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如何应对尴尬

How to Really Handle Being Embarrassed

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我们都经历过尴尬时刻
We’ve all experienced embarrassing moments,
比如从楼梯上滚下来
whether that means tripping down the stairs,
咖啡洒到身上
spilling coffee on ourselves or
或是食物
smiling at our crush with food
塞在牙缝里
stuck in between our teeth.
我们误以为
There’s a misconception that
到了某个年纪
by the time you hit a certain age
进入成年会稳定下来
and settle into adulthood.
那么你就会一并遭受
Then you’ll have it all together.
但是真相是
But truthfully,
我们总是遭受尴尬
we’ll all continue to have embarrassing moments
只要我们活着
for as long as we live.
如果犯错和作为人类是必然的
If making mistakes and being human is inevitable,
那么我们要怎样面对尴尬时刻呢
then how can you cope with humiliating moments.
以下是面对尴尬的6种有效方式
Here are 6 effective ways to handle embarrassment.
1.不要自责
1.Don’t beat yourself up.
没关系的
It’s okay.
尴尬常与完美主义
Embarrassment often goes hand in hand
紧密相连
with perfectionism.
当你认为自己没有
When you feel as though you aren’t
达到自己的标准时
meeting up to your own standards,
很容易会陷入自责的圈套
it’s easy to fall into the trap of self-criticism.
因此
As a result,
你会认为基于上次糟糕的经历
you may feel your next performance won’t go as well,
下次也不会有完美的表现
based on past bad experiences.
但是不要因自己的错误
But don’t beat yourself up
和失败自责
over your mistakes and failures.
而是要允许自己不完美
Instead, allow yourself to be imperfect
将自己的尴尬时刻
and see your embarrassing moments
看做是变得更好的一次学习机会
as learning opportunities to get better.
搞砸了也没关系
It’s okay to mess up.
2.专注尴尬时刻的非情感细节
2.Focus on the non-emotional details of the moment.
Ekaterina Denkova博士表示
According to Dr. Ekaterina Denkova,
下次你的思绪
the next time your mind decides to
重演尴尬时刻时
replay an embarrassing moment,
试着将注意力放在非感情细节上
try to steer your attention to the non- emotional details,
比如你那时穿的衣服是什么颜色
such as the color of the shirt you were wearing,
那天的天气如何
the setting or what the weather was like.
这样能够帮助你从那次记忆里抽离出来
This will help you detach from the memory.
与你专注于尴尬情绪的负面情绪相比
And you won’t remember it
这么做你就不会
as intensely compared to when you focus on the negativity,
对上次的尴尬记得那么清楚了
which can stir up your embarrassed feelings again.
当我经历更严重的情绪时
When you experience heightened emotions,
只会让你难以忘记上次的经历 无法继续向前
it makes it harder for you to let go and move on.
我建议大家专注于
We recommend that you concentrate on
那些中性状态下的细节
details that put you in a neutral state.
3.一笑置之
3.Laugh it off.
前心理大脑科学教授
According to Dr. Susan Whitbourne,
Susan Whitbourne表示
a former professor of psychological and brain sciences,
应对尴尬最有效的方式
the most effective way to handle embarrassment
是能够直接面对尴尬
is being able to confront it directly.
虽然你的第一本能是逃跑找个地方藏起来
Although your first instinct might be to run away and hide,
但是这样只会延长你的尴尬情绪
this will only prolong your unresolved feelings of embarrassment.
因此重要的是坚持面对这种情况
That’s why it’s important to stick to the situation
直到你的紧张得以消除
until you can alleviate your stress.
Whitbourne建议大家一笑而过
Whitbourne recommends laughing it off
缓解紧张
in order to reduce tension.
毕竟
After all,
待在一个糟糕的情绪中
staying in a serious mood
只会让你执着于消极
will only influence you to hold on to the negativity.
4.将这视为一个讲故事的机会
4.See it as a great storytelling opportunity.
你有没有以分享一个故事
Have you ever shared a story
为开头的陈述
starting with the statement?
嘿 记得我那次算XYZ的问题吗
“Hey, remember that time when I did X, Y & Z?
那太搞笑了
That was so funny.”
通常
More often than not,
讲自己的自己的糗事
it’s your embarrassing moments that
是你能和朋友家人
make the best stories
分享的最好故事
you can share with your friends and family.
发生时可能不开心
While they’re happening, they may not be fun.
但是回想起来
But in retrospect,
很容易发现好傻啊
it’s easier to see how silly they are.
其中最好的是知道自己活下来了
The best part is knowing you survived, too.
所以下次你要尴尬死的时候
So the next time you want to die of embarrassment,
回想一下自己最糗
think of your top 3 embarrassing moments
的三件事
remember that despite those occurrences,
但你仍毫发无损
you’re still here in one piece.
5.和亲近的朋友、
5.Talk it out with a close friend,
爱人或家人谈论自己的尴尬
lover or family member who won’t judge you for it.
隐藏情绪是很难的事情
It’s difficult bottling up your emotions.
所以和你信赖的人谈论自己
So talk about your embarrassing moment
的尴尬时刻
with someone you trust.
与其感觉尴尬时刻
Instead of feeling bad about the situation,
不如告诉他们你的困扰
tell them what’s bothering you.
这样总是能帮助你
It always helps to get support
获得支持和换个角度看待问题 这或许能鼓励你
another perspective that may encourage you
在消极的情况下
to find some positivity
寻找一些积极的方面
in the negative situation.
事实上
In fact,
你信赖的那个人或许也
the person you confide in may also
会分享他们的尴尬事 同样发生
share a similar embarrassing moment that happened to them.
在他们身上的事情
that happened to them.
知道自己并不孤独是一种解脱
It’s always a relief to know that you’re not alone.
6.再试一次
6.Try again.
你可能害怕回到同一个地方
You might dread going back to the same place
看着同样的那群在你尴尬时刻的人
and seeing the same people who were there when you embarrass yourself.
但是要勇敢去面对他们
But be brave and face them.
如果你继续在自己前边建立一堵墙
If you continue to build walls in front of you,
那么情况只会持续更久
the situation will only haunt you longer.
当你躲避尴尬时刻时
Others will also detect the awkwardness
其他人还是会想起你的尴尬时刻
you are projecting when you avoid them,
他们也会难以忘记这件事
which will make it hard for them to forget about it, too.
按常规再次踏出第一步
It might not be easy when you first step in again
继续下去或许很难
and go on with your normal routine.
但是不再来一次就永远不会有进步
But progress can’t be made without starting over.
再试一次 你能行的
Try again. You’ve got this.
你经常经历尴尬吗
Do you have embarrassing moments often?
你是怎么处理的
How do you handle them?
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看过来,教你如何应对尴尬

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Felicity

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Felicity

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