So I received the following comment
a couple of videos ago from a Mr. Bhatt.
He asks how does one recover from
a period of unwanted slacking off?
What are some good practices and ways to recover?
Essentially asking how to get your life back together.
Now when I came across this comment,
the first thing that came to my mind was actually a ritual
that I invented many many years ago,
back in college when I was drinking, smoking
and simply partying way too hard.
It’s a ritual that worked extremely well for me back then
and it’s something that I still do
at least once or twice every single year.
I call it the Dopamine Fast.
Now in order for this to work,
you have to treat it like a sort of holiday.
This is an entire day event
that starts from the moment you wake up all the way
until the moment you fall asleep.
And this is a special holiday
because unlike most other holidays
which are fun and filled with activities,
the entire purpose of this one is
to have as little fun as possible,
which means that there’s a huge list
of things that you can not do.
Things that you consider to be fun, entertaining
or pleasurable are strictly forbidden.
So this means no food,
all you’re allowed to do is drink water.
You can leave it on for emergency calls,
but you can’t use it.
No Internet, which includes surfing the web and/or
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social media of any kind–Facebook, Snapchat, Instagram.
No watching of videos,
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so this means no TV, no YouTube, no Netflix,
no going to the movies, no substances of any kind.
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No alcohol, no weed, no drugs, no cigarettes
and nothing with caffeine.
No video games, no music,
no hanging out with your friends,
no talking to anyone,
unless it’s an emergency
or for something work-related.
and finally no reading of any books–
fiction and/or non-fiction.
Now here’s what you can do.
You can drink water,
you can walk around outside,
you can meditate,
you can do some light exercise
and most importantly of all,
you can write using a pen and paper,
and those are the rules.
Now at this point in time you’re probably wondering–
Pill, why in the world would anyone do this to themselves?
It sounds miserable, it sounds like torture.
Well, I’m gonna show you exactly
why the dopamine fast is so effective
and how committing to this ritual can force you
into becoming extremely productive again,
and I’m also gonna explain
why writing is so important during a dopamine fast,
but before we do that,
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All right, so let’s resume
our conversation about the dopamine fast.
Now there are two main reasons
as to why it’s so effective.
The first is that it starves your donkey.
What I mean by this, well if you think about it,
the relationship between your mind and body is sort of
like the relationship between a rider and a donkey.
If you’re riding a donkey
and you want it to move,
all you have to do is wave a carrot in front of him.
This is similar to how if you want
to convince your body to do something that ‘s hard,
all you have to do is think about
the reward you get after.
This is basically how habits work.
We automatically do things
as long as there is a decent reward that follows,
as long as there is a carrot on a stick.
Now what happens to us when our life is a mess is
that we’ve been indulging
in too many stimulating things,
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things like porn, drugs, junk food
and binge watching shows.
All produce a huge amount of dopamine.
This is equivalent to letting your donkey
eat at a buffet of carrots,
and other tasty donkey vegetables.
If your dog is been eating in a buffet all week,
he’s not gonna be motivated
by a little carrot on a stick anymore,
because he’s full.
When you’re committed to doing a dopamine faster,
essentially starving your donkey,
you’re giving your body as little stimulation
as possible for an entire day.
And when your donkey is starving,
you can easily convince him
to move by waving just a little carrot in front of him.
This means when you wake up in the morning,
after doing a dopamine fast,
you’ll find it much easier
to convince yourself to go to the gym,
or to read some pages of a book
by thinking about the reward
you will give yourself after.
The second reason committing to
a dopamine fast is so effective is
because it prevents you from masking your pain.
What is the purpose of pain?
Well, if you think about it–
pain is an indicator that something is wrong
and needs to be fixed right,
it’s a sign that there’s a problem somewhere.
If your hand is touching something that’s too hot,
you feel pain and your brain goes–
Ah there’s a problem over there
and it automatically moves your head.
Pain is necessary for us to fix our problems.
The same thing applies to emotional pain,
things like rejection, loneliness and shame.
These are all indicators that
something is wrong in our lives,
but the problem with us humans is
that we love to run away from these feelings.
We love to self-medicate with pleasure
instead of solving the actual problem.
That’s why so many people turn to
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food, drugs, sex and alcohol
when they’re in a bad mood,
because all of these things can make
that pain go away, at least temporarily.
Now when you do a dopamine fast,
you have no way of avoiding your problems,
because there’s literally nothing you can do
to mask any of the pain
and this forces you to address all of the problems
that you’ve been running away from,
for who knows how long.
And here’s where writing comes in.
In order to address this pain,
the best thing to do is to write,
to organize your thoughts,
to figure out why you’re feeling this pain to begin with
and to eventually come up with a plan.
See every time I commit to doing a dopamine fast,
I will spend at least a couple of hours
writing throughout the day.
Here are a couple of
very good questions to ask yourself.
These are the writing prompts that I’ll use most often
whenever I commit to doing a dopamine fast.
Question No.1 Do I feel any discomfort today?
If so, where in my body am I feeling it?
Is this an emotion or is this physical pain?
If it’s an emotion, try to describe it.
Is it anxiety?
Is it depression?
Is it shame?
What does it feel like?
Question No.2 Ask yourself–
Why do I feel this way?
Now it’s important not to blame a chemical reason,
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or you know, genetics or other people,
because most of the time the reason we feel bad is
because of something that we can control.
There are almost always things that you are doing,
that are causing these issues.
So ask yourself–What things have I been doing
that could possibly be causing these issues?
Question No.3 What should I do to fix it?
What are 1-3 things that I can do tomorrow
that will at least somewhat address this pain?
Things that would get me a couple of steps closer
to fixing whatever problem is causing this pain.
Question No.4 What would my life be like
if I did not do any of these 1-3 things
for the next five years?
Assume the worst possible scenario
and really describe it.
And finally Question No.5 What would my life be like
if I stuck to these 1-3 things consistently
for the next five years?
Assume the best possible scenario
and really really describe it.
Now the key to getting the most of
these writing prompts is to write a lot.
The more you write, the better,
but allow yourself to really focus on
what you’re writing,
give yourself some time to think between answering
each of these prompts right, slowly and neatly.
You have all of the time in the world,
because quite frankly, there isn’t much else to do.
If you answer all of these prompts in detail,
you’re gonna have a clearer idea of
exactly what you need to do tomorrow.
You’re gonna feel pretty motivated
to stick to the 1-3 things that you wrote about,
because you’ll come to realize
that there are things that will get you closer
to solving your problems.
And that’s why the dopamine fast is so effective.
Now again this is a ritual that I came up with,
but worked really really well for me,
so curious as to whether or not it will have
the same effect for you guys.
If you’re trying to get your life back together,
try this out and let me know in the comments below,
how you felt the next day,
Besides that, guys stay tuned.