In 1985, Robert Sternberg presented a theory
that speedily interested various people.
A theory concretising something that has baffled minds
and wrenched the hearts of many.
He called it “the Triangular Theroy of Love”,
as it’s best explained in the form of triangle.
But is more commonly known as Sternberg’s theory of love.
In the context of interpersonal relationships,
there are three components of love.
According to the theory,
intimacy is the feeling of attachment, closeness and connectedness.
而 “激情” 换句话说 则是当你喜欢某人时
Passion, on the other hand, is the fiery depth
and intenseness you experience when you like someone,
encompassing the drive connected to both romantic and sexual attraction.
The third component, commitment, ties the other two together,
as it encompasses short-term and long-term decisions
to remain with one another and plan for the future.
According to Stemberg’s theroy of love.
there are six forms of love,
which are combinations of the three conponents previously described.
Nonlove is merely the absence of all three conponents.
This basically characterizes the majority of our personal relationships,
which consists of simple, casual interactions.
It could apply to your acquaintances or people
you’re not particularly attached to.
Friendship exists when only intimacy is present.
This is the set of feelings you experience
without the intense passion or commitment of romance.
It can, however, be a route
for other forms of love to manifest form.
Three. Infatuated Love.
Infatuation occurs when passion is present,
and both intimacy and commitment is absent.
Crushes fall under this category.
Solely sexual relationships are also included,
as they’re only bounded by carnal desires and nothing more.
This is the most common route of romantic love,
as it is believed that intimacy develops over time.
But if neither intimacy nor commitment develops,
this type of love can fizzle over time.
Four. Empty Love.
An example of the empty love is an unhappy marriage,
where intimacy and the flame of passion for your partner is gone.
As a strong love deteriorates into empty love,
nothing is left but the contract of marriage itself.
It’s characterized by the absence of intimacy and passion,
despite the presence of commitment.
Arranged marriages, on the other hand,
can start out as empty love,
but can develop into other forms of love over time.
Five. Romantic Love.
Romantic love is a combination of intimacy and passion.
Relationships under this category not only involve physical bounds,
but emtional bounds as well.
This is one of the most common stepping stones to married life.
However, it lacks commitment.
This type of relationship is easier to dissolve with no legal issues,
if you or your partner have had enough of it.
Six. Companionate Love.
Companionate love is characterized by
a combination of intimacy and commitment,
and the absence of passion.
It’s stronger than friendship love
because of the additional commitment.
It’s observed in long-term marriages,
where you don’t necessarily need passion
in order to stay love with your partner,
because affection still remains.
Companionate love can also be found among family members,
and close friends who have strong platonic friendships.
Seven. Fatuous Love.
A good example of a fatuous love is
when Kim Kardashian marries Kris Humphries,
only to divorce him 72 days later.
It’s a whirlwind of romance we usually see on television.
Fatuous love is the combination of commitment and passion without intimacy.
Eight. Consummate Love.
Consummate love sits the very center of the triangle,
as it’s said to be the perfect, ideal type of love.
All three components are present in this type of love,
and it’s the goal for people in relationships.
According to Sternberg,
couples that are experiencing consummate love
will continue to be sexually intimate years into the relationship.
And they can’t imagine themselves being happier with other partners.
They work through their difficulties,
and find delight in the relationships.
However, Sternberg cautions that
maintaining this relationship is harder than achieving it,
and it’s not a permanent form of love.
With that, do you agree with the types of love that Sternberg proposes?
What other factors do you think affect the relationship?
Do you think the six forms of love are global?
Or is there subjective perspective for every couple?
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