– What’s your favorite book and why?
– Okay, so I don’t know my favorite favorite book,
but I am reading a book called Tampa right now,
and I read a book, one of my favorite books was
The Child Called “It”.
书中情感丰富 真的很赞 图片和
– It was so emotional, it really was like, graphic and
it was deep and it brought you into the world of a child
that had a really tough, abusive life.
It was hard to believe, but it was a true story.
– One other question, mentor?
– What should I read?
That’s what you should be telling me.
Since you know.
– Headed to the World Series.
Taking the Challenger jet.
I was doing the Robb Report car judging so I had to
take this so we can get there in four and a half hours.
In the car I was listening to some Rihanna songs,
and it reminded me of something.
It reminded me of how impressed I was with Rihanna
when I met her.
One of the impressive things about Rihanna, to me, was that,
you know, she’s one of the most popular people in the world.
If anybody could be cocky and not be interested
in other people, it’d be her.
But the first thing, if you see my interview with her,
that she said to me.
I started out and I said
‘Rihanna, what’s your favorite book?’
And she started to talk, and then she caught herself,
说“等等 泰 你是个书虫”
and said ‘Wait a sec, Tai, you’re the book guy.’
‘What’s your favorite book?’
And you see, I can’t tell you how many people who have
accomplished less than Rihanna, okay.
Are so much cockier than her.
See that question is a sign of true humility.
When you realize you don’t have all the answers,
and that someone else does, and that, you also,
在the 67 steps中 我要告诉你
in the 67 steps I talk about how you have to know
who’s in the room.
One of the reasons that people can’t find mentors
is not because mentors don’t exist, it’s just that
nine out of ten times, when somebody’s actually around
他们一般这样表现 是的 我需要你的帮助
a mentor, they’ll kind of act like ‘yeah, I need your help.’
‘I wanna learn from you, but I kind of already know’
‘what I’m doing.’
I’ve seen that so many times and it’s annoying to mentors.
If one of my mentors has been doing real estate for
40 or 50 years, when I talk to them about real estate,
I’m like, I know nothing.
Even though I do know, but in comparison to him,
I haven’t even been alive that long, so I give him
what’s called ‘deference’.
And so Rihanna, even though she didn’t have to.
你知道 我读过很多的书 现在也没有停止
You know, I know a lot about books, I’ve been reading
and I’ve got the largest online book club
in the world right now.
So, it’s not like she’s kissing up to me,
it’s just she has respect for other people’s areas
And instead of her just talking away, she listens.
One of the lessons I learned when I was young,
I was with about four mentors.
They were all together in Mississippi.
艾伦 内申 乔尔 塞勒汀 戈登 阿扎尔博士
Allan Nation, Joel Salatin, Dr Gordon Hazard,
a guy named Gary Townsen.
They were having a little private dinner
and they invited me.
I was still a teenager.
And I remember I talked the whole time.
And at the end, Allan Nation just pulled me aside
他说 泰 某些时候你不用说话的
and he said ‘Tai, sometimes you don’t have anything to say.’
And he just kind of laughed and walked off.
And I read between the lines.
他是不是试图告诉我 泰 在桌子旁
What he was trying to say is ‘Tai, you were at a table’
‘with four people, who are 20, 30 years ahead’
‘of the success that you want to get to.’
‘Why would you talk a lot?’
要记住 当你进入房间 说了很多话
Just remember, when you walk into a room and you talk a lot.
You walked into the room, let’s say with 20 units
of knowledge in your head.
If you talk the whole time, you walk out of the room
with 20 units.
So there’s no increase in your life.
You don’t increase the value and the understanding
that you have.
If you walk into the room and don’t talk much at all,
you have 20 units in your brain,
but then you get information insight from all
the other people in the room and you walk out of the room
with another 20 units, so now you got 40 units.
That’s called a win-win situation.
And that’s what Rihanna did.
Even though she could’ve just sat there
and talked the whole time, and of course, it’s okay
to have back and forth, doesn’t mean you have to be silent.
But she started out, and what I thought was interesting
is that that was her gut feeling, that’s her impulse
of how she acts naturally.
Which means she’s learned, in order to become successful,
she has to be able to evaluate the expertise
of people in the room.
我教的the 67 steps其中之一
One of the 67 steps that I teach is something called
knowing who’s in the room.
You can’t act the same around everybody.
It doesn’t mean you have to be disingenuous
or not authentic.
You don’t have to become a different person.
But if I walk into a room with
the President of the United States,
I’m gonna act differently than if I walked in a room
you know, with somebody who’s an intern for my company.
And there’s nothing wrong with that.
Don’t listen to anybody that says, because that’s respect.
For what people have done, you know.
And it’s okay to respect.
And the benefit that you get back, not only is it
the right social cues for you to give off, but also,
that’s how you keep mentors.
Because nobody wants to accomplish a lot
and then have somebody disrespect them
who’s asking them for help.
If you want a business mentor, let’s say,
they’re already a millionare or a billionare or whatever
your criteria is for your mentor.
Well, they already accomplished it.
So they’re here, they had the years and the time and
the accomplishment is there.
If you wanna learn how to do that, you’re back here.
And you always want mentors that have a big gap between you.
And so, when there’s that big gap, then what happens is
you can show the respect.
They’ll then say ‘Well you know what,’
‘even though I don’t need to spend my time,’
我做这 不是为了钱 这人看上去
‘I’m not doing this for money, this person seems’
‘like they’re genuinely interested, curious.’
蕾哈娜就是这样的人 当然 好奇心也是一个原因
That’s what Rihanna was also, curiosity’s a factor.
And then they’ll reciprocate back to you
because most mentors realize that at some point
in their life, they were helped by somebody else.
So they’re open to helping,
but nobody wants to help somebody annoying.
Joel Salatin used to tell me
带个人没问题 泰 但我
‘I don’t mind carrying a man, Tai, but I don’t want him’
‘to drag his feet’.
Drag his feet表示厌烦的
Drag his feet means ‘be annoying’.
‘Be a burden’.
Be quick to say you don’t know something.
Just like Rihanna was like
嘿 你是书虫 泰 你告诉我
‘Hey, you’re the book person, Tai, you tell me.’
So she walked out of that meeting with new insight.
我说了一些书 同时 我送了她一个礼物 一本书
I talked about some books, and I sent her a present, a book.
And so she came with more.
Chris Paul这周在我家吃午饭 同样的事
Chris Paul’s at my house this week for lunch, same thing.
This is a multiple time all-star,
hundred million dollar NBA basketball contract,
head of the players league, all star.
You like the Ghost?
– You had what, you had the Wraith too?
– I don’t know what’s better.
我是Chris Paul 我在这里
– I’m Chris Paul, I’m here.
I just want to wish you the best,
希望你能够在这 所以我才能见到你 同伴
wish you would’ve been here so I could meet you, man.
但 呃 祝好运 你在我祈祷名单中
But uh, best of luck and you’re in my prayers.
他就像在说 泰 我有些问题要问你
– And he was like, ‘Tai, I got some questions for you.’
And I was blown away once again, like I was with Rihanna,
that somebody with that much achievement,
that much status is still curious, respectful and interested
in what other people have to say, and that, see.
You gotta reverse it.
That’s the reason they are successful.
Rihanna’s not that way because now she’s successful
and turned into that way.
She got to that spot.
Because remember, Rihanna had key people who believed in her
when she was just starting out.
她有Jay Z 她有这些助她一臂之力的人
She had Jay Z, and she had all these people that helped her.
And so she knew how to deal with people,
she knew how to respect people.
She knew how to interact in a way that doesn’t come off
不至于太高冷 或话唠 你懂的
as cocky or too ‘wordy’ you know.
So just remember that, when you’re in an environment.
Know who’s in the room, if there’s somebody who has
something to teach you, ask them.
Ask more than you talk.
A good ratio, I would say, would be three to one.
You’re in a room, you realize you’re with somebody,
a potential mentor, somebody who can give insight.
Make sure if you say one sentence, you don’t talk
until they say three sentences.
That’s a great way to do it, good little ratio
to keep in mind.
What books speak to you the most?
– What books?
– What type of books.
– Uh, true stories.
They have to be true, real-life things that have happened.
Or autobiographies, I love those.
I only watch documentaries or reality TVs, things like that.
I’m obsessed with like, real things.
– ‘Kon-Tiki’, have you ever heard of this book?
There was a guy, – No.
– Nobody believed in him, so he took a boat,
and he latched together nine logs,
and he floated across the Pacific Ocean
just to prove it could be done.
– That’s a crazy story of courage, and…
– And that’s a real story?
– It’s a true story.
你要 嗯 我要去
– You need to, well, I’m going to…
成名之路 - 为何你必须保持谦逊（与蕾哈娜）