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如何更有魅力 - 6个有用的技巧

How to be more Charismatic - 6 Charisma Tips to be more Charming and Attractive

大家好 这里是实用心理学
Hi guys It is practical psycology
能介绍这个视频的合作伙伴 我十分兴奋
And I am super pumped to introduce the collaborator of this video
And before I do that
I want to introduce what this video topic is about
Now this video is gonna be about how to be more charismatic
We are going to give you six solid tips
你可以借此变得魅力超凡 废话不多说
on which you can do to increase your charisma Wthout further ado
下面就是Alpha M
Here is Alpha M
先生们 见到你们很高兴
Gentlemen great to see you
Practical psychology thank you so much for having me on your incredible
谈些我自己就很兴奋狂热的话题 我十分感激
channel to talk about something I’m incredibly excited and passionate about
那就是魅力 魅力之所以让我如此兴奋是因为
which is charisma the reason charisma is so exciting to me personally is because
我知道这是可以通过学习获得的 很多人 包括我自己
I know that it’s something that can be learned most people including myself
We’re not born charismatic
Think of it like any skill the more you practice the better at it you’re going to get
贴士一 让别人对自己有好感
Tip number one is make other people feel better about themselves
One of themain reasons why charismatic people are so magnetic
is because of the way they make you feel about yourself
你让别人真的自我感觉良好的方式是 恭维他们
One way that you can actually help other people feel great about themselves is by giving them compliments
What happens when you get a compliment
这就对了 你自我感觉良好
exactly you feel great about yourself
You also view the person that gave that compliment to you more favorably
贴士二是 保持好奇之心
So tip number two is to be curious
One of the best ways to be charismatic is by directing the attention from yourself to
转移到他人身上 这个办法很好 因为如果你在一群人面前有些害羞或紧张
someone else now this is pretty cool because if you’re a bit shy or nervous
around a whole bunch of people this can help by taking the tension away from you
窍门是 它抓住了人们通常以自我为中心的心理
The trick here is because people are usually egocentric
甚至在儿时 他们就喜欢谈论自己
even from a child they love to talk about themselves
以前做过什么 将来会做什么
what they’ve done what they’re going to do
所以 如果你能让他们滔滔不绝
and if you can get them to keep talking about themselves
又不像面谈那样 你就激起了他们的好奇心
in a manner that doesn’t seem like an interview you will intrigue them
我发现最好的方法是 提问前 先陈述一番 比如
When the best tricks I’ve found is before asking someone a question make a statement here’s an example
—嗨 你的旅途怎么样
-Hey how was your trip
—太棒啦 我们玩了跳伞 潜泳 甚至攀岩
-It was awesome we went skydiving scuba diving and even rock climbing
—好有趣 我小时候假期时也潜过泳 攀过岩 但从来没有跳过伞
-That’s interesting I’ve been scuba diving and rock climbing before on a vacation when I was little but never skydiving
—你能告诉我跳伞最棒的是哪部分 或者如果我以后能够去 有什么建议给我吗 瞧见了吧 就这样
-Can you tell me what the best part was or were any tips if I ever go see right here
你正在谈自己与他们相关的经历 然后突然
You’re saying something about yourself how it relates to their story and then
让他们再次说自己的经历 心理上犒劳他们一番
psychologically rewarding them to talk about their story again
我最喜欢的一本书是 如何赢得朋友并影响他人
and one of my favorite books how to win friends and influence people
The author tells a similar story about how he was at a party
然后在聚会结束前 他的一个朋友说
and at the end of the party one of his friends says that
he was super intriguing and fun to be around
much more than any other person at the party
作家想知道原因 于是分析了那晚他做的一切
and the author wanted to know why so he analyzed everything he did that evening
and he came to the conclusion of three things
He asked his friend more questions than anyone else
他倾听别人所说的话 不仅用耳朵 也表现在肢体语言上
He listened to what the person had to say not only with his ears but also his body
and he prompted him to continue talking
所以 保持单纯的对他人的好奇心吧
So basically just be genuinely curious about another person
获得魅力的贴士三 做一个积极的倾听者
The third tip to being viewed as more charismatic is learning to be an active listener
Listening is a lot more than just hearing what somebody else is saying
还要表现在肢体语言上 目光接触 肢体动作
You listen with your body eye contact body language
而不是收紧身体 站的稍稍靠近些
instead of close open up stand a little bit closer
啊 真的 那简直 我 真的吗
Huh Really that I really
瞧 看见我刚刚做的了吗 就是这样 积极倾听
See You see what I just did that exactly active listening
I let the person that was speaking know that
我不仅在听 同时在对他们所说的话做出反应
I am indeed not only hearing I’m engaged in what they’re saying
第四个贴士是 变得温暖而强大
The fourth tip is to be warm but also powerful
Now this might seem like an oxymoron
because when you think of a character trait of warmth
you might think of your loving grandmother or a small young child
and when you think of someone who is powerful
你会想到托尼罗宾斯 弗拉基米尔普京 这样的伟人 或者甚至这个人
you think of large men like Tony Robbins Vladimir Putin or even this guy
But according to the research in the book compelling people
charisma can be created through a personality combination of warmth and power
or also humility and respect
研究发现 从古至今很多有影响力的人
The research found that many influential people throughout history
have a combination of these two qualities
如果他们只有其中一种品格 通常很难名垂千古
and if they only had one quality they didn’t last very long
Now one thing to note here is that
you can do actions to portray these characteristic traits
但最终 这个贴士归根结底还在于别人怎么看你
but ultimately this tip comes down to how other people perceive you
所以接下来 我再提三个小技巧 当你温暖又强大时 在别人眼中会是什么样
So I’m going to be giving three quick tips on how you can be perceived as both warm and powerful
先说温暖 如果你年纪较大 你能自然获取这点
So warmth if you’re older you automatically get this point
平均来说 人们认为超过65岁的人
On average people over the age of 65 are perceived as
一般都很温暖 不构成威胁 并更真诚
warmer less of a threat and more genuine
第二点 如果你笑容可掬
Number two if you have a wide smile
you may be approached more often
(这样)历经数年 可增强你的交流技巧从而变得更温暖
which over many years can increase your communication skills and thus warmth
第三点 如果你拉近与一群人
Tip number three is that if you close the distance between you and a group of people
or even a single person you
这表明你跟他们在一起感觉很安全 这也会让人觉得自己很暖心
you signal that you feel safe with them which is also perceived as warmth
现在说说强大 让你看起来更强大的最简单的方式是
Now on to power one of the simplest ways you can be seen as more powerful is by
段炼出更强健的肌肉 另外一方面
increasing your total muscle mass now the other side of that is
我见过有的人一生没碰过砝码 但却通过肢体语言 拉近与人群的关系
I have seen people who have never touched a weight in their life but can cultivate a crowd just by their body language
抬起下巴 挺直腰背 试着自信大步的走路
keep your chin up shoulders back and try to have a confident stride
关于强大 最后一条贴士就是 不要碰自己的脸 不要使用呃 唔这样的字眼
and the last tip on power is avoid touching your face or using filler words like um or hmm
because this will lower someone’s trust with you on a psychological level
The fifth tips of being viewed as more charismatic is
being a positive and optimistic person both in what you’re saying and your opinions
每个人身边都有或都会认识消极的人 对 那总是很消极 让人提不起劲
everyone’s been around or known that negative person right that’s always negative and putting other people down
你有多想跟消极的人待在一起呢 这就对了 根本不想 相反
How much do you want to be around them exactly like zero and on the flip side
我们都知道 超级乐观的人
We all know people that are super optimistic
认为一切都会顺利进行的人 认为我们可以搞定这些事儿的人 你真是棒极了的人
people that think a it’s going to be okay we can do this things are incredible and you’re amazing
these people we view as more charismatic
My third and last tip is going to be about confidence
所以 很自然地 如果你想成为一个有魅力的人
So naturally if you’re on the path to becoming a more charismatic person
就要知道自信 特别是自尊的重要性
you’ll know the importance of confidence and especially self-esteem
与别人相处久了 有件事就是
One of the things about being around people over a long period of time is that
you will eventually get smoked out
也就是说 如果你不够真诚 待人不真
and this means that if you are not genuine not authentic
if you’re putting on a mask of charisma people
people will find out
这也许是Alpha在优酷 在他所有商业项目中如此成功的原因吧
This is probably why alpha has done so well on YouTube and in all of his business projects
我看过他的一些 谈及敏感而又私人话题的视频
I’ve seen some videos of him that really really hit home
on sensitive and personal topics
他那样诚恳 诚实的性格品质
and that genuine and honest characteristic trait of his
是会随着时间的推移 展现给观众的
is something that over time will get smoked out
and people will see the real person behind the charismatic personality
所以魅力最好是真的 而非徒有虚表
so it’s best that the charisma is real and not just on a surface level
所以 最关键的一条就是 自信做你自己 尊重自己
So my tip at the core is to be confident in who you are and to have great self-esteem
很多时候 这些取决于你的成长环境 朋友和家人
Now most of the time depending on how you grew up your friends your parents
这些并非天生的 所以你需要在这方面多做努力
this doesn’t always come naturally so you’ll have to work on it
我向你保证 如果你注重努力 就会变得更好
I can guarantee you though if you focus on it and work on it you will get better
你会更自信 会开始跟优秀的人做朋友
Your confidence will grow you start hanging around the right people
你的自尊会提高 慢慢的 这些品质固定下来
Your self-esteem will grow and over time it can solidify
So if you want more tips on self-esteem and confidence
Alpha has some great videos about this on his channel
我也做过一个长视频 包含很多细节型的建议
and I did a pretty long video with lots of specific tips
and I’ll link all of those in the description below
好了各位 这就是提升魅力值的六条实用贴士了
Alright guys that was six solid tips onhow to increase your charisma
链接已展示 点开看看他的频道
The link is in the description to go check out his channel
or you can check out either one of these in cards
希望你们喜欢这个视频 有些收获 如果想看更多就关注吧
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