一个实践者的实践
a practitioners practical
实用心理学今天将要讲的是
practical psychology here today i’m going to be teaching
在改良药丸的帮助下
you with the help of improvement pill how to
如何才能在讲故事时
have a sexy confident dominant voice when telling
拥有磁性 自信的嗓音
stories were talking to people the first part will be
首先要学会如何表达
addressing how to say it
其次要学习需要说些什么
and the second part will be what you say
大家好 这里是改良药丸
hello there improvement pill here
你有没有过这样的经历 很难让大家听你讲话
do you ever have a hard time getting people to listen to you
或者得到人们的尊重
or gaining the respect
这可能因为你对声音的把控不到位
well it’s probably because you sound like a little bitch
在交谈过程中
at any given moment while you’re speaking
我们会在三种音调选择一种
you are speaking in one of three different tonalities and
选择不同的音调
depending on which tonality you choose
人们对待你的态度也会不同
people will treat you differently for
此次视频中 我们会举些例子
this video we’re going to use a commonly
比如尴尬的聚会上常用的台词
used the line at awkward parties him
像 你今天过得怎样
so how was your day
你可能听过这样的陈词滥调
yeah you’ve probably heard that one before
第一种音调听起来是这样的
so the first tonality sound something like this
你今天过得怎么样
so how was your day
正如各位听到的 音调听起来和曲线一样是向上的
as you can see it rises it curves up this is what’s called
这也被称为寻求融洽关系的音调
trying for report tonality because when
因为当你用这种音调说话时
you speak like this you sound
听起来会很友好
like someone who wants to become your friend
也是一种希望得到他人关注和认可的音调
who wants your attention was looking for
当然了 这并不好
validation of course this isn’t good
因为这使你你听起来
because it sounds
内心贫乏且不自信
like you’re needy and it shows a lack of confidence
这也确实不是常用的说话方式
this actually is not a normal way of
这种语调有的时候会出现
speaking it’s something that comes out when
在我们紧张的时候尤为如此
we’re feeling nervous
这时我们身体紧绷
It’s when our body is tight
声带紧张
and vocal cords are not relaxed
大家可以想像一下
think about how you speak to
平时是怎样和亲密的朋友说话的
people that are already your close friends people that you’re comfortable with.
你不会这样说 嗨 今天过得怎么样
You don’t say, hey guys how was your day
这样听起来就像是
You probably sounds something more
第二种音调
like the second tonality the second tonality
听起来是这样的 嗨
sounds something like this hey how
你今天过得怎样 声音起伏不大
was your day it’s flat doesn’t
既不会向上波动也不会向下波动
fluctuate up or down and this is the
我们是这样和朋友交谈的
tonality that you use around your friends people that
这种音调也称为 保持和谐关系的音调
you’re comfortable with this is what’s called holding report tonality
这不是一种询问的语调
it’s not asking for anything
而是听起来和谐的关系早已建立
it’s how someone sounds when report has already been established for a long time
最后一种音调听起来是像这样的
the final tonality sounds something like this
嗨 今天过得怎么样
hey I was your day it curves down the
声音像曲线一样低沉向下 在句尾音调下降
tone drops towards the end and this is
就是所谓的断绝关系音调
what’s called breaking report because it
因为这样说话的人一般处于权威地位
comes off as someone who’s in a position
比如你的上司 老师 警察 名人
of authority someone like your boss a teacher a police officer a celebrity
当你这样说话的时候
when you speak like this it
暗示你处于一个较高的地位 非常自信
indicates that your person of higher value that you’re confident
需要给对方留下深刻印象
that you actually need to be impressed
而不是第一种音调
as opposed to the first tonality
试图给人留下最深刻影响
which is someone who’s trying to impress
更渴望被倾听
for the most part if you want people to listen to you
如果想要得到他人的尊重
or if you want to gain their respect
需要调整说话音调介于第二种和第三种之间
you need to keep your voice tonality between the second and the third tonalities
即使这是一个很不起眼的改变
because although it’s a very subtle change
但这种语言习惯
it’s a body language habit
会塑造你的个人地位
that speaks volumes about who you are as a person
而且练习起来很简单
and it’s pretty fairly simple to practice
当你看到这个视频的时候
now that you’ve watched this video
说明你已经有了这个意识
you’re conscious of this concept
你唯一需要做的就是练习说
all you got ta do is practice saying sentences
嗨 你今天过得怎样 嗨 你今天过得怎样
hey how’s your day hey how’s your day
嗨你叫什么名字
hey what’s your name
嗨 你叫什么名字
hey what’s your name
此外 所说的内容 用词和故事也很重要
so the content the words and the story that you say actually matter too
有人认为使用大量词汇会显得自己很睿智
some people say that using large words can make you sound more intelligent
另一些人会觉得很性感
and for some sexier
但从科学角度来讲
but I want to get into the science of this
首先 讲故事会自然而然使你成为公众的焦点
first of all telling a story will automatically make you the center of attention
但怎样才能使故事更有趣呢
but when telling a story how can you make the content super interesting
一种方法是慢慢打动观众 然后给他们一个惊喜
one way is the slightly lighter the audience and surprise them
比如在我们的最新视频中
for example an improvement pills newest vedio
开始提到有三种快乐的方式
he mentions that there are three ways to be happy in the beginning
实际上却有四种
when in fact there is a fourth
所以你认为第三种也是一种循规蹈矩的方法
so you’re expecting the third way to be the anticipated resolve
和前两种差不多
one that follows the flow of the past two
但其实并不是
but it’s not
所以固有的看法被打破 就更好奇最后一种方式是什么
so your expectations are shattered and now you’re super engaged
到底怎样变得更开心
left wondering how in the world to be happy
我们的大脑喜欢模式
our brains love patterns
打破模式会让我们对感兴趣的东西印象更深
but when we break them it goes haywire and we remember better we are intrigued
比如你每天必须开车去上班
you have to drive to work every day
但是如果你看到事故 就不得不减速停下来
but if you saw an accident and had to slow down almost to a stop
我敢打赌你对它的记忆肯定是这个月印象最深的
I bet you remember it better than any other day of the month
事实上 可能有成千上万辆车从你身边经过
in fact you might have thousands of cars pass you
但你从未记住过它们的颜色
and never remember what color they were
不过在三个小时里 你还会记得那辆亮绿色的兰博基尼
but in three hours you will still remember that bright green lamborghini
因为它打破了常规的模式
because it breaks pattern
听起来更性感更吸引人的第二个秘诀取决于
the second part of the science of what you say to sound sexier and more engaging
在讲故事或者和别人聊天的时候的选词
is the actual words you use when telling a story or talking to someone
下面我说两个词 各位可以在下面评论你的想法
let me say two words and you can comment down below what you thought
想像它们是什么形状
of what kind of shape they might represent
我会编两个大家可能没有听过的词
I’ll make them up and you’ve probably never heard them before
blubble zinglezaz
blubble zinglezaz
你可能觉得blubble是非常浑圆的形状
you might think blubble represents a super round shape
比如云朵
maybe like a cloud
而zinglezaz像几年前描述的六边形
zinglezaz though might be a seven-year-olds version of a hexagon
有着很多尖角而且完全没有曲线
with sharp points and no curves at all
这叫做布巴奇奇效应
this is actually called the bouba/kiki effect
词语感官的一种形式
a form of ideathesia
脑会在词语和形状间建立联系
when you connect sounds or words to ideas
特别是拟声词 可以在脑中产生形象感
specifically ideo phones are words that evoke an idea in the mind just from a sound
所有语种都会有这种现象
they are found in all languages
但也取决于当地文化
but they depend on the culture
比如 “砰”和“嘀嗒嘀嗒”
but they depend on the culture one example is blowing another is tick-tock tick-tock
前者可能会让你联想到一颗球在地上弹跳 后者会让你联想到钟表摆动
you actually imagine a ball bouncing or a clock ticking when I use these words
讲故事的时候多用这种拟声词会大大加分
the more these types of words you can use the better your story will be
也会更好激发观众兴趣
the more engaged your audience will be
同时你越有气势 就越能吸引观众
also the more influential you seem the more attractive you will be perceived
其次有助于练习的就是多听自己的声音
something else that helps is listening to your own voice
我以前觉得自己的声音听起来很奇怪
I used to think my voice sounds so weird
但是 在不停地搞砸台本
but after hours and hours of messing up on scripts
修改台本 并不断听自己的视频后
editing scripts and listening to my own videos
就习惯了自己的声音
it’s become normal
而且对自己的声音更加自信了
and I gained a whole lot of confidence in my own voice and how I speak now
现在叙述只是帮助我更清楚地表达事物
narrating things just for practice helps me articulate things better
并提升谈吐能力
and in turn has greatly increased my speaking skills
一个故事讲过多次 就会变得更自信
after I tell a story a couple of times you get more confident in telling it
了解怎样让故事深入人心
anticipating how people will receive it
知道需要特别强调和一笔带过的部分
and what parts to emphasize and what parts not to
讲故事和其他技能一样
talking telling stories and just having a conversation is just like any other skill
不断练习和丰富领域知识都会有极大帮助
practice and proper knowledge on the subject will help you immensely
希望大家喜欢这期视频并有所收获 感谢大家的收看
i hope you guys enjoyed this video and learn something thanks for your attention
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