I’m Lucy, and I run the YouTube channel,
“English With Lucy,” which teaches
English as a second language.
And today, I’m going to talk to you about online safety
and making your online experience a positive one.
When people take an interest in you,
they really do pick up way more information
than you would ever imagine.
When I just started my channel, because I
didn’t have that many subscribers compared
to other YouTubers, I felt quite safe with the information
that I was sharing.
Little did I know that somebody was keeping
an eye on what I was sharing.
This one ran that did manage to scare me quite a bit
actually found out my full address and phone number
and sent it to me.
I never put my address out on the internet.
He’d managed to piece together lots
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of different bits of information from all
of my videos, and photos, and geotagging,
and work out exactly where I live, right to the house name.
The best thing you could possibly do
is start off on the right foot.
So define exactly what you want to share, and stick to it,
and always have that in the back of your mind.
Also, be open with it.
Be open about what you are comfortable with
and what you aren’t comfortable with.
There’s a line, and it can’t be crossed.
You are a real person, and you need to be respected.
One thing I do get is a lot of criticism–
sometimes constructive, sometimes not so constructive.
And I must admit, sometimes, it’s a little bit
hard to swallow, because let’s face it.
You’re putting yourself out there on the internet.
People aren’t going to like it always.
So when I get constructive criticism or a really negative
comment, if it’s politely worded, then I will reply.
If it’s really negative, I’ll reply with a sort of joke,
or I’ll make light of the situation.
I’ll try and put a positive spin on it.
I get a lot of hate comments, much more
than you would ever imagine.
When I started out the channel and I
was getting some funny comments, I sometimes
would name and shame or really respond to them.
And I’ve just found that the best way of dealing with them
is ignoring them, just a very quiet report,
or blocking them from the page.
Never say a word, and keep it really, really positive.
So I like to be seen to be rewarding really,
really positive and lovely messages publicly.
And so people realize that the best way to get response
is by being nice and friendly, and that being negative
gets you nothing at all.
A worst case scenario, if somebody is misbehaving,
They’re not welcome anymore.
I think my biggest tip to anyone who uses the internet
and receives any sort of hate message
is try to imagine the person that’s writing that message.
It might be a 12-year-old that’s having a really bad day.
It might be somebody that’s just going through a breakup.
You don’t know what they’re going through.
Why are they doing it?
Why, instead of being out on a lovely run,
or out with their friends?
Why are they sat in their room, on their own,
writing horrible messages to you?
It’s because they’re not happy.
And so that’s why they’re spreading hate.
And I find that imagining that and trying
to envision that instead of feeling angry with them,
it actually makes me sympathize a little bit
and feel sorry for them.
The best thing you can do is feel sorry for the haters,
rather than angry and offended by the haters.
Kill them with kindness.
Be nice to them.
And if you still don’t get a good response, leave them.
It’s really, really important to be aware
that what you’re sharing can be seen by anyone.
A while back, there was a huge trend on YouTube
about sharing story times.
I shared a story about a miscommunication
from a student.
But it was a bit of a naughty story,
because he asked me if I wanted any peanuts.
But he mispronounced the word, and it sounded like something
a little bit dirty.
And I shared this video and this story,
thinking it was going to be really, really funny
and going to motivate my students to be really, really
careful with their pronunciation.
I didn’t expect it to get that many views.
I didn’t have that many subscribers at the time.
I wasn’t getting that many views on each video,
but it did go a bit viral.
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Sometimes, I’ll meet people like my friend’s mums or something
And they’ll say, oh, yeah.
I saw that video that you made about the peanuts.
That is not a good first impression there.
You never know who’s going to take
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an interest in what you’re up to, where you are, who you are.
You just don’t know, so it’s better to be safe than sorry.
I would definitely think twice before geotagging anything
around your house, where you live,
or where you work, or places that you visit frequently,
because if somebody wants to find you,
and they see that you have coffee at the same cafe
every Monday at 7 o’clock in the morning.
They could be there and they could find you.
Also, one more thing that
I didn’t think about is disclosing
when I’m going to be on holiday,
because if somebody does work out where you live
and they know that you’re traveling the world for two months,
you might come back to a nasty surprise.
So looking back, I wish I had been more careful
from the very, very beginning.
Just don’t forget that it’s your page.
It’s your social media, and you have the right
to have it as you want it.
Thank you for joining me here today
to learn about online safety and make the internet
a better place.
And don’t forget to check out my channel, “English With Lucy.”