go into a bigger platform.
Hoping to raise mental health awareness
and help others who’ve been through similar struggles as him.
2.The Addict Father
The Addict Father is someone who struggles with some sort of addiction.
Whether it’s alcoholism, gambling, drug abuse, or pornography.
不管是酗酒 赌博 吸毒或者看黄片
Unfortunately, Tai also relates to this one.
Due to his fathers’ unhappiness and competitive nature
in being money-hungry, he struggles with alcoholism.
If you haven’t already, please check out our video later.
“7 Ways Alcoholic Parents Affect Their Children”
Sons with an addict father have a fear being of vulnerable,
because of their emotional instability their fathers instilled within their lives.
因为在他们生活中 父亲的潜移默化 让他们有了这种情感障碍
They are often scared to open up to others
afraid of being let down, hurt, and rejected.
This can strongly affect their ability to form close,
intimate friendships and relationships with romantic partners.
3.The Harsh Father
This type of father is overly-strict and tough on his son,
with frequent, angry outburts.
The family, often, does not feel safe
making mistakes and showing their flaws around them
The harsh father could be highly religious and expects everyone
in the household to follow his rules and regulations.
Sons who grow up with this type of father
usually feel like their upbringing was more constricting than life-giving.
Often, the harsh father guilt trips his son.
Blaming him for not being good enough,
rather than teaching him how to how to get better at something.
This type of father is usually moody, unpredictable,
and feared by his son.
4.The Performing Father
The performing father is someone who often immerses himself
in his work or hobbies.
He doesn’t enjoy sitting down with his kids and spending quality time with them.
Instead, he always feels like he has to keep busy and has a hard time relaxing.
相反 他常觉得自己手边一定要有很多事情 很难放松下来
The performing father is obsessed with performing well
and always pushes himself to get better.
goal-orientated, he focused on results, successes, and achievements.
他有自己的目的 专注于结果 成功和成就
In the workplace, he usually has a great reputation.
And many of his co-workers find him responsible, reliable, and level-headed.
很多同事都会觉得他工作负责 让人信赖 头脑冷静
At home, however, sons of the performing father feel neglected
and rarely ever get their own needs met.
As a result, they miss out learning important life skills.
And may struggle with low self-esteem issues.
Feeling like they can’t meet the high standards of their own father.
5.The Passive Father
Similar to the Performing Father,
the Passive Father also has a great work-ethic in the workplace.
But instead of being busy at home too,
the Passive Father leads a very uneventful life after he clocks out from work.
He leaves all the work and chores up to the mom
including picking up the kids from school
and spending quality time with them.
This father, although he’s still physically present in the family
he’s often emotionally distant
and doesn’t interact much with his son.
I grew up with a Passive Father and even to this day,
it’s hard for me to bond with him.
6.The Abusive Father
The Abusive Father forms intense emotional and physical wounds in the household.
He often mistreats his son through physical, verbal, emotional,
他经常打骂 侮辱 伤害孩子的感情
and/or sexual abuse.
This can take a massive toll on the sons emotional and physical development.
And can deeply hurt his self-esteem.
Often, sons of Abusive Fathers can grow up
either being abusive themselves or victims of abusive romantic relationships.
Which type of unhealthy father-son relationship do you resonate with?
We know how hard it is to talk about toxic family dynamics
and want be a safe, non-judgmental place for you.
我们希望在这里 你能感到安全 也不会别人指指点点
Please share your story with us down below.
We also want to remind you that
you are worth so much more than the mistreatment
you experienced in your childhood.
Toxic patterns are hard to break out of, but with enough heart, self-awareness,
我们很难打破这种有害的模式 但只要你足够用心 懂得自我认知
and courage they can be conquered.
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6 Types of Unhealthy Father-Son Relationships.