Hi, I’m here to interview someone named Jeremy
for a short film that I’m doing about the existence of rape culture.
Yes I’m Jeremy.
You’re in the right place.
We’re just waiting on one more.
Sorry I’m late.
Traffic was hell.
This is the devil.
I’m his advocate,
and regarding the controversial subject of rape culture,
we just have a few questions.
I get it.
Okay so, you’re the devil’s advocate and you’re
here to question the existence of rape culture.
Well, first of all,
the devil would like to make it very clear that he is anti-rape.
Even the devil knows that rape is bad.
But the term “rape culture” just
feels like a trendy phrase to mean
that all men are super pro-rape.
Rape culture is a term designed to show
the ways that sexual violence is normalized and
trivialized in our society.
This can be anything
from the jokes we tell, the movies we watch
to certain choice T-shirts sold in Times Square
and even to some laws.
But what do you mean rape is normalized?
It’s not normal, it doesn’t happen a lot,
and when does we label rapists as monsters?
First of all it does happen a lot.
On average an American is sexually assaulted every 98 seconds.
Oh, I did not know that.
And second of all, rape and sexual assault are not just committed by monsters.
For years we did think that.
We thought that rape and sex crimes were only committed by
men literally driven insane by sex.
They were put in mental institutions instead of prisons.
But now we know that’s not true.
It’s not just insane men who commit sex crimes.
It’s all sorts of people.
It’s friends, it’s co-workers,
it’s otherwise upstanding citizens,
like everyone you could think of.
And also we now know that
sex crimes aren’t just motivated by sex,
they’re also motivated by power.
Are you hungry?
No, no thank you.
But what do you mean “rape culture”?
Our culture labels rape as bad.
I don’t see a lot of people going around saying,
No, but I mean there are so many examples
of ways that rape and sexual assault are normalized
and trivialized in our society.
Like off the top of my head,
songs like Blurred Lines that say
a woman wants it, even though she says she doesn’t.
Trite jokes in stand-up clubs
about how funny it is to put a roofie in a woman’s drink.
The fact that we elected a president who
bragged about grabbing women’s
genitals without their consent.
And police who ask rape victims
what they were wearing when they were raped.
But what about the times there are false accusations?
Rape culture might encourage a witch-hunt.
So false accusations do happen,
but really rarely.
So despite the recent support for victims of sexual violence to come forward,
it still sucks to do so.
I mean accusers are often stigmatized more than the people they are accusing.
People try to discredit them,
they say they’re lying to get attention or to get money,
and they have to relive their trauma by telling their story
over and over and over again.
It’s the reason a lot of people have chosen to remain anonymous
when coming forward with the recent wave of sexual harassment allegations.
But if you blame a culture for rape,
then you implicate all men.
Doesn’t that take away the blame from actual rapists?
No, no it doesn’t.
Rape culture can exist
and people can also be held responsible for their actions.
Jeremy, look at me.
Don’t, just look at me.
The devil would have you believe that things are black and white.
That if one side is right, other side must be wrong.
But that’s not true.
I have something to say.
Hey, devil you don’t have to talk.
That’s what you pay me for.
The thing that bothers me is that
I never hear about empathy towards men who survived sexual assault.
I mean people make prison and rape jokes all the time
and we laugh at movies
where a much older woman takes a lucky teenager’s virginity.
I mean it’s just assumed that men want it all the time without exception.
And if a man is assaulted by someone,
then he’s seen as a wimp.
This is weird to say but devil you make a great point.
Rape culture affects people of all genders,
and everyone no matter the gender
should be held responsible for their actions regarding sexual violence.
La-di-da, I guess you have all the answers.
No I do not.
This is a really, really complicated issue
especially when you take into account things
like patriarchy and power and privilege
and how all those systems work together.
No one has all the answers.
I really learned a lot today.
So did I.
I mean I learned that the devil is real.
Which I’m just, I’m just now taking in.