– So for the majority of my life,
I struggled to go to the gym consistently,
even though the gym has always been a part of my life to some degree.
I grew up playing hockey
and all my brothers played hockey and went to the gym.
So going to the gym was always the right thing to do.
But I could never stay consistent.
Even into university,
sometimes I’d go two weeks straight at the gym
and then take a month off.
I’d try to get into a groove and hype myself up,
and I really wanted to look like Thor.
And then I lost my hair.
The whole point of this story is to let you know
that if you relate to this,
I’ve been in that exact same place.
But I’ve managed in recent years
to develop a tremendous consistency at the gym.
And it takes me a lot less effort to get there
than it previously ever has.
And I can credit this a lot to a particular mindset I’ve adopted
when it comes to doing things
that I find difficult or boring,
and sort of tricking my brain into liking these things.
I’ve also been able to apply this strategy to other areas of my life.
Most specifically to reading books and editing videos.
Essentially what I did is I stopped generating motivation
by thinking about an end goal,
and instead I learned to enjoy the process.
So first of all, what’s wrong with visualizing an end goal?
Why not use this image of this beach body
or a Greek god physique as motivation to work out?
Well, the main problem you’ll face is the fact
that there is a huge disparity between what it feels like
to fantasize about this Greek god physique
and what it feels like to actually be at the gym pushing heavy weights.
They’re are completely different sensation.
Fantasizing about having an awesome body feels awesome.
It puts you in this sort of La La Land
where you’re just walking around
as this imaginary version of yourself.
Actually going to the gym, it’s strenuous, it’s sweaty.
而真的健身时 你实际上筋疲力竭 挥汗如雨
And it’s often really boring,
especially if you’re doing cardio on a treadmill.
It’s the most boring thing I’ve ever encountered in my life.
That’s the first problem.
The second problem that you face
when you try to generate your motivation from this ideal image of yourself
is that it will always be a moving target.
No matter how much you fantasize about this perfect version of yourself,
you will never feel like you have arrived.
And even if you were to hypothetically arrive at this goal,
there’s something called entropy.
Stagnation breeds destruction.
If you just sit on your winnings,
everything will fall apart.
You need to keep moving.
You have to love the daily discipline
of going to battle every single day
and finding pleasure and fulfillment in the thing,
in the present moment for its own sake.
If you’re able to do this, then that’s the happy place.
The thing itself will generate its own motivation as you do it.
And you can become fully immersed in the activity you’re doing.
So am I saying it’s bad to have goals in general?
Not at all.
Goals are really good for creating direction.
Having an ideal is sort of like having a compass.
It’s leading you in the right direction.
You should take a glance at it for reference,
but in the day-to-day struggle of actually doing the thing,
it’s not what you should be focusing on.
So now that we know why it’s kind of unhelpful
to always think about this end goal,
now you’re probably thinking,
how do I learn to enjoy and embrace difficult things
and have it be an integrated part of my life?
So there are two things that really helped me do that.
Number one is more of a mindset shift
and it’s more inner work.
And number two is more of a practical, strategic thing
that you do to yourself.
So number one is to operate from an abundance mindset rather than a scarcity mindset.
When you think to yourself, “I need to go get jacked,”
do you think that’s an abundance mindset
or a scarcity mindset?
– [Child] Ready?
– That is a scarcity mindset
because you need to go get something.
And that implies that you don’t already have it.
When you say I need to go to the gym
because I need to go get jacked,
you’re subconsciously saying to yourself
that’s because I’m not jacked yet.
Which also implies to yourself that you’re not jacked.
And as I’ve mentioned in previous videos,
human beings have an innate sense
of wanting to stay intellectually consistent.
Whatever you think your identity is,
you will operate accordingly.
So if you are constantly telling yourself
that you are not jacked, what do not jacked people do?
They don’t go to the gym.
When you look at it that way,
going to the gym will always be something that’s outside of yourself.
It’s something that’s unnatural for you.
Why would you go to the gym
if you’re not jacked?
So am I saying you should do some woo-woo thing
那么 难道我是说 你得马上支棱起来
and pretend that you’re jacked all of a sudden?
Like force yourself to know that you are in fact a giant beast?
That’s not what I’m saying because that’s not true.
Instead, try reminding yourself
that the reason why you want to go to the gym
is because you’re an active person,
and going to the gym is something that is important to you.
Your health is important to you.
So since you’re an active person,
going to the gym is just something you do.
That gets rid of a ton of mental resistance in the way
of actually going to the gym.
You can use this exact same method for reading books.
If you’re constantly telling yourself,
oh, I have to go read books to get smarter.
Oh, I have to go read a book now.
Obviously you’re not gonna have a good time while you’re doing it.
But if you identify as somebody who enjoys reading books,
it’s something that you like doing,
it’s just a part of who you are,
then you’re way more likely to actually follow through with doing it.
And if you think this is just some woo-woo crap,
this is how some of the greatest musicians,
athletes, and performers operate.
Take John Mayer for example.
I was just watching one of his Instagram live videos
where he was jamming out to blues backtracks
and he was having the time of his life.
And he said on the actual livestream.
– Nothing’s more fun in this lifetime
going out to dinner and coming home
and picking up a guitar and just practicing.
I don’t even call it practicing.
– Because even the word practice implies
that you’re only doing it to achieve some sort of outcome.
But if you’re playing,
you’re just enjoying it for what it is.
– So when I’m playing for you,
I’m like, I’m kind of doing what I do at home
which is repeat the same stuff over and over again
’cause it feels really good.
– This next tip is a little bit more practical
and a little less theoretical.
And that is to utilize habit-bunching.
And that is when you pair an already existing habit that you are used to doing
with one that you’re trying to work on.
So for instance, I’m a sucker for a great cup of coffee.
I have one in the morning and one in the early afternoon.
I really enjoy the taste of coffee
and I look forward to it every single time.
Do I have an addiction?
Yes, but I can leverage this filthy habit of mine
into working on another habit.
A great one to pair with a coffee addiction is reading.
And that’s exactly how I started reading more books.
Every single morning next to my coffee maker,
I placed the book that I wanted to read next to it
so that when I made my coffee,
I knew to pick up the book
and I could only drink the coffee
if I was reading the book the entire time I was drinking it.
And the crazy thing about this
is eventually you just start getting used to reading
whether you have coffee or not.
The action of opening up a book and reading becomes a lot more natural.
But it’ll become something very pleasant to you.
That’s so much better than reading
for the end goal of becoming smarter.
What is getting smarter even feel like?
It doesn’t feel like anything.
It’s not like in “The Matrix”
where they download kung fu onto Neo,
all of a sudden you just feel it.
Habit-bunching also works really well
when you’re trying to develop a gym habit.
If you have an album that you are currently in the habit of listening to,
and you crave the sound of Post Malone’s
beautiful, sweet, silky melodies,
then you should leverage that.
Allow yourself to listen to Post Malone,
but only when you’re at the gym.
This is one of the main ways I started
to become consistent at the gym.
I had this Migos album that would pump me up so much.
Even though I’m looking back on it now,
it’s not even good music at all.
And just like drinking coffee and reading,
once you start using habit-bunching
to develop a positive association
with the habit you’re trying to work on,
then your entire mindset towards that thing shifts.
Pretty soon you will just like going to the gym because of the way it makes you feel.
And realize that
it’s less about the music that’s actually making you feel so good,
and it’s more about the endorphins
of pushing heavy weight and getting stronger.
So to summarize,
stop generating your motivation on a day-to-day basis
by fantasizing about some sort of end goal that you’re never going to arrive at.
Instead, use the appropriate mindset shifts
and the habit-bunching tool
and whatever other tools at your disposal you have
to help you love the process
and help you love doing these things for their own sake.
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– So for the majority of my life,