I had a coaching client last year say something that was incredibly wise.
When he hired me, and in other words I took him on as a coaching client.
He said, “You know Alex, the reason that I wanted to be your client
is because I want to be where you are in a few years.
And I know you did not just get there by accident.
You designed your life.”
And I thought that was extremely wise and spot-on,
because the thing is so many of us wake up
when we’re 20 or 30 or 40 or 50,
and realized we don’t even know
why we got here or how we’re here
And we know for sure
that this is not where I want to be or where we want to be years and years ago.
Now in this video, I want to share my personal process I use
for not only scripting the direction of your life
but how I reinvented my own life
and consciously created it from 26 until 30.
What’s up guys? Alex Hein here author of the book Master of the Day.
大家最近好吗？ 我是《今天的主人》一书的作者Alex Hein
Now in my own life here, really I think that designing your life
and making go forward in the direction you wanted to go forward has three parts.
The very first part is the design.
The second part is the habits you use or you do at daily basis.
And the third is the follow three whether follow up.
In other words, how do you actually stay on track when you get off track.
Because half of the game of goal achievement is purely when you get punched in the face,
what are you gonna do differently to
get back up and get back in the fight?
Now for me the first thing is vision,
it’s basically the design.
You know if you just sit down for a day, you pour a coffee, you get on a piece of paper
如果你能安静坐一天 泡杯咖啡 拿张纸
and you write down what would be the coolest thing that could happen
over the next five years in my life.
If you just do that,
you are already ahead of 99 percent of humanity,
who show up with no game plan,
no vision for the future, no clue what they would like to create,
besides you know I would like more money or I’d like that girl
而且 你还想赚更多钱 想追某个女孩或男孩
or that guy or I’d like a nicer car.
There’s almost no consciousness or conscious energy giving the thinking about
what do I want to build in the future,
like what consciously and concretely do I want to improve.
So for me the way that I do that is,
first of all, I have a journal where I’m regularly writing down updates for the kind of life
that I wanna build.
You know it starts with the vision,
which makes me think of the fact that
the skyscrapers of New York started with a picture in somebody’s head.
And so did spaceships, and so did it in curing a difficult disease.
And so when I think of it like that, I always make sure I’m consciously creating,
even it is just in my thoughts.
Even if it’s just up there both in print journals
and in a document that I call Five Years From Today.
So the three things that I use for my yearly envisioning are
one, the yearly envisioning process I’ve talked about here.
Which is basically at the start of each year, I write down,
what is the coolest thing that could happen this year?
Like perfect year, no limitations, no just be realistic,
比如 完美的一年 很顺利 现实一点
but like what would be the coolest thing that could happen?
I put it on one piece of paper that’s always on my desk every single day.
And I review it twice per day.
Now from there, that yearly document also has my daily habits,
the unique projects I’m working on in each quarter of the year,
as well as the things I know that I need to work on to get better basically to improve myself.
The second thing is the pocket journal I carry around.
This for me is always to record things that may change about my thinking,
ideas I get when I read or listen to podcasts
as well as little intuitive hunches that come up.
So if I’m talking to a friend or I’m reading a book,
and I’m like “Wow, that would be an awesome idea”,
for example, that’s where all my books came from.
Wouldn’t it be cool to…
I put it down in this little book,
it’s just a little three by five moleskine that I always carry around with me.
And then day by day, I can flip through that.
And be like “You know what?
These were those cool things I wanted to basically manifest and create in my own life.
Let me just keep a note of them.”
The second way I do that is by doing a weekly journal page.
Now the weekly journal page is just a strategy page,
which I talked about in my recent video on journaling for success.
And in that strategy page, it’s basically where are you Alex, where do you want to be,
and are those habits you’re doing everyday sufficient enough to actually get you there.
So the whole point of this journal page is reflection.
You’re doing this, are you still on track?
If not, what has to change?
And then finally, I have this little journal notebook, a digital notebook in Evernote.
And it just says, five years from today.
Now I don’t really stick with that idea of five years from today.
But the point for me is where do I want to go in what direction.
It could be as simple as moving,
like I know I’m moving to California after I’m done with my doctorate in Portland.
就像我知道 在完成波特兰的博士学位后 我将搬到加利福尼亚州
It could be as simple as the relationship you want to be in.
For example, I’m 30.
I know that I want to be married by 35.
So I can have that there.
I know that I want to have a private practice
and a traditionally published book and three, four vacations per year.
I put all of that down, where I don’t know how I’m gonna make it happen yet.
But it will happen, for sure.
I haven’t quite fleshed out the process.
The point is that you’re putting trajectories in your brain and in your subconscious.
关键是 你已开始在大脑中潜意识里 为这些想法搭建轨道架构
And when you check that every once in a while,
they are kind of like oh yeah, I knew I wanted to do that, but…
就有点像 真的 这就是我想要做的
Alright, let’s start thinking about how I can actually do it.
And almost all of those things come true for me,
especially if you regularly review that.
Now the second piece here is your habits.
So the daily action steps that you’re gonna actually do to make that a reality.
Now I’ve shared this philosophy many times,
it makes up the bulk of my book Master of the Day.
But the point is that, you think about the goals you want to reach,
and then you have to break them down, forget the goal, but break it down into a daily habit.
然后你要分解目标 遗忘目标 再将其细化成日常习惯
So with fitness, you forget losing thirty pounds.
The habit is cook every day, go to the gym twenty minutes a day.
You want to write a book, you forget having written a book.
You put down the habit, write five hundred words a day.
You want to be in an amazing relationship in two years.
You forget that goal,
you put the habit I’m gonna go out to four events where I might meet like-minded people.
That’s your daily habit.
So you bring it back to what do I have to do today.
Now the way I track that is a combination of ways.
So not only in that yearly visioning document do I put that,
I also record it in Evernote.
And the reason I do that is because
every Thursday I have a thirty to forty five minute mastermind call.
Now I’ve had a personal mastermind for over four years now, every single week.
And it’s basically started when I started my business,
because that was so difficult for me.
But it progressed to like are you happy?
但过程中 我会问自己 你快乐吗？
Are you building the life you want?
Are you is your ladder up against the right wall as the saying goes?
Because you might climb the ladder of success
and realize you climbed the wrong ladder,
and you’re not where you want to be.
So it’s also about conscious goal setting and being crystal clear on the path forward.
Making sure you’re going down the right path you want to be down.
So I actually have a maximum of three goals per year,
and then three habits per goal.
For example, the goals are often much more complex than you think.
Like let’s say, you’ve only been sleeping five hours a night,
打个比方 你因日常事务 晚上只睡了五个小时
while your daily ritual that may have to be. I’m gonna disconnect from the computer at eleven.
I’m not gonna have coffee after five.
And I’m not gonna stress myself out with homework or with work.
After a certain time, it may take a few habits.
Just like doing well in school or high performing at your work,
may also be more than one habit.
It may mean, I’m gonna study this study strategy every day and apply that.
也就是说 我要每天研究这个学习策略 并将其应用
Or I’m gonna do an extra one hour of work per day or self study or something else.
或者说 我每天要多投入一小时 要么自学 要么做一些其他的事情
The way that I personally do it is just three habits per actual goal.
And those I track in a weekly scorecard document,
which is these are the three things,
did I do them, Monday to Sunday?
And then when I get to my Thursday night mastermind,
we all get on the phone, and I basically give a report.
I did this fifty percent of the time, ninety percent of the time.
This is what didn’t work.
This is what I have to improve.
And then the third part for me
about consciously designing your life and going forward is really just two things.
It’s the follow through to make sure you actually do these things.
And then number two is following little intuitions about when you have to pivot.
第二步 当需要寻找任务中心时 跟着直觉走
So the way I keep the follow through going is
every night I do a little master the day journal page.
The journals that out yet,
but I still have a print kind of document that I use
for tracking did I do this, where do I have to improve myself.
The Thursday mastermind which is a 45-minute call.
We use uber conference for free,
you could do the exact same with a few of your friends or people online.
My very first mastermind was totally online people I met
that were other Internal entrepreneurs.
Now from there, I have a Thursday mastermind,
I have the weekly strategy journal page,
and I have my daily habit tracking.
And besides those three things,
all I do is carry around that little pocket moleskine journal that I told you about.
Because then I feel like if something doesn’t feel right at all,
like you’re off track, you don’t like this job,
you’re dating someone and you realize something’s not right.
I write down the intuitions, because I can’t always consciously articulate the next move.
Sometimes it’s easy, I want to move to California,
other times it’s not, do I stay in this relationship?
Is this business still what really excites me?
Am I proud of all the work I’ve created?
Those are things that may be better governed by your intuition and better understood.
So I just keep a lot of all the little intuitive impressions.
And then I systematically explore them more,
and then I take time to just go through them and see what’s behind them and I unpack them.
我会花时间去检查 了解背后的意义 并进行分析
So I hope that helps you guys.
That’s a little about my process for consciously scripting your life,
which has been my whole shtick for a while.
And that’s really the thing that made the biggest difference for me,
going from twenty four or twenty five, written down nothing impressive in my life,
very average student, hadn’t done much besides travel to now,
我只是一个非常普通的学生 除了旅行至今 并无太多建树
really contributing and producing a lot,
and having had a productive life the last five or so years.
Now before you go, I want you to leave a comment there below.
Let me know for you, if you could consciously script your life,
what would be the first thing you think is important.
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朋友们 遵循我所谈到的方法 去开启智慧模式 你需做的一件事是
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