Have you ever had to deal with adifficult boss?
This can be a little bit hard when you’re new to the job
because what do you do?
You could have a boss that is just not giving you enough direction
或是相反 他给你太多要求 让你不自在
or it could be the opposite is giving you too much and it’s micromanaging you.
Any which way you look at it,
dealing with a difficult boss can be really sucky,
so how do you deal with it?
I’m Adriana Girdler, I am president of CornerStone Dynamics
and a productivity expert.
And in this video I’m going to share with you six tips
on how to deal with a difficult boss at work.
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So you have a difficult boss and you need to deal with that person,
I know how hard it can be,
I remember when I used to work in organizations,
how tough it was when you had a real difficult boss.
But yet on the opposite side when you have a good one,
it makes life really easy,
but that difficult boss truly can make work, work.
And that’s not what we want, we want to have fun.
By the way I’m gonna let you know,
I got a little bit of a cheat sheet going on,
I’ve been busy with meetings and I really want to do this video
because I’ve been coming across
during the last couple times with my meetings, with my clients, this particular situation.
And so I’m hoping this is really gonna help you,
so my number one tip
that is really important when it comes to dealing with a difficult boss.
Well, that is focus on your job.
You know, you can’t control what your boss is doing
or how they’re behaving, however you can always focus on your job
and ensure that you’re doing it to the letter,
ensure that you’re finishing through, following through
and being very clear with what your rules and responsibilities are.
That is really really important
because at least it ensures that you are up to snuff
with your roles and responsibilities, inessence doing what you’re getting paid to do.
技巧二 不好意思各位 就像我说的我有一份备忘表
Tip number two, sorry guys, as I said I’ve got my little cheat sheet here.
Tip number two is know what’s important to your boss,
so what do I mean by that?
You have a difficult boss,
you’ve got to do a little bit of psychological 101,
what’s really important to that person?
Ensure you make that a priority for you,
sometimes that in itself can be really the best way
to kind of make things even keeled,
so if your boss is a micro manager, then maybe doing that
because they don’t feel that you really know what they need.
So if you start understanding and knowing your boss that may dissipate
and if your boss is not giving you enough information, then know your boss,
understand that and book one-on-one meetings with them,
that could be a huge game-changer.
So really know your boss and try to adjust your behavior,
so it is in line with how your boss behaves.
So tip number three in the grand scheme of all this is,
don’t try to fix your boss.
Sometimes we have that habit, if things aren’t working well for us,
how can we correct the other person?
这是不可能发生的 他们是你的老板 他们有自己的方式
It ain’t gonna happen, they’re your boss, they have their own patterns,
if they’re a micromanager, they’re always going to be a micromanager.
而如果他们着眼宏观 不给你足够的细节 猜猜会怎么样
If they are kind of high level and they don’t give you enough detail, guess what?
You’re not going to change it, so recognize that it’s not about you,
it’s about them, don’t try to fix them,
you’re not going to do it,
but going back on tip number two,
really get to know them and understand their behaviors
and their patterns and adjust your behavior a bit so that you can feed into it.
So those two tips really go hand-in-hand,
Now the next tip I want to give you which is really important as well,
is stay aligned with your vision and goals.
In subsequent videos I actually talked about how important this is for first impressions,
also just for who you are when you’re really new on the job,
What do you want? Who are you?
What are your values?
Stay true to those,
it can be real shitty having a shitty boss,
however don’t worry about it,
just stay true to who you are
and ensure that you’re aligned with yourself
because you have to wake up every day feeling good about the decisions you make,
You can’t control other people,
interestingly enough, as I said before,
I’ve had this experience I’ve actually had to go
and be true to who I am.
I had a boss who was so shitty, it was unbelievable,
so much so that I was actually contemplating quitting the company
and it was an amazing company that had tons of benefits, top 50 list,
它有很酷的东西 像体育馆 令人惊叹的自助餐厅
like it really cool things, like gyms and amazing cafeterias
and it’d be like the best place to work and everyone was envious that I worked there.
However, my boss was so bad.
I actually at one point was thinking of quitting,
that’s how dire straight the situation can be.
You know what helped me out was to being true to who I am,
understanding what I’m all about and staying true to my values,
that was extremely impactful and I highly recommend it for you.
The other tip that I want to share with you, tip 5, is,
sometimes you got to put yourself in their shoes,
sometimes bosses, again, different levels of shittiness so to speak, right?
Some are just like, too micromanagement,
but they’re really nice people and others just again,
really nice people but just too high level.
Then there’s really shitty shitty the situation and scenario I just shared with you,
but put them in their shoes,
sometimes people just don’t know,
sometimes they’re just really busy themselves
and that’s why they’re behaving in the way that they are.
So take it with a grain of salt,
understand the essence of the person,
some people are just really good people
and maybe they just have their little quirks
that you unfortunately have to kind of live with,
So figure that out, try to put yourself in their shoes.
So again, it doesn’t feel like it’s about you
cause it really isn’t, it’s about them,
Now last but not least,
take another look at how you’re approaching things,
it’s really easy to point the finger, I promise you,
because we’ve all done it, right?
That boss, blah, blah, blah,
and you know what is some scenarios it is true –
holy smokes, that person really is shitty!
However on the flip side of everything,
sometimes you really got to look inward and ask, is it me?
Is there some validity to why my boss is doing what they’re doing?
If they’re micromanaging me, is it because maybe I’m not performing?
So I’m not asking you to ever blame yourself
because I’m gonna say for sure,
ensure that every day that you’re at work, you do the best work
that you can do and you will know for sure that it’s not you.
However some days are just not good days
so you do have to ask yourself the question, am I up to snuff?
Is this really, is there any truth to any of this?
Am I being micromanaged because perhaps I’m not doing my job?
Look inward, it is really insightful
and it will help you understand exactly how to deal with those scenarios and situations.
So on that note, there are my six tips.
I hope you’ve gotten some value out of it.
I know in my story, all of those tips, I’veused them in the past
and they really were helpful, here’s a bonus tip,
something that I had to do with the story I just told you earlier on about that real shitty boss.
Last but not least,
and ideally I try not to go there but sometimes in the world, the corporate world,
you do have to protect yourself,
document the hell out of things.
If you have a super shitty boss who in your heart and heart
do you know is out to get you because that does happen,
there are people out there like that, document.
记录 记录每一段对话 每一次会议
Document, document every conversation, every meeting that you have
because some day you may have to pull out that document
in order to show the proof that wait,
this is not me, I’ve done my due diligence,
and it does help, I had to go there,
I actually had to bring it to HR, it wasn’t fun
but it helped me tremendously when I had to go down that road
and I hope you never have to go down that road which is why I do these videos,
I’m trying to share with you the things
I wish someone told me when I was your age and brand new in jobs.
So on that note, I hope you enjoyed it,
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See you later, bye!