So how do you find what you were meant to create and that’s extremely hard. I talked
to a lot of folks who feel lost in understanding what that might be. There’s two things that
I found for me that were really helpful. The first is to say yes to all the things that
you would normally say no to. And the more uncomfortable it makes you feel, the more
you should do it. So when I was struggling with this, I guess it was almost 15 years
我那时说 OK 我去找那种对我来说最荒唐的事来做
ago I said, "Okay, I’m just going to do anything ridiculous I could possibly do."
然后我就想 既然自己是个网瘾患者 平时不怎么出门
So as you could imagine I’m an Internet geek so I don’t go outside all that much.
那我就这样 OK 我去趟阿拉斯加 去野营
So I’m like, "Okay, I’m going to go to Alaska and I’m going to camping and I’m
going to do it with a bunch of strangers." I could not think of anything sort of more
terrifying than being around a bunch of people that I don’t know in the middle of the freezing
那里什么也没有 还冷得要命于是我去做了 那真的很棒
cold with nothing around. So I did that and it was amazing. It was so awesome. It was
so great. I went dumpster diving with a bunch of anarchists. That was really awesome. Yeah,
I might have gotten sick, but it was totally fine. I modeled for like an entire week and
that was horrifyingly awful. I learned very quickly that I hated that. But so that’s
The other way is not obvious at all. I found that in sharing your story with somebody else,
someone who doesn’t necessarily have to know you very well or they can — it doesn’t
really matter. But if you reflect back with someone else the story of your life — and
it can go on for hours and hours and hours they can start to tell you the themes that
emerge that you would never sort of see yourself. One of the things that’s challenging when
you’re extremely talented at something is that it’s really easy for you. And so you
generally don’t value it as much as that thing that’s really hard. And so somebody
else can see that in you frequently much better than you can. And what I found is just sharing
your story with each other, reflecting back. Oh like in my life community and connection
and the Internet and how all that connects together was a really big part of my life
and that helped me understand who I was and what I was uniquely meant to create here.
所以找到一个可以分享故事的人 — 一个好的倾听者 这真的
So finding one other person to share that with — a good listener — is another great
way to find it.