Well, hello and welcome to today’s lesson,
my name is Rima
and yesterday is all about “Meaningful” Compliments.
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Now when I use the word “meaningful”,
I mean that the compliment that you’re giving somebody
should have a certain meaning.
It should have a certain weight and depth.
It shouldn’t just be like a normal, boring compliment.
Now if you use meaningful compliments which are unique to the situation,
you’ll come across as someone who is polished,
someone who has great command over their English.
So let’s look at the first one.
You are a great listener.
Now sometimes, you meet some quiet people
他们讨人喜欢 非常乐观 非常亲切
who are very pleasing, very positive, very pleasant
but they don’t really talk much
but what they do is they let you talk a lot.
They let you express yourself
which makes them very patient listeners.
So a great compliment to give to such a person is,
“you know what, I’ve realized,”
“you’re a great listener.”
That makes the person feel so valued, so appreciated.
So really learn to use this one,
this is a great compliment to give.
You are a great listener
meaning someone who listens patiently.
So mostly, I’ve heard women talk about
how they like it when a guy is a great listener
because women really like to talk a lot
about themselves, their feelings,
they’re very emotional and expressive.
And if you’re a guy
and you can inculcate this quality of listening patiently,
well, you have it made for you.
Moving on, I have the next one,
which is, you come across as a really confident person.
Now if you meet someone who’s very together,
very sure of what they’re doing or saying
or of the work they’re doing,
a great compliment to give such a person is,
you come across as a really confident person.
Meaning you come across as a person
who has great confidence in themselves,
in what they say and in their work.
Now you would give this compliment
mostly to a person who’s kind of new to you
or whom you don’t know very well
And I’ll tell you why.
So let’s say, you have a friend,
who you’ve known for like 10 years.
Now you know when your friend is confident,
you know when he or she is not confident.
so you would never tell that person,
“you come across as a really confident person.”
Coz you could just say,
you know what at times, you’re really confident,
at times you lack confidence coz you know the person.
But if you meet someone new
whom you don’t know very well
and the person comes across as very sure of themselves,
then you can give them this compliment.
You can say,
“you come across as a really confident person”
and it will work just fine.
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Moving on, this one, oh my God,
who doesn’t like to hear this one?
You can say this to all the people
whose work you really like, work you really appreciate.
I think your work is incredible!
Well, I’ve put an exclamation mark there
because whenever I preach I appreciate someone’s work,
I actually get my excited about it
and I actually say in this particular tone by saying
“I think your work is incredible.”
So well, this is for all the people
who you work with or who you know professionally
who do some great work and if you want to encourage them,
if you want to say something nice to them
it’s just saying something as simple plain and boring
as “you look nice today”,
“oh wow, you have a nice office”,
you could just say, “I think your work is incredible.”
And that would really make the person feel really good and appreciated.
Moving on, now this one,
you should reserve only for
special occasions or special people.
Now we always come across people
in our personal lives and network lives
who really inspire us to do better in terms of work
or to become better people
or to kind of you know,
be better in the way we speak or carry ourselves
or be better in the way
we look or dress or groom ourselves.
Now such people are very inspiring meaning,
they encourage you
to have the same quality.
Okay so if you know
somebody who really inspires you to be better at work
or if you know somebody who’s face sincere
but we when you look at that person, you get inspired
to become really sincere and hardworking,
then you could just compliment that person by saying,
“you know what, you inspire me”
or “whenever I look at you,”
“you always inspire me to become a better person.”
Now that’s a great compliment but let me tell you
this compliment cannot be given to justabout anyone.
It has to be for somebody
who genuinely makes you feel very excited and inspired
and makes you want to become better
either at your work or as a person.
So make sure you reserve this one for all those
special and important people in your life, you inspire me.
Moving on, there is,
I think you’ll make a wonderful parent.
Now we all have friends
who are either expecting children
or want to have children or sometimes are not very
sure about how they’ll be as parents.
So if you really listen to your friends
or these people talking about their fears and insecurities,
now you don’t know how to make it better,
but you can give them a compliment
well in advance by saying, “you know what,”
“I really think that you will make a wonderful, kind parent.”
now when you say that,
it’s like giving them a compliment in advance
because they’re not already parents but at the same time,
you are encouraging them
and giving them confidence.
Now if one compliment from you can achieve both these things,
encouraging somebody and giving them confidence,
then I think it’s a wonderful compliment.
so you must use it
as and when it’s relevant to the situation
and tell the person you know what don’t worry,
I’m sure you’ll make a wonderful parent or
or let’s say a couple that you know
just announced that they’re gonna have a baby.
So you could walk up to them and say,
“congratulations to the both of you,”
“I think you will both make wonderful parents.”
Now, this hasn’t already happened
but it’s like a confidence of yours
that you know that they’ll really be wonderful parents
which is why you’ll use this compliment.
Moving on, now this one
doesn’t need any encouragement from me.
Okay if you have a wonderful friend,
someone who’s been there for you
in bad times and in good times,
then very naturally, you can just go tell that person
you know what, you’re an amazing friend,
I’m so lucky to have you in my life.
Now it always happens
that you kind of know your friends in and out.
You know their qualities, their strengths, their weaknesses
and a lot of times,
compliments don’t really flow well between friends
because we are already so familiar.
But once in a while, maybe on Friendship day
or on their birthday or on a special occasion,
you can always make your friend feel very valued by saying,
“you’re such an amazing friend.”
You say this line and you need not say more
because it kind of shows
your friend how much that person means to you.
Moving on, this one is one of my favorite compliments.
Now in the course of life,
one comes across many people
许多真正友善的 有同情心的 慷慨的人
who are genuinely kind, compassionate, generous
who doing a lot of good work not just for themselves
but for other people.
So if you come across somebody like that,
let’s say somebody who is doing
a lot of work for kids.
You know, somebody who’s working with underprivileged kids
or somebody who is doing a lot of community service,
you know what, instead of telling that person,
you’re doing great work.
Now that is kind of common
because the person knows he or she is doing great work,
which is why they are doing that work.
You could just something like, what a kind heart you have!
And that’s such a beautiful thing to say
and you could say this to somebody you know really well
or to someone you’ve justmet.
Now how are you saying that?
You’re saying this based on their work
or based on their behaviour towards certain people and certain things.
So you can just say,
“wow, what a kind heart you have!”
“I wish I could just be like you.”
And I think that is flattering.
At the same time, it’s a fantastic compliment to give.
So well I really hope that you’ve figured out
how to give people great meaningful compliments
that add value to their life
and add value to your relationship with them
instead of your normal, plain, boring compliments
like you look great, you look happy.
Wow, I love what you’re wearing
coz all of these can seem very shallow
when you talk about real compliments like these.
So next time you see some amazing quality in a person
try and compliment that quality
and that will make for a meaningful compliment.
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I’m going to catch you later.
This is me, Rima, signing out.