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如何活成浊世中的一股清流?

This Monk Will Change Your Worldview - A Chilling Message By Jay Shetty

我是一个幸运至极的人
I was really really fortunate
很早以前我就开始尝试
that very early on I started to experiment with
那些对我来说意义非凡的事情
what mattered to me.
大家可能不知道 我曾经
What people don’t know about me is that I was suspended
三次辍学
from school three times
就为了去尝试各种各样的
for trying out all sorts of things like things that
常人难以想象的事情
people would never imagine if someone who goes
比如 出家为僧
on to be a monk.
我还吸遍了世界上几乎所有毒品
I was experimenting with all the drugs in the world.
有多次感情经历
I had multiple relationships.
我一直在寻找某种满足感 或意义
I was really trying to search for some sort
我一直知道我是在寻找刺激
of meaning fulfillment and as far as long as I’ve known I’ve been chasing
而我的父母却劝诫我
thrilled and my parents rhetoric would always be
要成绩好
well make sure you get good grades.
但18岁那年 我有幸结识了一位僧人
And at 18 I was really fortunate when I met a monk
当时这位僧人出席一次讲学
and this monk was invited to speak
而我的一个朋友
and I kind of just went because one of
硬要拽着我一起去
my friends forced me to.
当时我听了许多CEO 企业家
At that time I was listening to CEOs and entrepreneurs
商人还有营销商的见解
and business people and marketers you
我意识到我想成为他们那样的人
who I thought that’s what I was aspiring
然后我听了这位僧人的演说
to be like and then I hear this
他的言辞让我醍醐灌顶
monk and he captivated me like no one had ever captivated me before,
自此我开始改变自己
that was the beginning of what changed me
因为我之前的出发点是要成为那种
because I went from being someone who did
一切努力只为成功的人
only want all those things to become
一直汲汲于名利
successful and trying to.
我开始去倾听自己内心的声音
But I started hearing my own inner voice much more and
倾听我周围的声音
all that noise that I had around me. I remember one
我记得父母当时为我请了一位数学家教
of my my parents had a
因为他们希望我在数学上能有突出成就
maths tutor for me because they wanted to be amazing at math. I’d have this
跟着这位家教学习的时候 他告诉我:
tutor and he’d tell me that he goes the reason
你之所以努力更上一层楼
that you’re struggling with the
是因为你耿耿于怀于 父母的看法
next question is because you’re always worried about what your parents think
之后这句话就在我的脑海里回荡
and and that really stayed in my head.
我就想 哇 原来我一直 被父母的看法所左右
I was just like wow so as long as I’m trapped by what my parents think.
这样下去我不可能找到 人生的真相
I can actually never find the answers to the real questions of life and it was kind
整理这些零碎想法的过程中
of like this collation of little things
我思考了一些事情:
that just made me think
对我来说 拥有金钱和名誉 好像并没有让我的人生增值
wait a minute having money having Fame this that just doesn’t seem to add up and then
遇见这位僧人后 我更坚定了这种想法
and then meeting the monk kind of made that shift possible.
我说过 他简直让我惊掉了下巴
And as I said he was completely captivating and then I found out that
因为 他放弃了在谷歌和微软的工作机会 出家当了僧人
he’d given up jobs in Google and Microsoft to be a monk, and I thought to
然后我就在想他这样做的意义
myself who does that.
你看 他放弃了 我和我的朋友们梦寐以求的东西
You know he’s given up everything that I’m chasing and all my friends are chasing but he
但是他看起来比我见到的任何一个人都快乐
seems happier than anyone I’ve ever met before.
然后他告诉我们 人生在世应该秉承一个原则:
And he spoke about this incredible principle where he said that we should
我们不能抱着前人种树 我好乘凉的心理
plant trees under whose shade, we do not
而要贡献自己的一份心力
plan to sit, and he was speaking about
意思就是我们要无私奉献
this principle of selfless sacrifice and I kind
他的话深入我心
of just penetrated me right there.
他的一席话 让我的心灵产生了 前所未有的震撼
When he said the words selfless sacrifice for the first time in my life I felt a thrill about something that I’d never felt before.
哇 放弃自己所有的一切 去为他人服务
Wow, giving up everything you have for the service of others
听起来就是最崇高的事业
sounds like the best thing you could possibly do.
我不知道自己为什么会有这样的想法
And I don’t know why I had that thought because I wasn’t a
因为我的教养无关精神满足 无关宗教虔诚
spiritual kid growing up I wasn’t a religious kid growing up I wasn’t even a
我甚至不是一个好孩子
good kid growing up.
我有一些比我年长的朋友
I’ve always had friends who are older than me and
他们中的许多人
I could see a lot of them
有着一帆风顺的事业 了不起的职业
in the most successful careers successful jobs
还有很合拍的伴侣等等
beautiful partners whatever it was.
但是我能感觉到他们生命中缺乏 满足感 意义以及目的
But I saw a sense of lack of fulfillment meaning and purpose in their lives and
我一直是一个出色的观察者
I’ve always been an observer and I would
我关注着那些年长我五岁的人
see these people are like five years older
关注那些年长我七岁的人
than me seven years older than me
甚至那些年长我十岁的人
maybe ten years older
他们过着那种我并不向往的生活
than me and I’d be watching them though it’s bad the life I
现在我常常建议别人
want and often the advice I
要用长远的眼光看待自己的位置
give to people today is fast-forward where you are.
想象一下10年 15 年 20年以后的自己 然后问问自己:
Look at yourself in 10 15 20 years time and ask yourself the question is
那就是我期待的样子吗?
that where I want to be?
如果你是一个公司职员
If you’re in a company look at the person who’s 20
就看一下那些比你资历老20年的老员工 然后问一下自己:
years ahead of you and ask yourself is
这就是我想成为的人吗?
that where I want to be?
如果你是一个创业者
If you’re in a start-up look at where other startups
就看看那些和你处在相似位置的前辈 然后问自己:
have got to in similar roles and go is
这就是我想成为的人吗?
that where I want to be?
如果答案是否定的 那你就需要给自己重新找一个定位
And if the answer’s no and you need to find a new part.
而对于那个时候的我来说 答案就是否定的
And for me the answer at that time from observing was no.
我所走的道路是父母 社会 大学 以及我所在的群体为我指定的
The path that my parents or society or the university I went to or the community I had that was carving out for me.
这绝不是我想走的路
It didn’t feel like the path for me
所以我试图寻找另一条路 另一条全新的路
so I was almost seeking an alternative or a new path
我很幸运地找到了这条路
I was just so fortunate that it happened to
它极具力量 激励着我
be an uplifting powerful path as opposed to
而不是把我引入歧途
something that could’ve actually taking me down the wrong road
毕竟在这个世界上歧路太多了
because that could have been possible to.
我们就好像住在一个回音室里
See we live in echo chambers
周围都是相同的思想
we’re just surrounded by the same thinking
所以我觉得找到正确道路的第一步就是
so for me the first step is just opening yourself up to new
去体验全新的事物 扮演全新的角色
experiences and new role models
因为我们并不太可能在他人的世界里发现自我
because most of us can’t see ourselves in people
在他人的世界里我们只能循规蹈矩地活着
so then we try and fit ourselves into the boxes that we do see.
有这么一句金玉良言
And and I mean there’s this beautiful quote that
我经常提到这句话 真希望它是出自我之手
I’ve been saying it everywhere and I wish I
但我并非原创
wrote it but I didn’t so it’s
这句话出自于哲学家兼作家库利:
by a philosopher and writer named Cooley and
我不是 我眼中的我
he said that today I’m not what I think
也不是 你眼中的我
I am, I’m not what you think I am,
我是 我认为的 你眼中的我
I am what I think you think I am
我不是我眼中的我 也不是你眼中的我
I’m not what I think I am I’m not what you think I am
我是我认为的你眼中的我
I am what I think you think I am.
我们总是活在以他人对我们的认知为基础的自我认知里
So we live in this perception of a perception of ourselves
因此我的身份是父母强加于我的
hence my identity is made by what my parents think I should be
是我所在的学院或大学强加于我的
my identity is made up by what my college or university thinks I should achieve.
如果你活在条条框框中
While you’re living in that bubble and that echo chamber
那么想达到你的心之所向 是不可能的
getting to what you really want to do is impossible
因为这些条条框框或许并不适合你
because maybe that just doesn’t fit and I think so many people feel
我相信很多人都有同感
that way today
有些人并不适合现行的教育体系
that they don’t fit into the current education system
他们并不适应现存的 三年 四年 或五年的学业制度
they don’t fit with the three or four or five careers that you’re taught exist.
所以自我挖掘和自我实现的首要要求就是 要有眼界
So that process of self excavation and actualization first requires being exposed
眼界决定了高度
you can’t be what you can’t see
如果我未曾结识这位僧人
if I never saw a monk I would
我就永远不会想成为一个僧人
never have wanted to be a monk
如果我不曾遇到亿万富翁 我就不会想去成为其中的一员
if I never meet a billionaire I wouldn’t want to be one
因为我无法身临其境 体验他的感受
because I don’t know what that feels like I don’t know what it looks like
也不知道怎样才能成为他
I don’t know what it takes and and I think that’s
我觉得我们这个社会中最大的问题就是
the biggest challenge of our society that
眼界太低
we’re not exposed.
所以第一步就是要去体验一些
So that’s the first step being exposed to unique experiences
特别的经历和角色
and role models.
第二步就是从这些经历和角色中找到你真正钟爱的
Second step is finding that experience or role model that
所以你要以认真的态度
you’re passionate about exactly like you said
进入那些人的人际网络
taking it seriously shatter their network
和他们一起共度时光
with them spend time with them
哪怕是在远处观察他们也行
observe them even from afar.
也就是说观察很重要
It takes that observation being addicted to
要认真地观察他人的生活方式
observing that person’s lifestyle and
第三步就是扪心自问 这种生活方式是否适合自己
then the third step is going yes or not does that work for me
并非所有想要出家为僧的人都觉得 僧人的生活方式很酷
not everyone who’s gonna go out from the camera monk is gonna feel like the way I did and that’s cool
并非所有想要成为亿万富翁的人都觉得 亿万富翁的生活方式正是我想要的
but not everyone is gonna go and follow and shadow a billion anger that’s exactly the lifestyle I want.
因为他们只想要结果
They may want the result but do they want the
并不想为之付出努力
hard work that goes with it
对我来说这就是第三步
and so for me that’s the third step.
就是要观察 关注 跟随 接近 他们的生活过程
It’s observing focusing shadowing getting as close to the process of that individual
然后确定我想要的是过程 而非结果
and then going yes or no do I want that process not do I want the result.
要有足够的心智和胆量
To be able to train the mind and energy to focus it
去关注你想要的定位
exactly where you want it and
去关注梦想达成的时间
when you want it to be
你要对外界的起起伏伏
you are completely detached and undeterred
抱着一种超然物外 不受影响的态度
from external ups and downs
你是不系之舟
you’re able to navigate anything that seems
两岸的狂风骤雨抑或鲜花绿荫
tough challenging fun excitement
都不能让你停留
with the same amount of being equipoised
要保持一颗淡然之心
and balanced an equanimity
不要沉醉于欢愉 也不要沉溺于伤痛
without being too excited in pleasure or being too depressed
要懂得如何掌控每一种情况
in pain but knowing how to navigate every situation to me
对我来说这就是最大的优势和能力
that’s great strength and great power
薄伽·梵歌有句诗说得很好:
there’s a beautiful verse in the Bhagavad Gita that says
超然物外并不代表你要一无所有
the attachment is not that you own nothing
而是没有什么能够主宰你
the attachment is that nothing owns you
我喜欢这句话的原因是
and I love it because to me
它很好地总结了某种程度上“超然物外”就是
that summarizes detachment in a way
不做无谓的解释
that it’s not usually explained usually
人们一般都把超然物外当成不食人间烟火
people see detachment as being away from everything
但实际上最牛逼的超然物外是沉浸于人间的烟火气之中
actually the greatest detachment has been close to everything
但又不让它消耗你的生命 主宰你的生活
and not letting it consume and own you
这才是真正的能力和优势
and that’s real power that’s real strength
声名鼎盛能让你名扬四海
how many people do we know that
也能把你毁得一塌糊涂
have had fame and then that fame has ruined them
我觉得超然物外的真正含义就是
so for me that definition of
即使面对现实世界也能以一贯之
detachment is possible to practice even
而不是故作淡定地说:
in the real world rather than saying oh
我就是想要安逸的生活 我甘愿我的人生一无所有
I’m just gonna have a really simple life I’m just gonna have nothing in life
要克服自己的自负
being able to overcome ego
要克服自己的眼红
being able to overcome envy
要克服自己的嫉妒
being able to overcome jealousy
要克服竞争中的消极心理
being able able to overcome the negative of competitive state
因为竞争中有积极心理 也会有消极心理
there’s a positive competitive state and there’s a negative competitive state.
当人们刷Instagram Facebook或YouTube的时候
Today when people are looking on Instagram or Facebook or YouTube
人们关注的是 哇 她有那么多赞
all you’re looking at is oh she got that many likes or he
或者他有那么多赞
that many likes
或者她订婚了 他结婚了
she got engaged or he got married
或者 天啊
or oh my god look
看她的傲人身材 看他英俊的外貌
at her body or look at that
这些嫉妒 自负 贪婪
and it’s like that stuff’s destroying us
正从内部摧毁我们
inside and the jealousy ego greed to be able to have
只有看淡这些才能使自己得到净化
enough clarity to purify yourself
才能缓解我们内心的焦虑和压抑
of those things is going to alleviate the biggest anxieties and depressions
才能解决心理健康问题
of our time and mental health problems and and
这些道理大家都懂
we know that we know that
因为现在有很多心理调查
because all the mental health research today
都表明
suggests
他人过度曝光的炫耀会让那些孤僻的人更加痛苦
that things like isolation over exposure we now can have more pain consumption in one day
而我们处在一个曝光度很大的社会
because of what we were exposed to
所以这种痛苦可能会延续人的一生
then the pain we would have had in a lifetime
这是个大问题
that’s huge
虽然细想起来很荒谬
like that that’s ridiculous to think
因为我们从社交媒体上的新闻中
that one day because of the media news
吸收了很多负面的东西
in social media we consume more negative
而人生实际上并没有这么无望
than we did in a lifetime.
对我来说 有时间 精力 澄澈的心境来自我净化
For me being able to have time energy and clarity to focus on self purification that is
是成为僧人的一大益处
the best thing about being a monk
因为你有时间反思自己
because you have that time reflection and
有那么一个环境来让你进行这样一个过程
a process and an environment that only
让你摆脱世俗烦扰 变得更加澄澈
allows you to become more purified of those things
而理想的生活就是
and ideal life is when we
我们拥有头脑 心灵 手段
all have a head a heart
这三者协调配合 并行工作
and a hand all three elements together working in alignment
缺一不可 否则我们就会若有所失
without one of the other we start to lose
所以首要的就是你的目光要明晰起来
something, so ahead is the clarity of vision
–要知道你想要什么 –对
what you want what you want
知道你想要的
knowing what you want
构画你的理想生活的蓝图 然后为之努力
the way you picture life and being able to navigate
下定决心到达理想的彼岸 这是好头脑的重要性
make the decisions to get there that’s a good head
而一颗优秀的心灵就是
a good heart is being able to
要理解你的直觉和心意
understand what your intuition and heart
能够沟通并探索你所构画的理想蓝图背后的深层含义
one’s being able to connect and tap it into that understanding deeper and beyond the vision you may have painted for yourself.
所以我经常告诉大家 现实生活中你所走的路
So I often say to people that you get to where you want in life
和你原先想的并不一样
just not in the way you imagine and that’s
因为现实中的道路是弯弯曲曲的
because the path that’s paved up and down
与我们想象中的大相径庭
is far different than the path we pave
所以如果你有好的头脑 好的视野 好的使命
so you can have a great head and a great vision and a great mission and
还有想要抵达的远方
know where you want to go
但是却没有足够坚韧的心灵去适应现实
but if your heart’s not able to have that resilience and be able to adapt
而且不能心怀悲悯和关怀
and and have compassion and care and all
那么你就不能很好地权衡那些真正艰难的决定
of that then then you’re not going to be able to make the toughest decisions without your heart
所以我们要怀着一颗
but to be able to realize that we
悲悯之心 坚韧之心
need to care and be sustainable
这样我们才能走得更远
and long-lasting requires a heart
而手就是提供服务的
and a hand is that service
你想拿出你所拥有的 通过给予和付出来服务他人
wanting to pass that on that which you have wanting to give it forward pay it forward the idea of serving with what you have.
我经常告诉人们
I often say to people your passion is
热情是留给自己的 目的是留给他人的
for you, your purpose is for others,
你的热情会让你快乐
your passion makes you happy
但当你用自己的热情去影响他人的生活
but when you use your passion to make a difference in someone else’s
这就达到了服务他人的目的
life that’s a service that’s a purpose and
这就是帮助
that’s the hand.
知道如何区别脑海中的声音
Knowing how to differentiate the voices in your head is
是自我觉醒的第一阶段
the first level of self-awareness
系统一是你对外界事物的 最初反应
the system one is your initial response to anything that happens
怎么说呢 觉个例子吧
it’s a stop that I can’t really say
比如你说了一些我不喜欢的话
so if you say something I don’t like
系统一就会自然地做出反应:
my system one naturally would be a face that I pull it I’m like
我不赞同你这个观点
I don’t agree with that that’s that’s the understanding
这就是系统一的理解力
of what system one in
它代表你某一时刻的最初的下意识的反应
its your initial default reaction in the moment
这种反应经常是有积极意义的
that can be positive often for
比如说 有个人拔出一把刀
example if someone pulls out a knife you
你很害怕 然后你跑掉了
feel scared and you run that system one
这是系统一的积极意义 能够让你更加安全
that’s a good thing it’s it’s safe for you
但是系统一也有消极意义
but also system one is someone says
比如别人说了伤害你自尊的话 你就会立刻反唇相讥
something that hurts your ego and youstart defending yourself immediately
这就是系统一负面的作用
that’s also that’s a negative system one
也就是说系统一建立在条件机制下
that we would refer to as the mind
这些反应是在一定条件下形成的
it’s built up of conditioning those responses are conditioned
而由于习惯和持续练习
those default elements are all there
这些下意识的因素早已存在
because of habit and continuous practice
而系统二和智慧相关
the system two is more like the intelligence what I would say is more
更像是一种教养所得
like the parent if you
如果你把系统一看成一个孩子
can be consider system one to be more like a child
那系统二就是父母
system two is more like a parent
系统二更长期 涵盖的面更广
it looks more at the long-term it looks more the bigger picture
在作出默认反应之前
it processes that default reaction through a set
系统二会进行一系列的审核和考量
of checking and metrics to decide
来思考此举是否得当
whether that’s true.
孩子总是想要立刻得到某些东西
The child is the the one that wants everything right away
迫不及待地 即刻反应地
impatient quickly responding
所求不得时 孩子会立刻而直接地表现出来
straight away reacting when he doesn’t get what he wants
而智慧的父母或者说系统二
the intelligent parent and good one
知道孩子想要什么 需要什么
knows what the child wants and needs and what’s better
什么从长远来看是最好的
for in the long term
所以要从理智开始
just starting there and being able to
反思并观察自我内部的不同声音
reflect and observe the different voices inside
这才是 自我意识开始觉醒的关键所在
of us is a great place to start your self-awareness
因为最大的问题就是
because the biggest challenge is that most
大多数人不知道聆听内心的声音
of us don’t know what we’re listening to and
他们甚至不知道
we don’t most of us don’t even know that there are more
自我内部有不止一种声音
than one voice inside of us
明白了这一点就是一个很大的胜利
just getting over that line is a huge win
因为现在的你 至少会试着区分听到的内容
because now at least you are trying to differentiate than what you’re hearing
这将帮助你在未来做出更好的决定
and that’s gonna help you make better decisions in the future
还有一个大问题就是
the biggest challenge is that there’s just
周围非常嘈杂
so much noise
比如说你家里有这样一个人
it’s like have you ever had someone in your home
或者是你的妻子 或者是你的朋友之类的
maybe it’s your wife or maybe it’s a friend or
他经常播放一首不好的歌
whatever just play a really bad song too often
一首很差劲的歌
just play a song and just think
你就会想着要去把它关掉
I’ll turn that off and after a while it’s
但是过了一会儿它还在响着 你就开始对它产生免疫力了
been on for so long that you become immune to it
这时候这首歌还在那里响着
like it’s just there and it’s still on
但是你已把它抛诸脑后 不准备去关掉了
it’s there in the back of your mind and you didn’t manage to turn it off.
而我所说的生活中的噪音
So the noise that I describe in life whether it’s your parents’
可能来自于父母 社会或者搭档的期待
expectations whether it’s society’sexpectations whether it’s your partner’s
这些期待就像噪音一样融进了背景
expectations, all of those are like noise in the background and that noise drowns
让你不知不觉地沉溺
out, your ability to understand the
削弱你理解心灵和智慧的能力
mind and the intelligence
这是一个最大的陷阱
that’s one of the biggest trip ups
我做过一个“简历撒谎”的调查
but the research that I was doing was around the most common
事实上
resume lies, the truth is
40%到50%的人
over 40 to 50 percent of us
都在简历中撒过谎
lie on our resumes and and I started
我想更深地挖掘他们撒谎的原因
to dig deeper and I was looking at you know
比如说很多人会在雇佣时间上撒谎
a lot of people lie about their dates and employment
本来只被雇佣了三天 却说成三个月之类的
so instead of three days it’s now three months you know whatever it may be.
所以我想找一下他们这样做的原因
Now I dug deep and I wanted to meet some
然后我约见了一些在简历中撒谎的人
of these people and speak to people and
并和他们做了一些交流
so I spoke to people who lie
反正承认自己在简历中撒谎的人不在少数
on their resumes and we know that at least 40 to
至少40%到50%的人都这样做了
50 percent tell us they do.
但这些人并没有引以为豪
Another thing is no one was proud of that no one no
没有人说:对啊 我就是撒谎了呀
one was like yeah yeah I know I’m gonna get
简历撒谎最终要归结到
really what it came down to is we’re
我们对自己能力的没把握
really insecure about our own abilities.
最终要归结到
We really want to came down to this we’re
我们对自己的简历的不自信
not confident about what we have to offer
这就涉及到了自我意识匮乏的问题
when it came down to the lack of self-awareness
我们对自己的了解并不够:
what it came down to is a lack of understanding
我擅长什么 我热爱什么
what am I good at what am I passionate
哪些计划被我提上了日程
about what am I bringing to the table
这些问题才是人们真正担心的
that’s what people were really worried about
表面上他们是在担心这份工作
they were worried about the job
但是当你往深处挖掘
but when you dug beneath the surface the real behavioral
这些行为特征背后蕴藏的
trait that was coming out was insecurity
实际上是对自我潜能的没把握 不自信
and being unconfident about one’s potential
这向我们说明了一个道理
that that tells us a lot that indicates a lot
人类行为和人类本性之间有着复杂的联系
about human behavior and human nature that
外部的噪音驱使我们削足适履
the noise from outside makes us want to fit into a container and
阻止我们去区分哪些是我心中所想
that stops us from differentiating between what is my mind
哪些是我智力所及
saying and what is my intelligence
最终的结果就是
saying and what happens is
外部的噪音取代了我们自己的声音
that noise becomes your voice
外部的噪音成了我们的所想所言
so that noise becomes what you think is what you’re saying
解决这个问题的首要方法
one of the biggest ones and we say this all
这个方法非常有用
the time but it applies mostly
就是转换你的联系
to this is switching your association it’s like
也就是改变社交圈
changing your circle
因为如果你在某个圈子里只听到一种声音
because if you’re only hearing the same thing from that
那么改变现状而且不用作出大量反思的途径就是
circle the only way to turn it off without you having to do mass amounts of
改变你的社交圈
reflection is changing your circle where
终于
you start hearing
我们开始听到契合自己心灵的声音
we all ultimately find the things we want to hear.

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每个人出生的时候都是原创,但很多人渐渐活成了盗版。我们应该突破外界的条条框框,莫以他人的标准来衡量自己,在他人的世界里,我们永远活不出自我。

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