嘿 朋友们 这里是实用心理学 在这个视频里
Hey guys,it’s practice psychology and in this video
Improvement Pill is going to be teaching us how to text girls with the intention of setting up a date
and don’t forget to check out his channel
if you enjoy a smooth voice and mesmerizing mentorship in the link below.
Hey, guys,Improvemente Pill here
For those of you who don’t know who I am.I run a channel very similar to practical psychologies
Today we’re going to be talking about yet another popular topic
that you guys have been requesting: how to text girls.
Nowadays, more and more people are communicating using instant messaging,
包括脸书通讯 照片墙 色拉布 当然还有过时的短信方式
this includes things like Facebook messenger, Instagram, Snapchat and of course good old-fashioned texting,
which is why today I’m going to show you exactly what the most effective way of messaging and texting a girl is.
Especially if your goal is to start something more than just a friendship.
现在 在我们开始之前 我想解释清楚关于发短信的一些东西
Now, before we get started, I want to clarify something about texting.
Texting is not something you want to do a lot of.
In fact, you should keep your texting to a minimum.
The number one goal of texting should be to set up a face-to-face interaction.
This is because the more you texting someone,the more time it looks like you have.
Think about it this way.If you’re a guy who has a lot going on in his life.
你有很多计划要做 你有兴趣爱好去享受 你有朋友一起去闲逛
You have projects to work on you have hobbies to enjoy, you have friends that you hang out with.
How often do you respond to texts? Not often.
That’s because when you’re having a good time
when you’re enjoying life, you’re not on your phone.
So the more you text someone,the more free time it looks like you have.
The more free time you have, the more of a looser you look like.
And girls are very keen to picking up on this.
Funny enough, a very strange thing happens.
When you stop responding to messages as frequently as you used to.
In fact, it’s happened to me multiple times.
I’ll be having a conversation with a girl over to incident and she’ll say something
I’ll take a look at it and then get sidetracked on my business or what’s in front of me.
你看 四个小时后 这姑娘再次发信息给我 试着重新开始那个谈话
Lo and behold, four hours later, the girl messages me again trying to restart the conversation.
Why do they want to respond to the conversation?
Well, it’s because they know that I’m somebody was a very fun life,
我的生活如此让人兴奋 感到有趣 以至于我全然不记得回复她们 她们想要加入进来
a life so exciting and fun that I honestly forgot to respond to them. And they want in.
They want to hang out with somebody like that.
好了 这个话题说得够多了 让我们聊聊实际的短信环境
Alright, so enough with that. Let’s talk about the actual context of texting.
Again, I want to emphasize that
the number one goal for texting should be to set up a face-to-face interaction.
This is mainly because attraction is most easily built in person.
你打算如何通过信息展示自信的身体语言 开玩笑地触摸她 和她拥有亲密的私人时刻
How are you going to display confident body language,playfully touch her and have an intimate private moment over text?
It’s not possible. You can’t,
even if you’re extremely good at all three of those things,
but you never meet up with her in person, she’ll never know that you have them.
第二个目的是跟她展示我很好玩 如果你很无聊 为什么有人会想跟你出去玩
The number two goal is to show her that I’m fun. If you’re not fun, why would anyone want to hang out with you
And of caurse, the best way of teach these is a real-life example
So I’m going to pull a random interaction I had with a girl on Tinder,
which is something that I stopped using a long time ago.
So the first thing I do is look at a profile. 99% of the time you’re going to have to send the first message.
Messages there are somehow related to her profile have the highest response rates.
So I noticed that she says friends only. And I’m going to tease her about it.
My mentality when it comes to texting is to have fun and make really stupid jokes.
So, as you can see right here, I throw in a cheesy little joke.
The next thing I bring up is where she’s from. This is called a qualifying question.
It gives me some information that I will need in order to meet up with her in person.
It gives me an idea of where our good spots that I can bring her.
It brings me one step closer to getting her number and meeting her face to face.
So the next thing you’ll notice me doing is talk about her work.
Here I’m doing two things. First thing I say is that it’s boring,
which shows her I don’t mind speaking my mind.
The second thing I do is I throw in another qualifying question that is related to the subject at hand.
如果她的工作很无聊 她肯定会做些有趣的事 对吧
If her work is boring, she must do something fun. Right?
This does two things. Number one is it puts her in a position where she needs to prove herself.
所以想想 噢 我不无聊 我做这个 这个很有趣
So, think, oh, I’m not boring, I do this and this were fun.
And number two is it gives me more information, as to where I can bring her.
如果她喜欢喝酒 我们可以出去喝一杯 如果她喜欢抽烟我们也可以去抽烟
If she likes drinking,we can go for a drink. If she likes smoking hookah, we can do that.
不管是什么它真的并不要紧 所以我发现她喜欢喝酒 我就这个揶揄她
Whatever it is, it doesn’t really matter. So I find out that she likes drinking, and I tease her about it.
because while she’s technically under age. The type of teasing humor is called role-playing,
and it’s extremely powerful.If she chooses to play along with it which she does.
I make another joke, and I immediately ask her another qualifying question.
This one is especially important. As now I’m only a couple of steps away from actually hanging out with her in person.
And you’ll notice the pattern here I always say something that is fun,
and then I immediately ask a qualifying question.
I show her that I’m worth hanging out with.
然后我采取行动让我们能够出去 她乐在其中 因为她实际上觉得我很有趣
And I make a move to actually get us to hang out. She plays along, because she actually thinks that I’m fun.
A good tip to keep in mind, is to never say things like “do you want to” or “would you like to”.
You want a Fraser sentence, so that you’re suggesting something for both of you guys to do.
她仍然可能拒绝 她想去 但是这需要更多的信任
She can still say no. She wants to,but this portrays more confidence.
Okay, so she’s done with the plan.
I tell her that I’m going to text her a day or two before the actual date.
And I ask for her number which she gives me. I don’t text her again until the day before the date.
And the only thing I ask is “are you still coming”. And I also give
我也会给她细节 就这些了 期间没有更多信息
her the details. That’s it. No more texting in between.
So as you can see this is basically how I text girls. I text them as little as possible,
with the primary goal of setting up a face-to-face interaction,which is basically a date.
My other goal is to make sure that I sound as carefree and fun as possible.
朋友们 再说一次 我的名字是改进药丸
Again, guys, my name is Improvement Hill.
I run a channel similar to practice psychology.
If you guys are interested in learning more about getting girls like you. I suggest you
check out the description below and watch my video there.
嘿 朋友们 这里是实用心理学 在这个视频里