Yummy. Thank you!
That was so good.
You know, all those years,
25 years of doing the Oprah Show,
and going into work at 5:30 in the morning,
and the makeup chair by 6:30,
and literally crawling home at night for 25 years,
I used to wonder what the ladies who lunch were doing.
Really I was attracted to, like,
paintings of women lunching.
And so this is what is like.
But even better, this is an empowerment lunch.
You know, I, I changed how I viewed power about
There was a book I read by umm…a man named Gary Zukav,
called SEAT OF THE SOUL.
And in SEAT OF THE SOUL, he defined what is true power,
what is authentic power.
And, and his definition of authentic power,
meaning the kind of power that can never be taken from you.
Not your looks, not your fame,
not your money, not your square footage.
But authentic power is when the personality…
your personality comes to serve the energy of your soul.
When you are able to align who you are,
who you become in the world,
with really what you’ve come to do in the world
when your personality serves the soul.
So I thought a lot about that,
that book was actually life-changing for me.
And I was building a home in Santa Babara.
And, as anybody who’s ever built a bathroom or a home or anything,
nothing ever happens on time.
And it was 2002,
when what’s supposed to be finished and it wasn’t finished.
And I was like, “I can’t wait to get in my house!”
And I’m finally gonna have a great Christmas,
and I’m gonna do the kind of Christmas
that I’ve dreamed of.
From The Courier and I’ve just,
you know cards,
so I am gonna have wreaths on the door.
But I didn’t have a floor,
so it’s a little difficult to do that.
So I started to think if I can’t do that Christmas,
well, what, what am I gonna do for Christmas?
My house isn’t even ready and what can I do?
So I started as I was walking around through the trees,
sitting under that tree.
Cause my favorite time is to be alone with my thoughts.
And as I was alone with my thoughts,
I was thinking what would be the next best possible Christmas for myself.
And I thought of the best Christmas I’ve ever had.
The best Christmas I’ve ever had was when I was 12 years old.
My mother was on welfare.
I was living with my mother and I have brother and sister in the Milwaukee.
My mother called me, the oldest, to say, into a room to say,
“We won’t be having Christmas this year.”
So we won’t be having Christmas.
“What about Santa Claus?”
“There is no Santa Claus.”
我已经知道了 不过 也只能这样了
I had already figured that out. But, okay.
I was embarrassed and I was ashamed,
because for the first time,
I had to face the reality, that
Yeah, what I’ve been suspecting
that “we’re not like the other kids, that we really are poor”, it’s true.
So we’re not gonna have Christmas and there is no Santa Claus.
My first thought after being embarrassed and ashamed
was what will my story be.
What am I going to tell everybody?
When we go back to school and they’re showing their toys.
And I don’t have anything to talk about.
What am I gonna do?
I am not gonna go outside tomorrow
when everybody is out in the yards,
in their yards showing the toys they got for Christmas,
I’m gonna staying inside and I’m gonna pretend I’m sick.
What am… what is my story going to be?
Well, late that night, some nuns showed up at our house,
and they brought a basket of food.
And they brought toys for my umm…my brother and sister
And I was overwhelmed with joy
that those nuts showed up,
Not because they brought me a Tammy doll,
when I really wanted a Barbie doll.
I was overwhelmed because
SOMEBODY remembered that we existed,
and somebody cared enough,
in the middle of the night to come to our house with food and toys,
and also I would now have a story.
So, as I was contemplating what is the…
that was the best Christmas I’ve ever had.
I thought how could I make that possible for somebody else.
What could I do
to create the same kind of experience for other children?
So, I took 50 members of my team in Harpo.
Harriet, one of them, Sherry, the table.
And hired another 50 people in South Africa.
And we went to South Africa with the idea of creating
something that we ended up in doing a documentary about
called Christmas Kindness.
Christmas Kindness using
my personality to serve the energy of my soul.
So, we went from village to village,
offering toys and clothes, food, soccer balls
分发玩具 衣物 食品和足球
to children who’d never experienced Christmas before.
And early in the morning, you could see them lining up by the thousands to come.
And we actually went to ten or twelve villages to do this.
And people said to me at the time,
“噢 做这些是无用功 孩子不会记着这些东西的
“Oh, that’s so frivolous and the kids won’t remember it.”
“And why don’t you use your money to do something else more substantial, Oprah?”
And I said that “they may not remember the toy,
they may not remember the clothes although,
they were most excited that
children to open boxes containing clothes”.
Because as a caretaker said to us,
“Having new clothes made them not feel poor.”
And for so many of these kids,
it’s the first time they ever experienced
having something that was NEW for them.
They may not remember what they got in the box,
but they will remember
that somebody remember them.
They will remember the experience.
So, doing this entire experience,
Nelson Mandela had invited umm… Steadman and I to stay at his home.
So when Nelson Mandela invites you to stay.
And I was so nervous.
当时我是这样的“噢 我的天啊 我该说什么？”
I was like, “Oh my God, what am I gonna talk to?”
Because it’s TEN days.
It’s ten days. It’s not just a dinner, it’s not a lunch,
it’s ten days.
It’s ten days, breakfast, lunch and dinner with Nelson Mandala.
What am I gonna say?
Steadman said, “Why don’t you try listening?”
[Laughing and Applause]
So I did.
At twenty-nine meals with Nelson Mandala.
At first, really really really I was very, you know,
我一直是这样的 “噢 我的天 这可是曼德拉啊”
like, oh my God, it’s Nelson Mandala.
And by the third or forth day,
he and I would sit together in his living room,
sharing the paper at the end of the day,
talking about events in the world.
And one of the things we came to talk about the most was
the power of education to overcome poverty.
So in one of those lucid moments, I said to him,
“Well, you know, I’ve always wanted to build a school.”
He said, “You wanna build a school?”
“Oprah, you wanna build a school?”
So he got up and made a phone call to the Minister of Education.
“I was planning on building it then”
“But all right.”
The Minister of Education comes over later in the day,
and we started the process of building a school.
The reason why I wanted to build a school
cause I tried different things,
cause I always knew even before I could articulate
that my personality needs to serve my soul.
I always knew that to whom much is given.
As the Bible says,
期望越多 被赐予得越多 就越有义务给予他人
“Much is expected, much is not just expected, much is required.”
So from the first time, I came to Chicago
and started to make more money
than I needed to actually pay my bills.
I reached out and was going to form a umm… a sister group
trying to help young girls in the project.
And I discovered I wasn’t able to do what I really NEEDed
to change the trajectory of those girls’ lives,
because every girl that we would take out of the project
to spend time with on the weekends, my producer and I,
they would have to go back home into the same environment.
And it was impossible to just change the way they
saw themselves in the world.
So, by trial and error,
I knew that in order to literally CHANGE the way a girl sees herself,
I would need enough time emm… to spend with her,
Emm… to be able to hire the right kind of teachers,
the right kind of administration
to be surrounded by a nurturing environment,
to allow that girl to change the way she felt about herself
and saw herself in the world.
So the idea of creating a boarding school, that was surrounded by beauty,
the kind of school that I would want to go to.
And I tell you when I first set down with the architects.
And said I wanted to build a great school,
a great school for leaders
that would change the lives of women
and they would be able to break the cycle of poverty
for themselves and their families forever.
And become a part of the real and true, new and free South Africa.
What the architects said to me,
“Well, these are poor girls.
These girls, these girls.”
I said “Well, where the closets, where the…
外层空间是哪里 舞台在哪里 剧场在哪里”
where is the space, where is the drama, where is the theatre.”
And they said “Well, these are poor girls,
these girls really don’t come from families with clothes
and a lot of them have lost their families.
And I said, “But they WILL have clothes,
and they WILL be able to do drama,
and they WILL be able to excel beyond anybody’s dreams.”
And that is exactly what has happened five years later.
As Aven mentioned,
we’re now approaching our goal over the end of November,
and we have our fifth graduating class
Umm… this coming, uhh… June uhh…
43 girls graduating at South Africa.
I have 7 in the United States graduating, I have 20 girls in the United States.
One of them, Shaddai, is here today, umm…
Stand up, Shaddai! Say Hi.
This young woman who is now a junior at Stanford.
I met when she was 12 years old,
and I did the interview and said,
tell me why you want to, do you want to come to this school,
And she says, “I really want to come,
I really, really want to come.”
A dozen “really”s.
她在7年级 8年级 10年级和12年级期间
And, and she is done magnificent work
throughout seventh grade, eighth grade, tenth grade, twelfth grade,
and from the moment, umm…
my goddaughter Corby who’s also here today who’s Gill’s daughter.
I came to speak to the girls at the school.
Corby was attending Stanford for the moment.
Shaddai heard Corby speak about Stanford.
Umm, she said that she knew that those were her people.
And so, uh, when we went to Stanford and looked at the campus,
她跟我说“妈妈 我同学就是这样的 这就是我同学的样子”
she said, “Mama, these are my peeps. These are my peeps.”
So, this is what I know.
That being here today and hearing from
来听苏珊 格温妮丝 萨玛 瑞贝卡 杰玛 安娜和我们所有人的分享
Susan and Gwyneth and Salma and Rebecca and Gemara and Anna and all of us.
It’s a really good thing.
But I have always known this about celebrity.
The real power of being somebody that somebody knows.
And I really think the only difference between being famous and not
is that more people know your name.
So the only difference between understanding that
is understanding that what Salma has done,
what Susan has done,
what Anna has done, Rebecca has done,
what Jim has done, what I’ve done.
You TOO can do.
Because true philanthropy comes from
living from the heart of yourself,
and giving what you have been given.
How will you do that?
How will you use your personality?
The energy of your personality,
to serve that which is your soul’s calling?
I know this for sure.
Any life, no matter how fantastic it is,
how glorious it seems,
how much attention you receive,
how much square footage you have.
Any life and every life is enhanced by the sharing and the giving,
and the opening-up of the heart space.
Your life gets better,
when you can find a way to share it with someone else.
So what we’ve done, you can do.
The real empowerment comes,
when every person leaves this room and makes a decision.
Makes a decision.
Maybe that decision is that
you’ll write a cheque and support some of the wonderful organization you’ve heard today.
But the true decision is
how will you use yourself.
How will you use everything that you have been given
to serve that which is greater than yourself.
How will you use that to become truly, authentically empowered?
Now, it is a beautiful thing to
receive an award and to be on the cover of a Variety.
Thank you very much!
It’s a beautiful thing.
But the true reward is in the lives that you are able to touch
and the people who you know you have impacted.
嗯……玛雅·安吉露 我亲爱的指引者 导师 朋友
Umm… my beloved mentor, teacher, friend, mother.
Maya Angelou passed away last year.
And I remembered when I opened a school,
I was so happy that finally it happened.
We got it done.
And when we got through all the bureaucracy and all the stuffs that it takes
to build a school from the ground up.
我对玛雅说“噢 我的上帝 玛雅 这将是我的……
And I said to Maya, “oh, my God. Maya, this is gonna be my…
this is going… this is my legacy.”
And Maya said, “You have no idea.”
You have no IDEA what your legacy is.
Your legacy is EVERY life you have touched.
Your legacy is EVERY person you have met, whose influence was felt by you.
Every single person.
So she said,
it’s every person who’s ever watched this show
and decided that they were gonna go back to school.
Or watch the show and decided, that I’m going to leave my husband.
I’m going to not no longer to be a victim of abuse.
Every person who watched the show and said I am a victim of abuse.
And because I saw this, I now can stand up for myself.
Every person who gained a voice because of you.
You have no IDEA what your legacy is.
Your legacy is every life that you touch.
And so, as you live here today, the decision is whose lives will that be.
How will you use yourself in such a way
that your impact in your legacy will live beyond the doing.
So, the great reward for me
is knowing that what I’m doing,
and how I’ve done it,
and how I choose to live
in the space that I called God,
how in God
我应如何呼吸 行动 拥有我的一席之地
I move and breathe and have my being
and I try to move from the center of that
is able to literally touch the lives of other people.
Uhh… I said to the girls when they first came to the school
we found them in villages and we found them in townships.
We went out… some kids were having school in a boxcar
on their rail road track and some under a tree and…
I said to the girls that trajectory of your life is about to change.
And I only ask one thing of you:
Is that you give as MUCH of yourself
as I and the school is willing to give to you.
And Becky Sikes, who’s a head of our foundation spend so much…
Stand up, Becky.
Spend so much time with the girls and thought for this.
And so this is true reward.
I just want to share this with you.
Shady is here because she is the only of the 20 girls
who are in school in the United States…
Uh, in school from there girls range from the:
布朗大学 曼荷莲学院 卫斯理学院 约翰逊C.史密斯大学
Brown, Mount Holyoke, Wellesley, Johnson C Smith,
斯派曼大学 科罗拉多大学 俄勒冈大学 斯坦福大学
Spellman, Colorado, Oregon, Stanford
She is the only one had Fridays off. So…
I said to everybody, “emm emm… I getting out of class,
to come to variety, NO!”
June of this year, we saw the girls are out in the world.
We’ve done this thing that Susan was talking about,
uhh, touching the lives of girls.
When you change a girl’s life,
you don’t just change a girl’s life,
you change the communities’ life, you change a family’s life .
Because what girls do is they take it back home,
they take it to their families, they take it to their communities. So,
uhh, my girls are all over the country in internships, in working, in…
doing multiple things, uhh, during the summer months.
And one of my daughters, I call them my daughters, uhh…
Avekila, who’s at Colorado College,
was working in went back to Cape Town, to work in Cape Town this summer.
And she’d always wanted to be a doctor
and plan to major in medicine
in the summer made the decision
that she was gonna switch to public health.
So when they leave, I always say
保持联系 跟我说一声就行 就发个短信
just keeping, just let me know, just sent a text.
You don’t even have to say you’ve arrived, just send an emoji.
你们知道的 就那个打招呼的表情 嗯……
Emoji, “hello, I’m here. ” Uhh…
But she wrote me this AMAZING letter.
That… will be something I treasure forever.
I just wanted to share a bit of it with you today.
She wrote this on June 11th,
after having arrived in Cape Town and uhh…
being in a house with all of these students from different parts of the world.
She writes… this is the girl who we found to,
who would have had a very different life.
But she writes: “The other day we were all sitting around table
and began to have a heated, passionate,
respectful and compassionate
and most important for fulfilling discussion,
about what we want our own country and our nation to be.
What we should be doing as the use of this country to make it better.
For the first time,
I really believe I have hope for a better future.
We talked about what male privilege means,
what white privilege means.
And the chains of victimization.
噢 我的妈妈 天啊！
Oh, my mom, oh!
It was challenging, yet so insightful.
It felt good to know
that I could share my opinion
with the group of only guys
and know that if my opinion was disagreed upon,
it was solid because of the quality of my opinion
and not because I’m a girl.
I’m finding myself being able to let go
and be me without fear or what the person thinks.
When I think I could go deep with someone I do,
and most of the time it turns out that person was also seeking the same thing.
I’m making mistakes;
and I’m questioning.
And I’m also growing.
And I have to tell you,
I am filled with gratitude,
so much gratitude that I can see the sights that I can see;
and meet the people I have met;
and continued to be favoured by God.
That’s the true reward.