Was there ever something in your life
that you could just get completely lost in?
Or that you can do for hours on and
something where you lost all sense of time
and that almost felt like being in a weird trance state.
For you it might have been
电子游戏 体育运动 小说 或者Netflix的连续剧
a video game,a sport,a juicy novel or a Netflix series.
Most of us have experienced something like that at one point or another.
And the cause for that is really an obsessive or addictive tendency within us.
That makes us lose ourselves in certain activities.
Now if you were brought up in and heavily influenced by today’s modern society,
you know that the words obsession or addiction have a negative connotation.
They’re mostly used to describe people
or weird stalkers who get obsessed with a certain person.
理想的心理状态是 对待某件事物 应适可而止 不过度沉迷其中
The ideal mental process is that you should just be normal and not get too carried away with a certain subject.
And as soon as you show a little bit too much of an obsessive quality,
you are seen as mentally ill.
We have to use positive words,
like dedicated or committed,
to describe someone’s work ethic that might be seemed as obsessed.
but still they could be classified as a workaholic
Just like the old saying,everything is good in moderation.
What Grant Cardon tries to tell you with this book
is that in order to become really successful
and to reach your goals,
you have to disregard what society tells you.
You have to give yourself permission to be extremely obsessed or rather committed.
You have to allow yourself to become completely immersed in an area to reach greatness within it.
And yes there are a lot of people that will tell you
that it is wrong and
that you will only harm yourself or get birds out.
And they might actually just try to help you and
only want the best for you,
和你的父母 配偶 还有你的好朋友一样
like your parents your wife or husband or your best friends.
But what you have to understand
is that obsession or addiction itself is not bad for you.
It’s just another trait in a human’s character.
It only starts to be bad for you when you direct your obsession to harmful and unprofitable things.
显然 长远地看 毒品会严重影响你的生活
Drugs are obviously not something that will improve your life in the long run.
As is binge watching one TV series after
another or eating junk food every day.
But once you turn all your focus into
helpful and profitable activities,
like working out building wealth or education yourself,
you set yourself up for incredible success.
You now turn the same obsession that
made you like in grant Cardin’s case a
heavy drug addict into building the life
that you desire.
There is a general rule that tells you
whether your obsessions are healthy or
unhealthy an unhealthy obsession makes
you escape from reality
just think drugs TV video games.
A healthy obsession makes you turn your
desires and dreams into reality,
like building wealth,training to get the
body you want or working on your
relationships.Just look at the defining
people in history they were all obsessed
a Martin Luther King obsessed with
establishing equality in the United
States a Muhammad Ali obsessed with
being the greatest boxer of all time and
yes a Hitler obsessed with conquering
the world or a part of it and even in
Hitler’s case the obsession itself was
not the problem his goals and the misuse
of obsession was the problem you cannot
deny the effectiveness and impact he
was able to make through his
obsessiveness throughout history we can
learn from great leaders but we can also
learn a lot from failed and horrible
leaders obsessive behavior towards the
goal is really a superpower and just
like with every other superpower it can
be used for evil or for good I highly
recommend using it for your own good as
well as the good of others you might ask
now how does one get obsessed with
something especially obsessed with
things that are helpful and can bring
you a better life well first of all you
have to figure out what you want to have
happen in your life you should know that
in every single area how much money do
you want to have what lifestyle do you
want to live do you want to get married
have kids you just have to be certain
about what you want your life to be like
and this is where visualization from our
other videos will come into play only
from there can you start to use
obsession as a positive tool and then
you have to be obsessive about goal
setting as well don’t just see goals as
a nice thing to do that you write down
one day and look at once in a while no
you have to really breathe your goals
write them down every morning and read
them again before you go to sleep you
have to be laser focused on your goals
in that way you are constantly reminding
yourself about what needs to happen to
make sure you are not wandering around
with no clear direction like most people
the next thing you need to do is what
Grant Cardone calls feeding the beasts
and the Beast that is your obsession
Grant explains that what we pay
attention to is what we get a one-line
definition of the law of attraction and
the more attention we give something the
more we feed it the stronger and more
powerful it grows in life it is vital to
pay attention to the things and people
that are working for and with you and
ignore the things and people that are
not so what feeds you the success feed
you is reaching your potential feed you
what drives you to reach your goals what
is your why do you want to have a lot of
money so that you can have the freedom
to do whatever you want to do and make
sure that every action you take lead you
to your desired outcome right these
positive actions down so that you
remember what it takes for you to feed
the beast at the same time you have to
starve the doubt as Cardone describes it
he says doubt is the dream killer doubt
is the most dangerous and insidious form
of mental terrorism on this planet it’s
one of the biggest reasons why people
don’t become successful and if you don’t
want to be one of them you better do
everything you can in order to eliminate
doubt in your life and that includes the
thoughts that you allow yourself to
think the people you let in your life
and the actions you decide to take let’s
use an example from earlier you have
decided to become wealthy not just
normal wealthy but wealthy enough to
compete with Bill Gates and Carlos Slim
what thoughts are you thinking on a
daily basis do you think about how
awesome it is going to be to have
freedom or are you worried about failing
and being laughed at by your friends and
family what people view leading your
life are they encouraging you and are
possibly trying to reach their own goals
or are they doubting you and are trying
to tell you that it’s impossible and
then what kind of actions are you taking
do you take calculated risks in order to
advance or are you too afraid to even
get started like with things that feed
your beast write down everything you
don’t want in your life and that doesn’t
help you on your journey to success and
then cut that stuff out completely and
throw away the paper lastly keep
refueling your obsessions the best way
to do that is to always keep updating
your goals never think you have made it
那么目标于你 就是常新的 就是待攻克的
there are always new things to conquer
that you can get obsessed about and
constantly repeating this cycle is the
only way you can figure out how great
your potential actually is so let’s
review all the things we talked about
痴迷本身 于现在而言 无益
today obsession itself is neither good
it’s what you use it for that determines
that to figure out whether your
obsession is good or bad use the rule
that once you escape reality good is
when you turn your dreams into reality
give yourself permission to be obsessed
even if society tells you it’s wrong
obsession is a superpower that all the
defining people in history have used to
fulfill their dreams know exactly what
you want in life in order to use
obsession to your advantage
feed the beast or fill your life with
things that help you reach your goals
starve the doubt or cut everything out
that hinders you on that journey and
lastly keep refueling your obsession
then constantly set new goals because
nobody has ever made it there is always
more to conquer