Actions speak louder than words.
The apologies mean nothing.
It’s just a PR move.
And I bet you a hundred percent
that they have a PR team who wrote these apologies.
I definitely have experience in sexual harassment in different forms.
And almost every company I worked does.
I was working in a pretty large high Tech company in Santa Monica.
And I was in part of marketing division
and so I would have to travel with
their head engineer of that specific product
to all of the major trade shows that we would go to.
Well, we had initially a good rapport and
and I respected him professionally.
He started leading to certain sexual advances
and calling me names and talking about certain situations
that were very inappropriate for the workplace.
And I confronted him and I said that was very, that’s very inappropriate.
It’s making me feel very uncomfortable. Please stop.
And when he continued to do it, you know
I was forced to be with him because that’s my…part of my job description.
I went to HR.
The HR person who happened to be a woman
said that one: I was being too sensitive
and two: that my reviews came back
and said that I was underperforming.
And they want…they didn’t think I was good for the company anyway.
所以 在实在没办法的时候 我说了不
And so, when push came to shove I said no.
That doesn’t fly with me. This man needs to be held accountable.
I brought in my family lawyer
and said with something that we can tackle.
And we tried for many weeks to figure out a plan
and then unfortunately, because I had no evidence
prove that I was being harassed. Then…
We couldn’t move forward the case.
Proof is everything and in order to have reliable data.
You really do need to have your phone on you
if the situation is really perpetuating itself.
So, in a very subtle way,
if somebody is sexual harassing you and making you feel uncomfortable
or writing wired things or sending wired messages
or do… acting in a certain way that makes you feel uncomfortable.
You should bring your phone and record those situations
whether it’s audio or video.
You should save all of the emails and text messages
that are sent in a way that are inappropriate.
Because that serves as that data, that proof.
at a lot of times and the moment we forget that’s important.
And it actually can make a break a case or a lawsuit later on the lines.
So that’s very important. Tell somebody.
You know, telling somebody that serves as a witness.
They can say “yes this person told me on this day.
and I can vouch that this actually happens.
because they told me right away,”
I think there’s alternatives to reporting
situations that’re happening in your company
to going outside of the company.
And their organizations
that really focus on providing cheap legal advice.
And so if you’re able to access these organizations
and they can probably give you advice
and serve as your support to deal with the situation.
Because lawyers are very expensive
and so having to hire one to sue somebody
at a large company. That’s very difficult
especially for people just entering into the workforce.
I also want to, you know, underscore that
a lot of men make up the engineers the executives in the VC’s
within all of the these companies and this amazing tech-equal system that we are in.
So these people need to be a part of
the initial process of getting new cooperate policies in place.
Hiring and getting more female VCs as partners,
hiring more female executives and women from minority groups
to serve as leaders and CEOs of companies.
Hiring HR people that are ethical
and that can actually implement a lot of the training and policies.
And you know these platforms where
people can actually feel comfortable that
the company has their back. And should something go wrong, they can easily report it.
And it will be rectified.