A good life is the fruit of a succession of good decisions,
especially around love and work.
However, we seldom accord the business of decision-making
the kind of careful attention it requires.
When faced with a large decision,
we lack rituals and procedures.
We typically procrastinate, lean on the nearest person,
or rush headlong into an unexamined solution.
Fortunately, decision-making is a skill,
and like any other, it can be taught.
The chief enemy of good decisions
is a lack of suffient perspectives on the problem.
We should systematically think through any issue
from 5 distinct angles.
Through the eyes of variously, our enemy,
直觉 死亡 谨慎和勇气
our gut, death, caution, and courage.
As we try out,
juggle with and then synthesise these oblique perspectives,
we will feel our sense of possibility expand,
and a tolerable way forward
gradually emerge from the present confusion.
All enemies have deep insights into us.
They know our frailties.
They actively want the worst for us.
And they’re bringing a desperate,
meaning intelligence to bear on our case.
Thinking of them helps beautifully to clarify our thoughts.
It can be unfeasibly hard to be a true friend to ourselves in the way we should be.
Our minds may well go blank,
if asked to image what a sweet and well-meaning person
might advise us to do next,
we’re so much better at getting into the heads for bitterest foes.
They appreciate our weaknesses and temptations like no other.
We cannot last, put these characters to constructive use,
by doing the very opposite of what we suspect, probably very correctly,
they might propose and say.
We will be energized and focused
by the haunting voices of those dispiriting
but very telling and mesmerizing judges
those who refuse to believe in us.
In the sense, we know the answer already,
or at least one version of it.
We call it gut instant.
And it’s there from the moment dilemma first appears.
The gut is the accumulation of all of the decision-making lessons
we’ve ever derived to cost our lives,
revealed and consciously at speed.
Most of us have become rather good
at not listening to the God,
probably got us into trouble a number of times
maybe pushing us into some crazy moments
for which we pay dear.
So now, we pride ourselves on being thinking people
who take their time, gather evidence
and make full use of their higher mental powers
as well we should.
Nevertheless, we there by lose our source of important insight.
We should be brave enough
to invite our gut to the decision-making table.
Not necessarily in order to follow it
but in order to know what it wants
and then submitted stubborn and impatient certainties
to gentle, rational, cross-examination.
the largest but always easily forgotten certainty,
is that all our decisions are unfolded
in the backdrop of a giant ticking death clock.
We should listen to its beat
and take its daunting messages to heart.
The thought of death
has a habit of highlighting our responsibilities to ourselves
and of weakening our concern
for leaving according to what is expected of us by society
It’s terrifing agent of authenticity.
Death may lead us perverse new sort of confidence to tackle challenges.
By frightening us about one enormous thing，
It may make us less scared
of the many smaller obstacles in our way.
Our lives won’t be what they could be
unless we submit pretty much every choice we face
to the arbiter of eternity and oblivion.
Somewhere around the table
every decision must be the voice of caution.
It wears doubted clothes and speaks quietly.
It certainly lacks glamour
in the age of bravado and bombast.
It’s easy to feel that we must always and invariably jump.
Because life has to be about giving the newer go.
But it may not be.
Let’s remember, caution clears its throat to tell us
that most new businesses fail
most schemes enter disaster
and most future relationships
will mainly rehash the themes of the current unsatisfactory one.
Futher more, there’s a huge amount to be lost
and there’re many people around this
who make it very hurt by our ambitions.
The devil one notes
may just have the edge of the many demons one doesn’t quite.
Caution doesn’t look down on the idea of compromise.
It recognises that they are at points
simply no ideal options
for the imperfect beings we ultimately are.
Caution has the bravery
not always to try to rebel against reality.
From the early age, we’ve learned how to follow the rules
wait in line, and do the dutiful expected things.
We could be good boys and girls.
It got us to where we are today.
It would have been no other way to learn how to spell,
drive a car, or take up a position in the working world.
But they can now be an subtle risk from the opposite direction.
The risk of being overly faithful for too long
to conventions that would dreamt up
without particular interests and hopes in mind.
At points, we need to vigorously to re-learn the art of courage
to remember that the happiest lives have invariably had in flexion points
where people did the slightly unexpected on weird thing
took a gamble and won.
Sometimes, caution is just weakness and cowardice
wrapped up in the cloak of self-deception.
Courage and caution need to fight this one out
without any presumption of victory on either side.
Any hard decision we make will always by definition not be perfect.
But with such thinking behind us
we have a slightly better chance than usual
of opting for the good enough choice.
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