Have you ever met someone,
everything about them seemed trendy and interesting?
You wanted to be around them and even help them if needed.
There are people that are born this way-the lucky ones.
But the rest of us have to learn that skill.
If you think about it,
every day we interact with dozens of people.
So it’s crucial to learn how to deal with them properly.
How to make them our friends instead of enemies.
There are a few ideas.
They’ll make anyone you meet start to like you.
First, you have to understand human nature.
They are not interested in you.
They are not interested in me.
They’re interested in themselves.
The first idea is that you have to
become genuinely interested in other people.
Next time you meet someone,
try to find something remarkable and amazing about that person.
We all need some kind of attention.
Therefore, you’ll be surprised how people react
when you give them yours.
Add a smile to your face.
We tend to be around people who radiate positivity.
But if you work with a frown on your face and
wonder why people are avoiding you,
remember that your frown is telling them
that you want to be left alone.
Having a smile is simple.
There is a simpler way to make people like you.
In our day to day life,
we’re so caught up on what we have to say.
Then they completely forget the person’s name-
the second details.
When I was in college,
usually I had lunch in the cafeteria.
There was a woman behind the counter
with a big frown on her face.
Because she had been making sandwiches for hours
and I was just another sandwich to her.
I told her what I wanted.
She waited a ham,
two slices of tomato, a small portion of french fries
and she gave them to me.
The next day,
我排在同样的队伍里 还是同样的女人 依然皱着眉头
I was in the same line, same woman, same scowl.
The only difference was that I noticed her nametag.
笑着说道：“嗨 贝蒂！” 然后点了往常一样的食物
I smiled and I said hello Betty and then ordered the usual.
紧接着 她似乎忘记了标准分量 给了我四片番茄
Well, she forgot the scale, gave me 4 slices of tomato
and piled up two french fries
until they started to fall off the plate.
If you want to make someone feel unique and special,
remember their name.
Because a person’s name is the sweetest sound
they will ever hear.
Become a good listener.
Encourage people to talk about themselves.
If you want to know how to make people laugh
behind your back end even despise you, here’s a tip.
Never listen to anyone for long.
Boast about yourself.
If you have an idea while the other person is talking,
don’t wait him to finish.
Bust writing and interrupt in the middle of a sentence.
But if you want to be liked amongst people,
做一个有心的听众 要让别人对你感兴趣 你要先对别人有兴趣
be an attentive listener to be interesting, be interested.
Ask people questions about their hobbies and accomplishments.
They will enjoy answering your questions.
Remember that people you’re talking to
are a thousand times more interested in themselves
and their wants and problems
than they are in you and your problems.
Think of that the next time you start a conversation.
And finally make people feel important.
But do it sincerely,
the desire to be important
is the deepest urge in human nature.
People buy big houses, yachts and cars
just so they can feel important.
They want the approval of those with
whom they come in contact.
They want a feeling that
they are important in daily real world.
Talk to people about themselves
and they will listen for hours.
It’s simple, isn’t it?
This paradigm shifting ideas
can make your magnetic pulse different like a person,
only if you change your focus from yourself on to others.
So next time you meet someone at work or at the bar,
remember their name,
become genuinely interested in them,
be a good listener,
encourage them to talk about themselves and their interests
and make them feel important.
Soon, you’ll become the like a person
you admired at the beginning of this video.