Jeanie, Will and Adinaare three senior citizens
connected by a special relationship.
They view their bond as a shield from the loneliness of aging.
I first met them at a retirementhome in Los Angeles,
where I had been photographingfor three years.
I saw as they approachedthe gate one night,
and felt an immediate connection to them.
Although I didn’t know the detailsof their love triangle,
I intuitively felt that I had to find out who they were.
Questioning a nursea day later, she said to me, “Oh,
you’re talking about the threesome.”
I was intrigued.
The trio set out
on a daily adventure to coffee and doughnut shops,
bus stops and street corners.
I soon learned that the purposeof these outings was solace
and a search for meaning.
The trio sought to combat their alienation
by literally integrating themselvesin public streets. Yet,
even when arm in arm,no one saw them.
We often think that as we age,
we lose the desires held in our youth. Actually,
但事实上 作为一名少年摄影记者 当我遇到他们三个人时
as a teenage photojournalistwhen I met the trio,
I saw their behavior as a mirror
to the fears of exclusionand desires for intimacy
that I also carried.
I related to their invisibility,
which pained me during my childhood
but has become my greatest assetas an immersive documentarian,
because I can just fade into my empathy.
As we walked downthe streets of Hollywood,
在这一个编剧 演员 和制片人比比皆是的社区里
in a neighborhood of screenwriters,actors and filmmakers,
the trio assumed the invisibilitythat each senior does.
I would ask myself,
“ How is it that no one else sees these three human beings?
Why is it that I am the only one who sees them?
as I began to share this work with the public,
I noticed that people are largelyuncomfortable with this story.
Perhaps it is because the triodoesn’t assume conventional notions
不符合世俗对爱情 浪漫 伴侣关系的传统看法
associated with love,romance or partnership.
They were unseen in publicand shunned by their peers.
They wanted to belong somewhere
but only seemed to belong with each other.
I wanted to belong somewhere, too.
And my camera has been a catalyst for me to belong everywhere.
But beyond challenging socioculturalnorms about the elderly,
the trio sheds lighton fear of remoteness.
At the end of each day, they return to their respective retirement homes.
Under the surface of their aloneness,
there is a desire for community,for their people.
There was a sense
that they were each yearning for their tribe,
but that comfort comes with compromise,
because Will cannot commit to one woman.
Sitting with Jeanie one day in her apartment,
she said to me,
“Sharing Will is a thorn in your side.
A relationship between a manand a woman is private.
是属于两个人的 不是三个人的 ”
It is a couple, not a trio.”
My process is to essentiallybecome the people I document
所记录的人 以一个的观察者——居住者的身份 通过与他们相处多年
by spending years with themas an observer-occupant,
to create a safe space, to then become hidden in plain sight.
I was about 17 when I met the trio,
and I shadowed them for four years.
We actually see, in the breakdownof social development,
that adolescence and old agelook strikingly alike,
because both are periodsof identity confusion.
I identified with the women.
但同样的 我也认同威尔 他让我意识到了我内在的分裂
But also with Will, who made me aware of the divide in me.
The schism that we each often have
都具有的： 我们内心渴望的 以及我们实际的处境
about what we craveand the actuality of our situation.
Before shooting this series,
I was also
in love with two different people who knew about each other,
being the object over which they fought.
But I also knew what it was like to be
at the base of the triangle,
like Jeanie or Adina, asking myself,
“Why aren’t I enough?”
I would look through my viewfinderand see three elderly figures,
and it became impossible to denythat regardless of age,
we were each in pursuit of filling the proverbial hole through other people.
也许我们之所以听完珍妮 威尔 还有阿迪娜的故事感到不舒服
Perhaps the discomfort of lookingat Jeanie, Will and Adina’s story
is truly a reminderthat even at the end of life,
we may never reach the fantasywe have envisioned for ourselves.
Thank you for listening.