There she is guys that beautiful woman
you’ve been wanting to speak with.
You start to walk across the room and all of a sudden
back of your head you’re wondering,
oh, my gosh what is she going to notice,
what is going to pick up on about me
before I even open my mouth.
Guys, in today’s video,
the first ten things a woman notices about a man.
All right, gents
a little bit of back story.
So, over the last few months
I’ve had a lot of people reach out to me
and say, Antonio,
I love your content
love how you do all this research
love your infographics.
I love everything you’re doing,
but I dress to impress the ladies.
Can you put out more information like that?
And I said, sure.
And, in addition to that,
I’m going through moving into my new office
and I’m like I’ve got a lot of gear I need to get rid of.
所以 这个夏天 从我们［真男人真风格］这里
So, this summer look for more fun content
from us here at Real Men Real Style
like a bo – a lot of bonus videos can be coming out.
And, at the end of this video,
stick around I have something I want to give away
to one of you guys and I’ll explain
How you can get this jacket here at the end of the video.
So, to start this video off
I’m going to get primal and by that I mean talking about
the fight or flight reflex in each of the first three points.
So, number one
she’s going to make a determination of you by your silhouette.
Is this a man?
Is this a woman?
She’s going to look at the overall bodybuilt.
所以 你要做的是 通过简单的身体外观
So, what you want to do is give a strong masculine feel
with simply the look of your body.
You can do this – I always talk about like putting on a jacket.
I’ve got a simple leather jacket on here,
but what this does is it builds up my shoulders.
It gives my shoulder points right here.
It also makes my arms and my chest torso area look leaner.
If you’re wearing a jacket,
always zip it up or button up.
I mean be practical, but if you’re outside
or you’re in it walking around your office building
you’re wearing your sports jacket,button that thing up.
Or wear shirts that are going to basically build up your shoulders,
build up your chest area
draw attention here
because whenever she sees a man is approaching her,
she’s going to behave a little bit differently.
Basically, women have been shown to actually swing their hips up a bit more
especially between the ages 16 and about 36.
At that point, they are in a sense
you know, they’re looking for a mate
they’re looking for a partner.
This is primal this is getting down to basic responses,
so they immediately make that decision
about your silhouette.
Next, let’s look at your body movement.
So, what you want to do here is
just don’t do anything that’s going to surprise them.
Have you ever been next to somebody
and they jump and you jump?
That’s because you scare them.
Now, it’s okay if you know somebody and just scare them,
but if you don’t know them,
you don’t – you want to
– don ’ t want to put that person off.
So, make sure you ’ re movements are smooth
that you’re not doing anything
if she’s on the other side of the bar
and she’s looking at you, you’re looking at her,
don’t close yourself off.
Be more open, pay attention to your body language.
It’s the second thing that she notices.
接下来 第三点 她会看你的手
Then, number three she’s going to look at your hands.
Again, this is getting primal here,
but she’s going to make sure
that you are not going to hit her that.
Yes, I know.
That you are not going to inflict harm
you’re not going to pull out a weapon
and it’s something that just simply keep them present
这样使 你懂的 看 你能看见我的手
make it so that, you know, hey, you can see my hands
that you are very approachable.
Women oftentimes are smaller than men.
They have to be very aware that,
hey, I can be put into a situation in which he could grab me
he could overpower me,
so women are going to be looking at your hands.
So, we got the fight or flight out of the way,
now let’s talk about things she’s going to notice
when she gets up close.
Immediately she’s going to look at your face
and she’s looking at your face for health reasons.
She’s trying to make a quick determination,
okay, is this a suitable partner,
is somebody that I want to engage with?
And I’m not saying that you need to stare at her,
but you do need to make some,
you know, eye contact.
所以 有眼神交流的话 她会立刻注意到
So, eye contact, she’s going to notice that immediately.
She’s also going to look at your face,
you know, from your facial hairs
she’s going to make a quick determination of your age.
She’s going to look at that facial hair and some women love stubble,
other women just love beards.
Not all women like beards,
but I have heard from a lot of bearded guys they talk about
how just women will come up to them in a bar
and start stroking their beard.
这很好 因为当你们打破了其中一个壁垒时 你能使她立刻和你产生肢体接触
That is great because you immediately get her to touch you and you get much closer
when you break one of the barriers down there.
But, getting her to look at your face
and in a sense she’s going to make a quick determination.
That takes us to the next point which is smile.
Gentlemen, one of the easiest things
that you can control and so few gentlemen do it right.
I am guilty of this.
I was so bad at smiling when a woman would look at me.
But, I had a friend and the guy I didn’t think
he was the most attractive guy,
but he just had a smile.
It wasn’t one of those crazy smiles,
it was simply an endearing smile with women.
And I remember just talking with many women
what do they remember about Rob.
Rob had an amazing smile
and it just led to conversation
which of course led to many other things,
but make sure guys that you have thatsmile.
You know how to smile, you practice smiling
whenever a woman looks at you
because it is something that she’s going to notice.
Number six on our list–clothing.
当然 现在她会对你的气质 衣着
Of course she’s now going to make a quick determination
about your style your clothing.
And she’s going to look at the fit,
she’s going to look at the fabric,
she’s going to look at function.
And at this point she’s making an overall determination,
from a distance she’s maybe not up close,
but she’s like, wow, he’s clothing fits him,
it all looks good.
This guy has got some style.
I am curious and I want to get closer
and I want to learn more.
Just make sure that you nail the fit,
nail the fabric, nail the function.
And, again, in the support article
I’ll link over to more information about
how to dress properly.
I’ve got an entire website on that,
so don’t worry I’ll give you more of it there.
Next stop, she’s going to notice your mannerisms
when you engage and talk with other people.
Do you acknowledge her?
Do you acknowledge others?
Do you maybe stay focused on one individual?
Do you introduce yourself?
Do you actually try to spread out the conversation?
Are you someone who just loves to talk about yourself
and you don’t care to hear about anyone else?
So, be aware that she is aware of this bigger picture.
She’s looking at where do you fit.
Of course, status is important here
所以 你可以逗大家笑 以此来吸引
so that you can make people laugh that you can engage
that you are someone that other people are seeking out.
All of these is important,
but she’s also looking at how do you pay attention to others.
Are you the kind of guy
and there are guys out there that ignore women.
They’ll just talk to the men in the group
and they’ll ignore that the woman over here
has something to say.
Or are you the kind of guy
that’s going to seek out and try to bring everyone in
and she’s going to pick up on those small details.
The next thing one is going to notice about a man
is his language ability
because this gives her a very clear indicator
of what’s going on up here and is she going to be able
and is she going to be able to communicate with a man.
Women are looking for the big picture.
I know men initially we can go on with a list
of things we want on a woman and if we find
her attractive that list goes out the window and we ’ re like,
okay, I think I found what
I’m looking for.
Women not the same,
they ’ ve got certain types of guys they ’ re looking for and a
lot of it can only be determined by communicationskills.
So, she’s going to look at your lexicon.
Do you talk at a fourth grade level
or are you someone that can carry higher conversation?
Now, with your accent,
maybe you immigrated to the United States from Germany or maybe
you came over from India or Pakistan,
she ’ s going to look at that and she ’ s going to
say, you know what?
I like that this guy has traveled around.
She ’ s also going to look
at your tone and this is the way that you say things and the
emotion behind them because when somebody offers you something you can say,
你可以说 不用了 谢谢你
you or you can go, no.
Do you see?
There ’ s a – I said the same thing basically,
but the way I said them very different.
She ’ s going to pay attention to all of these to make assumptions and,
yes, I know assumptions
are not the truth, but this is
all she has to go with and she
’ s going to do a lot of
that based off your language skills.
The next thing a woman notices is something
that she can ’ t even see, smell.
所以 大多数男人都知道 对
So most men know, okay,
wear deodorant because I don ’ t want to smell bad, but only 20 %
of men wear fragrance on a regular basis and
that ’ s a shame because women pick up on
They ’ re a lot more sensitive to it
than we are and it is something that they love.
And if you have a fragrance which she
’ s going to remember you by that becomes your
signature scent, guys, it gives you a hugeadvantage.
So, the next thing that a woman notices
about a man are the style details.
This is different than point six.
Point six I talked about your general overall style, how everything fits together.
At this point though,
she ’ s starting to pay attention to your watch, to your bracelet,
to your rings, to those little things like the texture of the fabric.
Leather right here gives a very strong masculine feel,
but maybe you ’ ve got a sweater.
Women love the nap surface of a sweater,
they almost want to touch it.
This goes back, this is very primal,
it ’ s kind of how we did a circle here, but you
want to have small style details that instantly send the signal,
oh, this guy invest in himself,
he actually looks really good.
They ’ ll look down at your shoes, oh,
he ’ s got a little bit of suede there.
That is a really nice boot.
It ’ s a great thing
because here ’ s the deal is women pay attention to the style to
all these details because they are judged by them,
so they ’ re more in tune to it even
though men are oftentimes style for us is more
about status it ’ s more about power,
it is something that they look at this they ’ re like,
hah, this guy pays attention to the
好了 先生们 现在轮到你们了
All right, gentlemen now it’s your turn.
I want to hear from you down in the comments.
What do you do think of this video?
How could I have made it better?
What did I miss?
Let me know down there, I’m always tryingto get better.
And I talked about giving away this leather jacket and,
by the way I ’ ve got some other
leather and suede jackets I need to give away
along with some pretty cool leather bags.
是这样的 最近呢 我搬进了一间新办公室
Here is the deal is I recently moved
into a new office and I ’ ve got this gear.
I have never worn, I like this leather jacket.
It’s black though.
I don’t normally wear black.
Jose Luis he ’ s over at JL Rocha,
he sent me six of this.
This one is valued at $650.
It’s a size medium.
I would love to send it to some of my super fans.
So, how do I know if you’re a super fan?
One, I ’
ve been watching and seeing who ’ s been commenting on our videos in the first
twenty four to forty eight hours after a videogoes out.
I want to hear the stories.
I want to hear how you ’ re
helping spread the message that we have here at Real Men
Real Style and that ’ s to arm men with the knowledge,
so that they can go out and build
a wardrobe that best compliments their individual style,
so that you that you can use style
to get what they want out of life
that they can become the man they know themselves to be.
[0:10:05]I talk about these things, but I want you
会分享我们的软件 更多分享这些视频 传递知识
guys be sharing our app to be out there sharingthese videos passing this information along.
So, if you ’ ve been sharing our information,
if you have been living the message of Real
Men Real Style, leave me a great comment downbelow.
Talk about how you share this maybe with your Facebook friends,
how you have actually pass
our content or our app maybe onto your father,
how you have used our information to become
a better man.
And, the comments
I ’ m really going to pay attention to are the ones that I notice this
guy has been commenting on my videos for, you know,
the last few months, he ’ s always
there in the first twenty four to forty eighthours.
Notice how timing works which
by the way there is a bell down there so you can get e-mail
I ’ ve just got all these gears
I want to send your guys ’ way.
And so, look
for some cool stuff and the best thing you can do now believe me if you comment
相信我 是现在在下方评论 你不断的评论 参与互动
now and you stay consistently commenting, engaging,
分享视频 你知道的 那样
sharing being, you know, in that
early notification squad, guys,
过完这个夏天 我可能 可能将去
over the summer I ’ m probably – will probably going to
do it at least twenty five to probably fiftygiveaways.
I ’ ve got to go through all the stuff,
but I know I ’ ve got at least twenty pretty big
things I need to get rid of.
So, that’s it guys.
Thank you for supporting me and everything we do here
at Real Men Real Style.
And I’ll see you in the next video.