Hi there! I want to welcome you to the Tamed course.
Today we’re gonna discuss the general strategy
that we’re gonna be using
over the course of the next few months.
So you have an idea of what to expect.
There is a common trend that I notice among people
who try to overcome their addictions,
is that they somehow get motivated, maybe they watch the video, read a forum post
or maybe they overheard someone else quitting
and getting tons of benefits.
Whatever it is they feel like this time is going to be special.
This time I’m gonna stay clean for good.
They have all that motivation but they have no strategy no plan of
what to do other than to stay away from their substance of choice.
They’re essentially just throwing it against the wall
and hoping that it sticks.
And more often than not the majority of people fail.
In fact a study found that
only 1 in 10 Americans ever overcome an addiction.
So it’s safe to say that
this plan isn’t that effective.
What I have found is by simply sticking to a strategy any strategy,
your chances of success skyrocket.
That’s why groups like Alcoholics Anonymous are so effective.
They follow a strict set of rules and they have a battle plan.
You need to have the same mindset when it comes to confronting your own addiction,
whether it be pornography, alcohol, smoking, video games, social media,
不管是戒色 戒烟 还是戒酒 戒网瘾
whatever it is you need to have a strategy.
And the strategy that we’re gonna be using over the course of the next couple of months
is one that I found to be particularly effective.
It’s a strategy that I teach to a lot of the people that I coach.
It’s a strategy that works if you can follow it.
So by now all, of you are probably wondering well what is the strategy?
Ok, so here it is.
Instead of focusing all of your energy on your not doing your bad habit,
focus all of your energy instead on building good ones
and by doing so you slowly transform your life into a lifestyle
where your substance of choice
doesn’t even seem that appealing.
This means that the majority of this course
will focus on how to build good habits.
There will be many videos on how habits work,
how they’re formed, how do you make sure
that they are embedded into
your brain for good, then there will be videos
on willpower and self-discipline,
which give you the resources you need to start building these habits.
Then we’re gonna talk about how you can change your environment
both your physical and your social environment.
So that you live in an optimized place
we’re building habits is easier than normal.
And after you’re done learning all of this stuff
it’s up to you to actually take action
follow the things that you’ve learned
and start building these good habits
and slowly over time as you start drilling good habits
into your life you’ll find that things
like pornography and drugs will be less appealing.
黄色网站 毒品 都对你没有任何吸引力了
Now why is this strategy so effective?
Well it really comes down to how habits work.
We’re gonna dive deeper into this concept later on in the course,
but for now just understand that habits can not truly be erased.
Think about riding a bike,
you can stay away from a bike for ages.
But if you learn how to do it at one point in your life
you can easily pick up a bike
and within say thirty minutes you’ll be riding almost as well as you used to.
Our brains store away habits until the day we die
and because of this you can not erase a habit for good.
You can’t just tell yourself that you’re gonna stay away from pornography forever,
and hope that it happens because it’s impossible
to forget habits for good.
It is physically impossible not gonna happen.
But what research has found is that you can alter these habits
但是研究发现 虽然习惯无法被消除 但是却可以被替换
and what I mean by this.
Well let’s say that you’re someone who turns to social media
or smoking whenever you feel bored.
You can alter this habit and replace the action you take
when you feel bored.
So instead of going on Snapchat or Facebook
it is possible to train yourself to read a book
or go to the gym instead.
This applies to those of you with a pornography addiction as well.
If you can alter your habit of watching pornography
by finding something that is also pleasurable to take.
Its place you can change the way that your mind works
instead of reaching out to porn whenever you feel a certain way.
You’ll find yourself reaching out to other things or people or experiences.
And if you can somehow get yourself to start reaching out to habits are beneficial for you,
habits that make you healthier, happier, wealthier,
一些对你有益 能让你更快乐更健康 更富有的习惯
then we’ll have solve the real problem.
You’ll start living a life that’s actually worth living.
And you won’t even need pornography in your life anymore.
and that’s the general strategy that we’re going to be implementing together
over the next couple of months.
Next week we’re going to be talking about the habit loop
and how each and every single habit out there is structured.
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Hi there! I want to welcome you to the Tamed course.