What is a gold-digger?
And why do people use this word so much?
I feel like this has become the new word,
popularly used by both men and women
代替以往的婊子 荡妇 娼妓等词的新词
instead of calling someone a bitch a slut a whore whatever
people like to use the word gold-digger.
They like to shame woman and tell her off basically.
Well,let’s figure it all out.
Why are people doing this? My name is Anna
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So what is a gold-digger?
Let’s find it out.
Okay.I have made some few notes here
I had to Google this, of course,
to give you the exact definition.
Because you know what?
I’ve noticed that people have their own definition of gold-digger.
Some people think that”just because you have
rich friends” = you’re a gold digger!
Other people think that”just because
you don’t want to pay the bill as a woman
in a restaurant when you’re on a date with a man
you’re a gold digger!
I think both is absolutely crazy
But the whole point that I’m trying to make is that,
people have so many different variations
and perceptions of the word gold digger,
so let’s just quickly find out what it actually means.
Gold digger: A woman who forms
relationships with men purely to obtain money or gifts from them.
Okay,so as I understand it
it’s only if you want to have some material gain from them.
Another one, someone who only likes people
另一个定义 把 “仅仅”因为男人有很多钱
because of how much money they have
or because of the items they own.
Again,we have this word ONLY.
So as I understand after googling around,
it seems that according to dictionaries and so on
the word gold digger stands for
when women are ONLY interested in the
material or the monetary gain of somebody.
I can understand the negative associations with the word gold digger.
If it’s all about using and abusing somebody,
I do not believe in that myself.
I don’t think that we should use and abuse anyone,
as much as men use and abuse women for sex
I don’t think women should only use and abuse men for money.
However,how come in our society
it’s SO accepted for man to treat women as sex objects,
YET – it’s so incredibly taboo and forbidden
for a woman to somehow have a financial interest in the man.
SHE can not have financial interest in a man,
but a MAN can have sexual interest in a woman.
And why I’m mentioning these things? That is because
genetically speaking, men and women are wired differently research has proven.
Biologically speaking, we were designed this way
for the survival of the offspring.
A woman needs to really take into account who she meets with
because that increases the survival rates (or decreases) of her children.
A man who can offer the woman financial security,
a man who can provide,
a man who have some form of status in the jungle.
Now that’s going to be a high survival rate for her children,
obviously a woman is going to take that into account
and actually prioritize it.
This is written in our genetics, in our biology,
in the millions of years of DNA programming.
Now men on the other hand,
they’re not driven by that type of instinct
because their instinct is to impregnate as many women
as possible because that has a higher chance of survival for their offspring.
For this reason, men are very much sexually orientated,
the same way a woman
perhaps is more financially orientated than a man,
but a man can get away with
being sexually orientated!
How come, HOW UNFAIR is that in our society it’s like
if a man sleeps around, he gets a pat on his back. But if a woman sleeps around: oh…
如果男人乱搞男女关系 背后会有叫好声 但是如果一个女人到处厮混
She is a slut, she is this, she’s that!
她就是荡妇 她是这个 她又是那个
Anything to shame a woman!
Now this is something that I’m very tired of,
and for that reason I make videos like this on my channel
to raise awareness because I think we all should start thinking about
exactly what happens when we call a woman a gold digger!
Should we really promote this misogynistic hate?
I know my values.
I know what I stand for.
I know that I’m not using and abusing anyone.
I value the romantic side in a relationship
as much as I value the materialistic and financial aspect.
Both are equally important to me,
and yes you can have both in today’s society!
But what really frustrates me is how this word is being
is how this word is being used against women,
and how it actually has an impact on woman.
I see it also in my community.
Women who are laying low with their interest in luxury lifestyle
because society are judging them and
labeling them and that is unfair, and
that is against any form of feminism in my opinion!
But where does this whole misogynistic trend come from?
The word gold-digger comes, of course, originally from men.
It comes from men who do not appreciate women,
who perhaps hate women.
It comes from men who get triggered by
the higher standards of a woman that they can not live up to!
It’s basically broke guys, who cannot afford this type of women.
So they start creating this whole Gold Digger trend and
in their way to try and control a woman and somehow dominate a woman.
And this comes from dominating someone,
to push someone down, to put someone in their place, into the corner!
贬低女性地位 让女性回到原本位置 把她们逼入困境
Shaming a woman by calling her a gold digger,
is the man’s and also the society’s, it’s a way of controlling her,
it’s a way of telling her that
“You, don’t come and think that you’re somebody! Go back to your place!”
That’s basically what this gold digger word
is communicating to us.
A woman is not allowed in this world,
to be true to her instincts the same way a man can be true to his sexual desires.
A woman is forbidden to have a desire
for financial gain or status gain
Sadly these misogynistic men get backup from our fellow women.
Oh yes, us women we are
doing an amazing job backstabbing each other.
Which is something I really, really hope and pray for,
that one day maybe we can
act more like sisters instead of predators.
I believe we should hold each other’s backs
instead of taking the side of men.
Now I know this stems from competitiveness.
Women can be awfully jealous and competitive with each other.
So that’s actually a way of controlling other women,
by calling her gold digger,
by shaming her for having these types of interests.
But more so often, do I notice
that actually these women who use
this name-calling and call other women for gold diggers,
they are sadly enough just programmed by society,
brainwashed by thinking that a woman has absolutely no right
to have this type of preference, this type of interest.
That she’s a bad person and that they should
do a witch-hunt against her.
The word gold digger has become a modern-day witch hunt,
as they did in history, burning all these women.
They’re doing the same thing
but but by bullying somebody emotionally and calling her gold digger!
And lastly, we have to also think
about WHY does this upset people so much
if a woman has financial interest in a man,
if a woman is benefiting financially from a man,
if a woman has a preference that she wants
to be a part of high society,
she wants to change her class from middle class to upper class.
Why is it so triggering to people?
Why do people get so upset
that a woman wants to do this
and has this interest?
Because money triggers a lot of strong emotions in people.
Money is actually a very strong emotion in itself,
because money represents all kinds of different emotions in people.
We have a lot of things that are operating in our subconscious that
we’re not even aware of!
So money becomes a very very strong heavily loaded emotion.
But what I don’t understand is why do other people care
so much what people do with their lives?
Why don’t people focus more on their own life
and perhaps improving it and becoming a better version of themselves?
And maybe go to counseling and maybe heal some issues?
Perhaps these issues are triggering the person to feel all these strong emotions?
One thing is to have a different opinion
but another thing is to have very strong emotions about something.
Not everyone has to have financial interest in a man.
The same way
not every man has to be sexually obsessed, right?
People are different!
Some people have a very high sex drive,
some people have a very high financial drive!
People are different!
Let them do whatever they want without judging.
Let us be who we are, we’re not killing anyone…
We are just staying true to what we believe in
to what we desire and
we are not ashamed of having a man provide for us!
And if that is a problem for you, then maybe
you should think about why you have such a big problem with this?
I have more videos on this topic,
so please do go and check them out
I have loads of interesting content about high society on this channel.
But before I leave you,
I want to say one last thing…
If you’re a woman who want to have a financially secure partner:
You’re not a gold digger!
You are just staying true to instincts,
So never let society or anyone tell you that you’re wrong!
See you in the next video!
What is a gold-digger?