早上好 这里是Believe Nation 我是伊万
Good morning Believe Nation, it’s Evan.
My one word is believe,
and I believe in people more than they believe in themselves.
And my sincere hope is that
if you see in yourself what I see in you,
you will be able to change the planet.
So to help you on your journey,
today’s message is “Be Authentic”.
Over to you Oprah Winfrey.
#I wake up every morning#
#Espresso keep me going#
#I wake up every morning#
I think that success is a process.
And I believe that my first Easter speech
in Kosciusko Baptist Church,
at the age of three and a half, was, was the begining.
And that every other speech,
every other book I read,
every other time I spoke in public,
was, was a building block.
So that by the time I first
sat down to audition in front of a television camera,
and somebody say
What allowed me to read it so comfortably
and be so at ease with myself at that time,
was the fact that I’ve been doing it a while.
If I’ve never read a book,
like never spoken in public before,
I would have been traumatized by it.
So, the fact that we went on the air with
“The Oprah Winfrey Show” in 1986 nationally.
And people say,
“哦 你看 你在摄像机前是如此的放松
“Oh, but you see how you’re so comfortable in front of camera,
you can be yourself”.
Well, it’s because I’ve been being myself since I was 19.
And I would not have…
I would not have been able to be as comfortable with myself,
had I not made mistakes on the air,
and been allowed to make mistakes on the air.
And understand that it doesn’t matter, you know.
I…there’s no such thing to me as an embarrassing moment,
no such thing.
If I tripped and fell,
if my bra strap showed,
if my slip fell off,
if I fell flat on my face…
There’s no such thing as an embarrassing moment,
because I know that there is not a moment
that I could possibly experience on the air,
that somebody else hasn’t already experienced.
So when it happens, you say,
“Oh, my slip fell off”,
and it’s no big deal.
我的意思是 就像我某天上了电视 然后有人说
I mean like I was on TV the other day and somebody says,
“哦 奥普拉 你出名了”
“Oh, Oprah, you have a run.”
Have you not seen a run before in your life?
Well I get them too, let me tell you.
所以 我的意思是 我不觉得尴尬
So I mean, I can’t be embarrassed.
I can’t be embarrassed.
Now, when I first started out,
that was not true,
because I was under the…I was pretending to be somebody I was not.
I was pretending to be Barbara Walters.
So I’d go to a news conference,
and I was more interested in how I phrased the question,
and how eloquent the question sounded.
As opposed to listening to the answer.
I…so, which always happens
when you’re interested in impressing people
instead of doing what you’re supposed to be doing.
And it took me a while,
it took me messing up on the air, on during a live newscast.
I was doing a list of foreign countries,
there was all these foreign names,
and then Canada was thrown in,
and I call Canada Cannada.
And I got so tickled that I called Cana…
I thought…that wasn’t Cannada,
that was Canada.
Excuse me, that wasn’t Canada…
that wasn’t Cannada, that was Canada.
And then I started laughing.
嗯 就是 就是那一刻
Well, it was, it was…it became a moment,
it became the first real moment I ever had.
And the news director later said to me,
“Well, if you do that, then you should just keep going,
you shouldn’t correct yourself and let people know.”
哦 我懂 但是 有人听过Cannada吗？
Oh I know, well, who’s ever heard our Cannada?
So that was for me the beginning of realizing that:
Oh, you can laugh at yourself;
and you can make a mistake,
and it’s not the end of the world,
you don’t have to be perfect.
And biggest lesson for me for television,
because then it didn’t matter,
it didn’t matter.
哦 不好意思 内衣肩带露出来了
Oh sorry, bra strap is showing.
Not being afraid to make mistakes
is one of the hardest things to learn how to do,
但或许也是你能学到的 最实用 最重要的能力之一
and probably one of the most useful and important things that you can learn,
not just as an entrepreneur, but as a human being.
You know when I first started…
I was terrified of making a mistake.
I was terrified of what you guys would think.
I was terrified of putting out an imperfect product.
I was trying to memorize lines,
and in my first videos
they were really…they were really fake.
It was a fake version of me,
because I was trying to get the exact words right.
Everyone knows Walt Disney for his movies,
theme parks, and cast of characters.
But most people don’t know is when he first started out,
he had no money,
he had to live in his office,
because he couldn’t afford rent for an apartment.
And he survived on a diet of cold beans,
because he couldn’t afford food.
I would be sitting down.
I would be, you know, looking up trying to memorize my lines.
And when I realized with much more practice was that
it doesn’t matter the exact words that I use.
It’s more than feeling,
it’s more the genuineness.
And it’s taking me a lot of times to get through that.
的确也是 目前为止 我已经拍了5000个视频
Right I’ve…I’ve made 5,000 videos now,
I’ve been working on it,
working on it, and working on it…
And I wish there were a lot more actual genuine moments, too.
And I wish there were more mistakes.
I don’t really make a ton of bloopers
when I’m making these videos.
My team was always worried about walking through shots.
And I’m actually excited.
I think we got one
where Alex was picking up a table and moving it out.
Like I’m cheering and I’m pumped up that he’s in the shot,
that we made a kind of blooper, a mistake.
– Did we get Alex in there?
– Did you get…
– Yeah, nice.
– Oh, my God.
Nice, I love it.
I love it.
Even last month when my audio didn’t work properly,
you guys gave me a ton, a ton…
it’s probably the most negative comments in the history of our channel.
Every video we put up,
we got comments about the echo,
and am I in a cave,
and people want to fly here to buy me a mic.
And some of them were funny,
and some of them were just super hate and negative.
And I kept the videos up,
because I make mistakes.
Because I make mistakes, my teammate makes mistakes,
we’re still human.
And I wanted to use that as –
look, here’s the channel that has 800,000 subscribers.
And we’re still making mistakes,
and we’re still trying to figure things out.
And that’s authentic for me.
And so I think that the biggest thing is one,
having the awareness to understand
that you are holding yourself back because of fear of judgement,
fear of not being yourself,
fear of what people might think about you.
Most of the time we do things that are so just subconscious,
and we don’t take action on it.
Recognizing that here’s a moment right now
where you are afraid to do something
because of how somebody might judge you,
and then doing something about it,
and then taking action against it,
and then slowly building up that muscle,
so that the next time it happens,
you’re able to expand your comfort zone a little bit more.
And just being able to recognize that in your head,
you have this rationale, you rationalize it.
You cope with all the reasons why you shouldn’t be doing something
but really it’s just that you’re afraid.
If you can get to the deeper cause of I’m just afraid,
I’m going to push through this,
and I’m going to expand my comfort zone
and get stronger and stronger each time.
Having that awareness and then doing something about it
will help you become more authentic.
And it doesn’t just help you in business,
people want to deal with people,
people want to understand your story,
people want to feel like they connect to you.
People connect to me more now
than they did when I first started,
and I have the same message that I did when I started.
It’s just the way I deliver it, it’s much more authentic.
And so if you want to reach people,
and have them take action,
and grow your business,
authenticity is really important.
You hear that message over and over again on the channel,
but also just helps you as a human being
to know that you can be yourself,
be comfortable in your own skin,
not be constantly worried
when you’re out at parties or in social events of
how people might be seeing you and judging you.
If you’re…that’s the world you live in,
when you’re constantly afraid of how people are seeing you,
then you’re never actually gonna be yourself,
and that is not a happy place to be.
So that awareness to understand when you’re holding yourself back,
and then to actually do something about it,
take the action even though you’re afraid,
do that consistently,
and you’ll see a significant growth,
not just in your personal life, but also in your business.
So the question today is I’m curious:
what is the thing that you have the hardest time being authentic about,
the thing you have the hardest time being your true self about.
Leave it down in the comments below.
I’m really curious to find out.
And if you leave a comment within the first couple hours of this video going live,
you have a chance to win one of two daily prizes.
I also want to give a quick shout out to
Pénélope Stansfield from greenfrog.fr.
Pénélope, thank you so much for picking up a copy of my book:
“Your One Word”.
It really really means a lot to me.
And I hope you’re enjoying the read.
Thank you guys again for watching.
I believe in you.
I hope you continue to believe in yourself
and whatever your one word is.
Much love and I’ll see you again tomorrow morning
for another shot of Enpresso.
#I wake up every morning#
#Espresso keep me going#
Adopt the mode of…authentic being.
And that is something like refusing to participate in the lie,
in deception in the lie.
To orient your speech as much as you can towards the truth.
And to take responsibility for your own life,
and perhaps also for the lives of other people.
And there’s something about that, that’s meaningful,
and responsible and noble,
but also serves to mitigate the very suffering that
produces say denialism or the flee into the arms,
or the, or the escape into the arms of totalitarians to begin with.
You need something to shelter you against your own vulnerability.
You know you’re watching a movie,
and you hear a line and it feels like:
Oh, they thought that was gonna be a line in the trailer.
Like you just know that
某一刻 某个人 就像一个预告片
on the set someone’s like that’s a trailer mode,
like it doesn’t…because it doesn’t feel real necessarily in life,
but it just feels like ah, it’s a great sound but it’s a great thing.
That there’s a visual equivalent of that.
And you got to be really careful because sometimes I’ll think,
ah, this is like one of those moments,
and then you end up doing it,
and the truth is it ends up feeling posed,
it just doesn’t feel authentic.
I try for those sometimes they never seem to work.
I think that the key for any of this stuff,
and you know whether we’ve accomplished it or not
is up to the audience.
But I think that the key to any movie working.
Certainly a movie called “Star Trek”,
which you know, could, you know be seen as campy
is finding authenticity.
And, and it’s whether it’s in a little nuance,
a little moment, a character exchange,
一个表情 一个眼神 或是一个巨大的节点
a look, a glance, or a huge plot point,
there’s something for me that is:
if I don’t really understand what’s going on,
if I can’t really get into under the skin of these characters,
none of the spectacles is gonna matter.
And I give it my all,
I mean I, I practice every day,
and I try and stay authentic and uncompromising.
We don’t play any, you know, crowd–pleasing stuff.
We don’t you know get out there,
and play “When The Saints Go Marching In”.
And you know will we play blues,
赞美诗 拉格泰姆音乐 蓝调摇滚
hymns, ragtime, whorehouse music.
Stuff that was authentically New Orleans.
And we play it in the New Orleans style as best we can.
And so I don’t feel that I’m a sellout.
I’m doing the best I can.
早上好 这里是Believe Nation 我是伊万