self-preservation holding you back
What is one big excuse that you could take
on right now, today, and do something about?
And if you started there what would your life look like in 30 days?
What would it look like a year from today?
What would it look like five years from today?
And if we took on some of our bigger excuses,
can you imagine what would happen inside of
even just New York alone, if you had one percent of the population that took on their biggest
excuse, what the creative generative effect of that would bring?
Frankly our brain is hardwired to survival,
and because of that our brain with any fear
that we have or any justification that we make as to why we do something or not do something,
I believe a lot of those answers come back to survival.
And there’s usually a positive intention behind some of the excuses that we go and make, maybe
even preservation of our own energy or preservation of self.
很多时候 恐惧是好的 理性的恐惧 其背后有积极意义
There’s a lot of times where fears are good, rational fears, and there’s a good intention
behind them; it’s just uncovering that and kind of unpacking it, and seeing what’s really
going on there.
I think for starters I think some of the excuses
I make come to mind, in terms of common excuses:
我时间不够 我太忙了 我手头有很多事要做 我太老了 我太年轻了
I don’t have enough time; I’m too busy; I’ve got too much on my plate; I’m too old.I’m too young;
I don’t have enough money or… too much money?
我不知道那些算不算借口 但是总有很多话像 “我不够好…”
— I don’t know if that’s really an excuse, but there’s a million: “I’m not good enough…”
But I think it’s really actually the more creative excuses, the ones that are a little
bit more sneaky and insidious, the ones where we can convince ourselves that they’re good
所以有很多次 如果我不想去竞争 或是我感觉我不会赢
So a lot of times if I don’t want to compete in something or I feel like I’m not going
总而言之 我有点害怕失败 然后我会找一个有创意的
to win or whatever, I’ve got some type of fear of failure, then I’ll make a really creative
We make thousands of justifications I think probably, a week.
对我来说 借口就像是一座高山 没有尽头
Excuses to me are a mountain, and there’s no end to the trail,
there’s no summit to it
We’re never going to arrive at a point where we’re completely free of our excuses.
But I think the idea is just have a little bit more awareness around some of the bigger
I think it starts with telling the truth to yourself about something.
我相信 无论是什么借口 你对自己坦白多少
I believe that the extent to which you can tell the truth to yourself about whatever
excuses you’re making is the extent to which you can be free from it.
You have to start there.
I love the spirit of the message of, for instance, of saying something like, “Anything is possible,”
but I don’t actually believe it.
Anything is maybe possible in the future, but at this moment in time I’m not going to
go and bench press 10,000 pounds; at this moment in time we aren’t going to go and colonize
So you’ve got these bigger society wide excuses that we make as human beings.
You’ve got individual smaller excuses that we make just as people living our day-to-day
我也会找借口 对于看到此视频的人 可能会发生的最糟糕的事情是
I would say too, for people watching this, the worst thing that could happen is that,
frankly the worst thing (from my perspective at least) is: someone watches this and starts
beating themselves up over the excuses that they go and make.
And if people go and say to me after a speech is done, “Wow you’ve done some awesome things
但是我很烂 我什么也做不了” 我会说
with your life, but I suck, and I can’t do anything,” I go, “Well, you kind of missed
I want people to know that I am a master excuse-maker, and I know just now how many excuses I go
and truly make, and I have to go and tell the truth to myself about the excuses that
I’m making now.
It’s kind of this idea—and I didn’t come up with it—it was Alfred Korzybski in 1931
who said that “The map is not the territory.”
And we all walk around with our own mental maps based on our experiences, maps of the
基于我们看到的世界地图 我们把这些地图当成现实 却没意识到
world, and we like to go and think of those maps as reality instead of realizing they’re
just freaking maps.
And they’re just up here [in the mind], and some maps are better than others.
A good map you can navigate accurately with, a bad map not so much, and we all have our
Really I would start with telling the truth to yourself.