So Jun and I have been asked how we handle our long distance relationship, and more than
just that—it seems like a lot of people are interested in our relationship in general,
so today I’m gonna talk a little bit about that. I think there’s one quote that kinda
represents our relationship pretty well. Most of you have probably heard it shared on like
Facebook, or something like that. It’s the quote that goes: “We’re all a little weird.
And life is a little weird. And when we find someone whose weirdness is compatible with ours
we join up with them and fall into mutually satisfying weirdness and call it love—true
Robert Fulgham 说的。我认为这句话很好地代表了我们的关系。
love.” -by Robert Fulgham. And I think that quote is pretty representative of our relationship.
And by the end of this video I think a lot of you will probably agree with me. So Jun
and I are the type of people who don’t need to be in a relationship at all. Like, neither
of us have ever actively sought out a relationship except for our relationship with each other.
And more than just that—we take relationships really seriously from the very beginning.
Neither of us are people who can just see someone on the street and be like, “Wow, that
person’s really attractive!” We have to have that emotional connection. We don’t date around for fun.
Neither of us flirt with people. A relationship is just something that’s really
serious to both of us. And for both of us, even though we had dated before we met each other,
we had never really found someone that we were truly attracted to until we met each other.
So, from the beginning, for our relationship, being that we both take relationships so seriously
from the first place, our relationship in particular was pretty much set from the beginning.
Like, we knew each other for five weeks before Jun asked me out, and then that very same
day that he asked me out, that evening, we were discussing marriage. And… I mean, I
knew from the very beginning that I wanted to marry him. I knew I wanted to marry him
before we even started dating, which is completely crazy, and I agree that that’s crazy. And
I’m sure most of you will probably be like, “Wow, you guys were probably just kinda dumb
and in love and infatuated and stuff.” And maybe you’re right, I don’t know. But I mean,
three years later I just appreciate and love him more every day so it worked out really
well for us, regardless of whether or not we were kinda crazy about it. I mean, it’s
not like we just—that very first day it’s not like we were just like, “Hey, let’s get
married!” It was more like a natural discussion. I mean, I’m the type of person who likes to
face problems head on and come up with a solution right away or at least have plans and then
back up plans. And I was studying abroad at the time that Jun and I met and I knew…
we both knew that I would have to go home soon. So immediately after we started dating
I knew that something was going to have to happen because I would be leaving in a few
months. So Jun and I were talking that first day we were together and I brought up this
whole situation. And we just knew that if we wanted to be together, we were going to
have to commit kinda for the long term. Because, if you’re in an international relationship,
eventually if you wanna be together one person if going to have to move to the other country.
And while you can just kinda hope that you can get a job in the other country and then
just kinda work on things, that’s a really big step to take just to be in a casual relationship.
So really if you’re that serious about someone, then you’re kinda gonna have to get married
in an international relationship, because that’s really the only way that you guys are
going to be able to be together in the future. So that’s kind of how the conversation came
up, and that’s how we discussed it. It was more of like, a natural progression for how
things were realistically going to have to be if we wanted to be together. So I mean
it wasn’t just like, “Hey, let’s get married now!” So I brought that up with Jun and I
asked him if that would be something he’d be willing to do, and he said yes! And so
kinda from that day on, from our very first day, I- we both had marriage as the ultimate
goal for us. Even though we hadn’t necessarily committed or really asked each other, we both
knew that that was what we were aiming for. I asked Jun to make a clip for this video
so that he could talk about it a little bit, too, but he was kinda embarrassed so he said
he would do it in the future, but he did have a quote that he said I could use, which was:
“If one of my friends had told me that [getting married so soon], I would think it was really
weird. But because it was with you, I didn’t find it weird at all.” And I feel the same
way. I mean, I never thought I would be in a relationship where I would want to get married
so soon, but it just seemed like the right thing for both of us. I mean, I kinda knew
from the beginning that he was the person that I wanted to be with. And neither of us
believe in fate, or destiny, or “the one” or anything like that. Although, if I did,
this kinda seems like a situation where it would apply. But we really did just feel like
we were supposed to be together from the very beginning. And it turned out that we were
pretty much perfectly compatible with all of our values and beliefs and everything,
so it worked out really well for both of us. And as I mentioned we’ve been together for
three years now, and while we’ve been long distance for pretty much that whole time,
we have lived together for like, four sets of three month periods, uhh… like a two
month period, a five week period, and then I’m going back to visit him in a week! So
I’m so excited! I’ll get to see him again! And it’ll be the first time I’ve been to Japan
in over a year! So I’m super excited about that. We’ll be taking lots of videos so hopefully
we’ll have some stuff for you guys to see for that. And when we are long distance we
do Skype at least twice a day every single day. It kinda works out well that our time
zones are almost completely opposite because that means that every day when he’s going
to sleep I’m waking up and vice versa. So it’s easy for us to talk at both of those
times. And it also works out that he’s the first person I can see when I wake up every
morning. He actually calls me on Skype to wake me up every day for work. And he’s the
last person I see when I go to sleep at night, too. So I think that helps in our relationship.
So that’s kinda why being in a long distance relationship works out so well for us, because
neither of us need to be in a relationship in the first place, so there’s no threat of
someone coming along and seducing us. We don’t go out and party and like flirt with people,
or get drunk and kiss people. I mean, I know I made that video a while ago where I was
drunk, but that is actually the first time in my life I’ve ever been drunk. And it’s
the only time so far. So, since we knew that we wanted to be with each other so much, we
don’t have a problem waiting for each other as long as it takes, even though it’s difficult
being apart. I mean, to me it doesn’t even make sense to break up because of a long distance
relationship because time’s going to pass eventually anyway. And there would come that
day at some point where we could have been together. And if we break up then I wouldn’t
have him now and I wouldn’t have him in the future. And why would I even do that? Because
eventually we will be able to be together. I mean it’s painful, but I would much rather
wait for him as long as necessary than not have him at all. So that’s a little bit about
our relationship. I hope that satisfied some of your curiosity for now. We’ll talk about
more about how we met and everything in the future at some point. But for now please look
forward to some videos of us together starting next week! And I’ll see you guys next time!