出品：灵感与自律
丽莉·辛格
如果你正在看这个视频 并且
So if you’re watching this and you’re
想让我在这次访谈中仔细分析一下
like let me dissect this interview like
成功的诀窍和技巧是什么
what are the tips and tricks.
这没什么诀窍和技巧 唯有努力工作
That’s no tips and tricks. There’s a lot of work
努力工作
it’s a lot of work.
大量 专注地工作
It’s a lot of focused work and
这是我能给的最重要的提示
that’s…that’s the biggest message I can drive home is
当然你可以做些训练
that of course there’s practices and things
但是你需要停止寻找借口
you can do but you need to stop making excuses
需要谦虚
need to put your head down
你可以制定一个计划 然后执行
you can make a plan and I used anexecute plan.
我很想鼓励人们去相信
I think I really want to encourage people to believe
你可以成为任何你想成为的人
that whatever they want to be, even if it
即便这种设想并不现实
doesn’t exist, is possible and that is
因为我的工作是非传统的
because my job is so unconventional and
加上我想的每件事情都与
everything I wanted is so different from
我所接受的教育不同
what I was raised to I believe i could have,
如果你有创造力 如果你能
and if you’re creative, if you mix creativity
将创造力与努力结合起来 任何职位
with hustling hard, any job position,
甚至你想要实现的任何事情都是可能的
anything you want to become is possible.
只有当你向人们展示出你的价值
Show people what your value is,
人们才会为你的价值买单
and then they’ll pay you for your value.
故事是这样的 我拿到了心理学学位
So the story is that I was getting my psychology degree
但我当时并不热爱这个专业
and I wasn’t passionate about it
我只是做了我姐姐做过的事
I was doing everything my sister had done before me
盲目地跟随着她的脚步
And I was following her footsteps blindly
我毕业后
and after I graduated, my dad was
我父亲说：“很好！那你去攻读硕士吧！”
like: ‘Great! Now get your master’s degree!’
我说：“好吧”
And I was like:’okay.’
但我觉得我无论如何都做不到
I don’t think I could do this anyway.
我一点也不爱这些
I’m not passionate about any of these things
在那段状态低迷的日子里 我发现了YouTube
and so in that little funk, I discovered YouTube,
然后豁然开朗
kind of like the stars aligning perfectly
紧接着自然而然地发布了我的第一个视频
and I posted a first video really spontaneously
它是一些关于宗教的讨论
It was a spoken word piece about religion.
拍得很烂
it’s very very very bad
只有70次的观看 我只是觉得
it got 70 views and I think I just
在那段低谷期里我爱上了拥有目标
fell in love with having a goal during that downtime
学习新东西的感觉
and learning something new
一些在学习心理学时没训练到的东西
something I wasn’t trained at psychology doesn’t really help
比如心理学没教我如何使用相机
that much with learning how to use camera
我自学弥补了这一技能 这让我很兴奋
and so I had to make it up as I went along and It was very exciting for me
人们经常问我问题 他们看我的视频博客
People often ask me and they watch my vlogs
在第二个博客频道 一天之内发布很多内容
my second blog channel where I’m doing a whole bunch of stuff in a day
就譬如说今天
you know today for example,
我已经在这参加了两场会
I already had two meetings I’m here
我还要回家准备视频外拍
I’m gonna go home and go prepare for a shootout
我一天中做这么多事
I do so many things in a day and people are like how?
人们想知道我怎么做到的
how do you do this
有什么技巧
what is the trick it’s
就因为我热爱我所做的事情
because I really love what I do
对自己做的事有热情
and I’m really passionate about what I do
以前我的身体给我这样一种感觉
and I think one of the signs my body give me before is
我很快变得懒惰
that I would get lazy really quickly
我很快就感到疲倦 我会偷工减料
I’ll get tired really really quickly I would cut corners
还想方设法为自己的行为辩解
and come up with little justifications as to why that was okay
比如我为什么要学习心理方面的东西
like I would be studying for my psych stuff
还会 比如有一个很重要的部分
and be like… oh, well, like you know is a section really important
我会让我自己尽快应付过去
probably not you know we’ll just get this over
我现在绝对不会像之前那样做了
I don’t do that with what I’m doing right now
我勤勤恳恳地工作 我想那就是做正确的事的状态吧
I’m really thorough and I think that’s the sign of doing the right thing
当然了
Of course,
如果是真的 我们通常不会奢望
if I’m real we don’t always have that luxury
我们没有奢望
you know we don’t have the luxury
去做我们一直想要去做的
of doing what we want to do all the time
所以完成你的任务很重要
so it’s important to kind of pay your dues
我制作成的第一个视频
in that way the first video I made sucked
我全身心投入
it totally sucked my body wasn’t
我知道这就是正确的事情
like this is the right thing to do you know I
我必须付出努力做到更好
had to pay my dues and get better at it
但我认为你不应该放弃尝试
but I think you shouldn’t just not try
因为你要付出 耕耘
because you have to pay your dues
在你的书里《怎样做个老板》
In Your book”how to be a boss”
听听你的发音 我知道你很紧张 我们都很紧张
I know the practical and you’re neverous and right nevrrous had we are we got practial
我们还需要练习
we had to be…
读过这本书后
and we reading the books
我印象很深 因为这本书真的不错
I was impressed because it’s really good and so that I
所以我希望人们都能读一读
hope people really pick it up
内容很丰富 非常有用
it got a lot of stuff that’s incredibly
书中有些内容
usable and there was something
很让人惊讶 我得问问你
in is so surprising and I wanted to ask you about
你说老板
it and you said the boss
是会“有效地受伤”的人
is somebody that is hurt efficiently
我想知道 哇 那是什么意思
and I thought whoa what does that mean
一个人是怎样…
how does one…
换种说法就是人生中没有失败
yeah, it’s kind of another way of saying that there’s no failures
只是另一种说法而已
there’s lessons I mean that’s another way of putting it
每当我反思我的生活时
it but it’s just this idea of when I reflect back in my life
我一直认为这个观点是对的
and I think about all the times
我的确变成了一个更好的人 也更睿智
I really became a better person or a smarter person
但这是因为一些非常痛苦的事情
it’s because of something that was very hurtful or painful
或者不愉快的体验 我想未来我还会经常遇到
or an unpleasant experience and now I think very often in the future
如今 当我已经经历过了那些必然要经历的事
now when I’m through those experiences thats inevitable
我们会一次次地伤心
we’re all gonna get heartbroken over and over again
一次次地面对失败
we’re all gonna deal with failures all over again
但重要的是我们如何看待那些痛苦的时刻
but it’s how we think about those moments in that moment
因此我训练我的大脑
so I’ve kind of trained my brain to
我告诉自己可以沮丧
allow myself to be upset when I’m heartbroken
我允许自己感到挫败 但是绝不能放弃
and I allow myself to feel failure but not be down
不能太久地陷入忧郁
in the dumps about it for too long not be
不能觉得自己没用 或者
like oh well I’m worthless or oh well this is just how
认为整个世界都在和自己作对
it’s meant to be in the world’s
有效地受伤害是指
against me getting hurt efficiently means were
在这种时刻 我们怎么能做到有效地吸取教训
hurt how can we efficiently learn a lesson
我能做点什么不一样的事
in this moment what could I have
我能有什么不同的期待
done differently what could I expect
我能有什么不同的反应
it differently how could I have reacted
下次
differently so that the next time
当你心碎伤心时 毫无疑问
you will be heartbroken which you will be
有了心理建设 你就会处理了
it’s inevitable you’re better equipped to deal with it
你不能掌握你所处的环境
you can’t control the environment you’re in
当你很不开心时
now when you have a really really bad day you
你不能阻止司机让你中途下车
can’t control the other driver that cut you off
你不能阻止别人对你的有意伤害
you can’t control whoever was mean to you
你也不能改变你错过了电梯的事实
you can’t control the fact that you missed the elevator
你不能控制任何事
you can’t control any
你只能控制你自己 更加积极主动
of those things you can only control yourself so it’s about being more proactive
怎么做呢？
how do you do that well okay
假如一个司机让你中途下车
if a driver is gon na cut you off
放点好听的音乐 让你心情愉快
play some really good music so you’re in a good mood leave five minutes earlier if
假如你错过电梯而迟到了
you missed the elevator and you
那么就起早一点
were late wake up earlier it’s about doing
为所有事情提前做好准备 而最简单的
those proactive things and the simplestexample the simplest example everyone
关乎所有人的例子
can relate to what’s the
每天最使人恼火的事情就是
most infuriating thing that happens to us everyday
手机关机
our phone dying back
以前最令我恼火的就是手机可能随时关机
in the day this used to infuriate me my phone would die
而且我要去
and I’d have to go to a
参加一个不知道地址的会议
meeting and I wouldn’t know where it was or where to
也不知道在哪停车 导航不能用
park and the GPS would die
你知道我做了什么吗 我玩任天堂
you know what I did I played Nintendo I was like
我没办法控制手机
well I can’t control the phone I
我不能控制环境
can’t control the environment I can’t control
我不能控制停车场和会议
the parking and the meeting you what i
但我可以在车里放充电器
can control putting a damn charger in my car
那正是我做的
and then that’s what I did and then
所有的问题都解决了
that whole situation was solved that’s a
这只是一个小例子
really small example but we have things
但却是一生中都可能发生的
like that throughout our entire lives
当你得不到迫切所需的东西
not having the thing you need when you
或不能准时到达某地
need it or not getting somewhere on time
不能参与会议
not having a conversation your type
你就要把所有能控制的事分类
there’s solutions to all those things if
并且弄清楚哪些事情
you just take control and figure
在你控制范围之内 停止抱怨环境
out what’s in your control and stop blaming
我想实话实说
the environment I do want to
如果你想要有所成就
realistically tell people if you want to
就必须付出代价
achieve something at such a level it costs a price
因为我现在真的觉得
because I do feel right now
就像所有有趣的博客和名言说的那样
with all the cute tumblr quotes and all
你需要知道的是
the you know the idea that you’re
你是独特的
special and you’re
每个人都是独特的 你值得拥有一切
worth it everyone’s special and you are worth it
但你需要努力
but you need to work for it
你所相信的博客或名言并不能让你成功
likes that a tumblr or quote of you believing in yourself is not gonna get you success
所以我认为对立面就是
so I also do feel that the opposite
让孩子们知道
of that is letting kids knows
保持充足睡眠
like yeah get your sleep and
努力前进 相信自己
get this and just believe in yourself and
你最特别 你会成功的
your special you’ll get it done like is
而这真的会让他们成功吗？
that really gon na get them success though
成功与他们的努力
it’s that in combination with a lot
密不可分 我想没有人
of hard work and I think that latter
把这点直截了当地告知孩子们
part is never told in a very straightforward accurate way
我很欣赏你的说法 你举的这个例子
yeah I love that you had a quote
打动了我 我想把它解释为类似
that really hit me I’ll paraphrase it I’ll get close
宇宙吸引力法则
the universe may like the law of attraction
但这更像是一种好的推动力
but it likes a good hustle even more
这正是我想说的内容
that’s like word-for-word what it is by the way
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