Being interesting is crucial for maintaining healthy relationships.
It makes people wanna talk to you,
it makes you exciting to interact with, and it drastically increases
how attractive you are to members of the opposite sex.
So how exactly do we become more interesting?
Well, let’s start off by looking at
what makes people uninteresting.
There are two types of people in this category.
First you have what I like to call the Plain Janes-
these are people who want to fit in.
Which is a perfectly fine thing to do,
but they often take it too far.
They often only talk and do things
that are considered to be socially acceptable.
Things that won’t make anyone think twice about them.
Their jokes are the same.
They like to hang out in the same places.
They watch the same shows as everyone else.
The reason they don’t seem interesting is
because they are non-polarizing.
Something that is polarizing will cause others
to form an opinion about you.
For example, if I openly said
that I think Mexican food sucks.
There’s gonna be people who agree with me,
and there’s also gonna be people who disagree with me.
The reason extremely angry comments exist on certain Youtube channels
that also seem to have extremely loyal fans
is because their content is polarizing.
Plain Jane’s try their best to avoid polarizing statements and actions.
And because of this, they fail to trigger any sort
of emotion in the people they interact with.
Without being polarizing, it is impossible to become interesting.
So how do we become more polarizing?
All the best way to do so is to
expose yourself to a wide variety of things.
Read more books, traveling meet people from around the world,
watching movies and shows that aren’t mainstream,
and listening to lectures about subjects you don’t necessarily agree with.
By exposing yourself to new ideas
and the viewpoints of other people, you will start to
form a combination of opinions and tastes that are unique to you.
This will naturally make you more polarizing.
The second group of people who are not
interesting, are what I like to call the Creeps.
Creeps are polarizing.
They say polarizing things, they have polarizing hobbies,
they like to do polarizing things
that set them apart from others.
However, they like to hide their intentions.
When you do polarizing things,
people around you will often inquire about the action.
For example, just the other day I forgot
to lock my bathroom door, and a friend of mine
walked in while I was using the toilet.
He quickly apologized, looked away, and left.
The thing is when I use the toilet, I squat
on top of the toilet instead of sitting on
the bowl, like most people do.
This in itself is a very polarizing action.
So of course afterwards,
my friend inquired about what I was doing in the bathroom.
If a creep was caught in this situation,
they would most likely try to hide the fact that
they were doing something weird in the first place.
They tell something along the lines of,
“What? I wasn’t doing anything.”
or angrily say “You know…
You should honestly knock
before you open a closed door.”
When you prevent a full dialogue about your polarizing action,
people will automatically assume
there’s a bad reason why you are hiding this information.
This is a human response.
The unknown is scary.
This is why we have an innate fear
of the dark and of deep murky water.
This bad feeling is what makes you seem creepy.
Becoming more honest is something that some people struggle with.
And I think what helps is the internalization of the following concept.
The key thing to remember about lying is that
the more you lie, the easier it is for others
to find inconsistencies in your stories or actions.
Think of it like the hydra from the Hercules movie.
For every lie you create ( for every head
of the hydra you cut off ), 3 more inconsistencies
are born (3 more heads pop up in it’s place).
It’s not hard for the average person
to spot some inconsistencies in your stories after just 2-3 lies.
And once they do all the trust you’ve built
with them will go out the window.
You immediately get categories as someone they can’t trust,
a potential enemy.
You have to understand
it’s better to be polarizing and have others disagree with you
than to be considered to be someone who can’t be trusted.
No one wants to associate themselves with someone
who might stab them in the back.
Alright. So to summarize what makes people uninteresting.
Plain Janes are non-polarizing but are honestabout their actions.
Mainly because they do the same things as everyone else,
and have nothing to hide.
Creeps on the other hand are polarizing, buthide their intentions.
Here’s the secret to becoming more interesting.
You have to be polarizing
and honest about your actions at the same time.
When you are polarizing and honest,
you will say odd things that grabs people’s attention,
and the fact that you’re confident enough in yourself
to stand behind your odd views.
Creates a sense of mystery.
People will wonder why you do these things that have seldom believes,
and also wonder about what other things you do.
Let’s go back to the example of my toilethabit.
So my friend asked “What were you doing inthe bathroom?”
I remember the respond by saying, “Oh,
I always squat on top of the toilet.”
I responded honestly to my friend
who just encountered a very polarizing situation and
because of this, a sense of mystery and interest is created.
His natural response is of course
Take a second and note how you feel about
this situation as well.
Chances are, you also feel a bit interested in
why I do this.
Why does ImprovementPill squat on top oftoilets?
That’s interest being cultivated right in front of you
with polarization and honest.
For those of you that are wondering
why I squat on top of the toilet.
It’s actually because you guys are not using the toilet properly.
See our ancestors have used a squatting stance
to pass their stools for millions of years.
Our bodies are actually designed to pass waste in this form.
Sitting on the toilet actually creates a sort of choke point,
making it much harder to get the deed done.
So when you squat on top of the toilet,
you don’t have to strain yourself at all.
Many hospitals actually use this form for some of their patients,
so that they can use the bathroom more effectively.
And that’s that.
Becoming more interesting is something any of us can do.
All you have to do is work
on becoming more polarizing, and practice being as honest as
possible about your opinions and actions.
This will naturally make you more interesting,
which will improve just about all of your interaction.
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