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家长应如何处理孩子与社交媒体间的关系

The Problem with Parents, Kids, and Social Media

So much of parents’ fear around social media use comes from
许多父母因为害怕孩子的生活被彻底破坏
this fear that their kids’ lives will be ruined forever.
而对社交媒体充满恐惧
And we see that a lot of times online where people make poor decisions,
我们也总在网上看到人们做出糟糕的决定
and then their lives are affected in pretty dramatic ways.
然后他们的生活就受到了很严重的影响
But I think it’s important to step back with kids and help them understand,
但我认为重要的是回过头帮孩子弄清楚
“How can you be more intentional about how you’re spending your time online?”
“怎样才能更有计划地利用上网时间?”
and, “How can you align those with your values?”
以及 “怎样按照你的价值观进行安排?”
家庭 学校
The smartphone was only really released about 10 or 12 years ago,
智能手机约在10至12年前才真正面世
so all these apps are new for parents as well.
因此这些应用软件对父母们来说也都是新生事物
“Kids are going through some treacherous terrain
“当谈到科技和社交媒体时
“when it comes to technology and social media use.”
“总觉得孩子们在趟过一些危险地带”
But we also need to understand that
但我们需要了解的是
they’re using technology for some positive things
他们也在用科技做一些积极的事情
–learning, understanding, communicating.
——学习 理解 交流
So when we do that,
而当我们这么做了
we become more open to helping kids in an objective way
就会更乐意用客观的方式帮助孩子
that protects them from some of the detrimental, draining, and dangerous things
远离一些可能出现在线上或线下的
that may happen online or in real life.
有害的 无用的和危险的东西
So where do I start?
所以我该从哪儿开始?
What do I do?
我要做什么呢?
The first is this idea of developing awareness.
首先要培养意识
Learn what apps your kids are using.
知道你的孩子在用的APP
Learn how to use them.
学会怎么使用它们
Download them on your phone.
把它们下载到你的手机上
And then, you can come from a framework that’s more objective,
然后你就能形成出一个更客观的认知框架
rather than coming from a place of fear
而不是只会对它们充满恐惧
and telling kids they can never use something.
并永久禁止孩子使用它们
The second thing is creating opportunities for daily and weekly digital detox.
其次要创造出每天和每周远离电子产品的时间
Taking kids’ phones and devices away at night,
一个简单的办法就是
can be a really easy way to do this.
在晚上拿走孩子的手机和设备
And a lot of times kids will tell me,
孩子们经常告诉我说
“You know, I don’t want to tell my parents this,
“你知道我并不想告诉爸妈
“but I’m really grateful that they take my phone away at night!
“但我真的很感谢他们晚上把手机收走!
“Because then I can tell my friends
“因为这样我就能告诉朋友
“I’m not available after a certain hour.
“几点之后不能联系了
“Otherwise it becomes this feeling of always online, always having to react.”
“否则我会感觉要一直在线 一直回复消息”
And kids don’t want that either.
孩子们也不想要那种感觉
but they don’t really know how to effectively self regulate.
但他们真的不知道如何有效自控
And the third thing is helping kids figure out their why.
接着第三件事就是帮助孩子搞清楚原因
“Why you’re reaching for your phone?”
“为什么你总在摸手机?”
Or “why you’re posting?”
“为什么你总在发消息?”
Or “why you’re taking so many photos when you’re with friends?”
“为什么你和朋友在一起时会拍那么多照片?”
The idea is really to help kids identify and understand
这么做就会帮助孩子辨别和理解
what is energizing for them and what is draining.
哪些事情是他们的成长助力 哪些是无用功
They have a choice in how they spend their time online.
他们有权决定怎样花时间上网
They can opt into experiences and opt out.
他们可以选择尝试或者离开
And that’s a really empowering message.
而这 就是真的给了他们选择权
And once they’re given permission and understanding that they have choices,
一旦被允许并理解了自己有多种选择
they actually start making the really good ones
他们就真正开始在不违背自我原则的同时
that are in line with their own personal values.
成为更好的自己了

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