College is an exciting time of your life,
but the first few days might be a little daunting.
Your parents have already dropped you off
and your high school best friends are nowhere to be found.
By the end of the year,
you’ll probably have a solid crew to go out and party with.
But where are they right now?
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But you can use these following tips
to help you make new friends in college
and get started on the adventure of a lifetime.
Tip number one is to join a facebook group before you even go to college.
You can make friends before you even get there.
Search for Facebook groups of your classmates
before you actually arrive.
These Facebook groups are a great way to ask questions
about dorm selections class selections and orientations.
You can type up a post introducing yourself
and asking any questions that you might have about the next coming weeks.
You can ask who’s in your dorms,
who shares your majors.
People like to feel included,
and if they share your interests or schedules,
they’ll most likely reach out to you.
Also you can learn their names and start a conversation
before you even move into your dorm.
Facebook might actually be a little outdated,
but it worked really well when I was in college.
You can also search for local Instagram posts, relevant hashtags,
and maybe even Snapchat stories.
Tip number two is to just keep your dorm door open.
It might sound like a strange tip,
but if you’re living in a dorm,
the best thing you can do is just keep your door open.
If you start getting nervous about making friends,
just remember that everyone there
is probably in the same boat as you.
Most of the freshmen on your floor
are also probably looking to make new friends.
So when you leave your door open,
you invite these people
to step in and have a small chat.
谁知道呢 这些进你门的人 也许就是你一生的挚友
Who knows! These are the people that could end up your best friends for life.
事实上 当我是大一新生时 犯过以下错误
Actually I made this kind of mistake my freshman year.
I was in my room the entire semester
with my door shut,
focused on getting good grades
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And even though I’m in a great place now,
I wish I would have met more people.
and made more friends my first semester in college.
Tip number three is to just say hello.
So if someone else has their door open in their dorm,
the students inside are probably
just trying to make new friends as well.
You can knock on the door and walk in
and just have a conversation with them.
If you feel uncomfortable by saying hello,
you can even bring some snacks in to share.
Sometimes all it takes is a simple icebreaker
just to get a conversation flowing
and to actually meet someone.
Tip number four is to invite people to events.
The first week of college is filled with fun and silly events
to bring students together
and get them acquaintance to the area.
The Student Center might offer free tours around the area,
games and contests that puts dorm buildings together
or other activities like that.
Some of these events may seem a little dorky at first
and the ones that I attended were really cheesy.
But it’s important to embrace everything that comes your way.
The more you open yourself up to new experiences,
however silly you might think they are,
the more you open yourself up to meeting new people
and encourage other people to get involved as well.
If no one is talking about events around you
and you don’t know where any are,
you can ask your RA or the Student Center.
Once you have all the details about what’s coming up,
you can actually start to rally the troops in your dorm
and actually invite a bunch of other people to come with you.
If you’re nervous about entering someone’s room just to say hello,
the upcoming events around you are a great icebreaker.
Tip number five is just to smile.
The idea of meeting new people can be scary.
What if they don’t like you?
What if they think you’re lame?
And maybe they don’t want to hang out with you.
You need to not let these thoughts take over your mind
when you’re trying to meet new people.
Nervous energy is contagious.
Luckily, so is positive energy.
If you approach each new interaction with a smile,
you’ll get smiles in return,
and basically create an overall positive experience.
It sounds a little silly,
but you can prepare yourself by meeting new people
by just smiling at yourself in the mirror before you walk out of the room.
Sure you might feel a little weird at first
and you might have to force a smile,
but after a minute or so,
the smile will become genuine.
It’s just like right before racers start a race
they’ll put their arms up like they’ve already won.
Embrace how silly this exercise is
and just try to smile more often.
Tip number six is to join an organization.
The beginning of each semester is a great time
for clubs and organizations to recruit new members.
Are you going to be one of those members?
Joining a club can be a great way to meet a whole bunch of people
with very similar interests.
And depending on the size of your college,
you’ll be able to find a club for just about anything.
You like to knit?
You want to talk about Star Wars?
Do you love math?
Are you just hungry and want some free meals?
I’m not even kidding, there are clubs in college
that take students out to different restaurants once a month
for a cultural experience
and just a free meal.
I once attended an engineering freebie club just for the pizza.
Well, the pizza was the incentive,
but it actually turned out to be pretty cool.
Also fraternities and sororities are certainly an option,
but you shouldn’t feel forced to join a Greek organization.
If you’re uncomfortable with hazing
or the attitudes of certain members in the group,
there also might be gender inclusive fraternities on campus
that don’t haze.
The more you talk to people about opportunities on campus,
the more likely you will find an organization
that matches your interests and makes you more comfortable.
Tip number seven is to start or find a study group.
So what was the point of college again?
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Oh yeah, it’s to get a degree.
It’s to learn a lot and it’s to make connections.
College is a balance between a lot of fun
and also a lot of hard work.
If you can jump on forming and organizing
an actual study group for one of your classes,
you can blend these two things together.
A study group doesn’t have to be more than just a group chat
on facebook or a social media app,
but it can help your classmates learn your name
and reach out through the semester.
I can definitely vouch
that my chemistry grade would have been way better
if I made time for the study sessions each week that my class offered.
And the last tip I have for you guys to make friends in college
is to just be yourself.
You need to be patient.
The first few days of college
are really awkward and nerve-wracking for everyone involved.
Not everyone you meet is going to be your best friend
and the people you least expect
could end up being the most positive impact
on your college experience.
So definitely don’t compromise your morals or your personality
just to feel included in the first few days of college.
You need to try to be yourself, be genuine
and let your true personality shine through.
Colleges are where a lot of people find themselves.
Before you’ll know it,
you’ll attract the right people
who will have your back for the next four years,
or up to eight or twelve,
if that’s how long you’re gonna go to school.
College can be the best time in your life,
and having friends really helps.
So I just want to thank you guys so much for watching this video
and I hope it helps you make some friends in college.
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