Today is not about me Today is about you!
I know What it feels like to sit on a bench
I know what it feels like to get knocked down
I know what it feels like to have a hope and a dream
And nobody believes in it…
But a few people But here’s what I know.
If you wake up in the morning and cut off the news
and every single day you look like success and look like money
and every time you go into a home you understand the power
of likeability every time you go into a home,
you make sure you don’t communicate you make sure you connect.
I guarantee you all the time as you water that tree,
all the time as you build that root system.
Over time, I promise you that tree will grow and
before you know it you will have your own little personal harvest.
And don’t you quit!
Until you’re number one.
Life’s not easy.
It is not! Don’t try to make it that way.
Life’s not fair.
从来没公平过 现在是这样 未来也是
Never was, it isn’t now and it won’t ever be.
Do not fall into the trap the entitlement trap
of feeling like you’re a victim.
You are not!
Get over it and get on with it,
and yes most things are more rewarding
when you break a sweat to get them.
Look, the first step that leads to our identity in life
is usually not I know who I am,
I know who I am that’s not the first step.
The first step’s usually I Know Who I am not.
Process of elimination.
Defining ourselves by what we are not is
the first step that leads us to really knowing who we are.
You know that group of friends that you hang out
with that really might not bring out the best in you.
You know they they gossip too much, or they’re kind of shady.
They really aren’t gonna be there for you in a pinch.
Or how about that bar?
That we keep going to
that we always seem to have the worst hangover from?
Or that computer screen, right?
That computer screen that keeps giving us an
excuse not to get out of the house and
engage with the world and get some real human interaction.
How about that food
that we keep eating the stuff that tastes so good going down.
It makes us feel like crap the next week?
We feel lethargic and we keep putting on weight.
而对于那些是非之人 是非之地 是非之物
Well those people those places those things,
stop giving them your time and energy.
Just don’t go there.
I mean put them down.
And when you do this when you do
put them down when you quit going there.
And you quit giving them your time,
you inadvertently find yourself spending more time and in more places.
That are healthy for you that bring you more joy.
We so often focus on failure, don’t we?
We study failure
纠缠于失败 一遍遍剖析 辗转难安
obsessed with failure we dissect failure and our failures.
We dissect them so much,
we end up intoxicated with them to the point of disillusion.
And when do we write in our diary?
Usually when we’re depressed.
What are we gossiping about? Other people’s flaws and limitations.
And we can dissect ourselves into self-loathing if we’re not careful.
I find that most of the times our obsession
with what is wrong just ends up reading more wrong
And the easiest way to dissect success
is through gratitude.
Giving thanks for that which we
do have or what is working.
Appreciating the simple things we sometimes take for granted.
We give thanks for these things and that gratitude
reciprocates, creating more to be thankful for.
It’s really simple and it works!
Define success for yourself!
Define success for yourself, but check this out.
I’m in South of New Orleans a few years ago.
I went to a voodoo shop.
And they had this this wooden partition against the wall
of these columns and in these columns were all these
vials of these magic potions right and the headings
above each potion defining what they would give you were things like fertility,
健康 家庭 合法健康 能量
health, family, legal health, energy,
Guess whose column was empty?
Money’s king today.
It’s what makes the world go around.
金钱就是成功 钱越多代表人越成功 是吧？
It is success the more we have the more successful we are, right?
Now I would argue that our cultural values.
Have even been financialized Humility is not in vogue anymore.
It’s too passive.
It’s a get-rich-quick-on-the-Internet-riches-15-minutes-of-fame-world
that we live in and we see it every day.
But we all want to succeed, right?
So the question that we gotta ask ourselves is what
success is to us? What success is to you?
Is it more money?
That’s fine. I got nothing against money
Maybe it’s a healthy family.
Maybe it’s a happy marriage.
Maybe it’s to help others
to be famous to be spiritually sound.
Leave the world a little bit better place
that you found it.
Continue to ask yourself that question.
Now your answer may change over time and that’s fine,
but do yourself this favor:
Whatever your answer is
don’t choose anything that will jeopardize your soul.
Prioritize who you are who you want to
be and don’t spend time with anything that
antagonizes your character!
兄弟 不要喝酷爱牌饮料 虽然当时很甜
Don’t drink the kool-aid, man! It tastes sweet.
But you will get cavities tomorrow, alright?
Life is not a popularity contest!
Be brave, take the hill, but first answer that question.
What’s my hill?
So first we have to define success for ourselves.
And then we have to put in the work to maintain it.
Take that daily tally,
tend our garden keep the things that are important to us in good shape.
I mean, let’s submit it.
We’ve all got two wolves in us: a good one and a bad one.
And they both want to eat.
The best I can tell you: we just got to feed that good one a little more than the other one.