Have you ever woried that someone was lying about rape?
Every single time a woman comes forward
声称自己被广受爱戴的影星 音乐家 电视明星 油管推主强奸
about having been abused by a beloved movie star, musician, TV star, YouTubers,
that starts fans immediately accuse her of lying.
There are men’s groups online that claim that women lie
about rape 90 percent of the time.
A sheriff in Idaho very recently claimed
that they don’t need a better system for rape kits which collect evidence
because most victims are liars.
“The majority of our rapes that are called in are actually consensual sex.”
And I mean look, couldn’t you or me or anybody
in the world just make up a rape for attention?To get revenge? Out of jealousy?
As Toby Turner’s mom posted on Facebook? Yeah!
You could totally do that, but would you do that?
And how often does that actually happen?
The FBI states
that betwen 2 and 8 percent of rape reports are false,
which is actually a low number in the crime world.
Other crimes like safe theft,
they have around 10 percent false reports
and even that 2 to 8 percent statistic is deceptive.
It includes reports where someone accidentally identified the wrong person,
reports that are thrown out because of inconsistent details,
but it is a well known fact amongst victimologists that trauma affects your memory
and that 2 to 8 percent includes survivors who recanted.
Someone can take it back because they were lying, sure,
but much more commonly,
they take it back
because they’re being pressured to take it back,
or because they decided they’d rather just not deal with it.
So what does this mean?
It means that malicious actually false reports and allegations are pretty rare.
And yet, doubting someone,
calling them a liar when they come forward is extremely common.
Many of the reasons why we’re
inclined to doubt someone revolve around rape myths,
myths about victims and myths about gender.
For one, most perpetrators aren’t greasy,
creepy guys who hang out in the shadows.
They’re just regular people in our lives.
When fans, friends, family, coworkers find out that someone that they know and love
did something terrible,
it can be really hard to grapple with and accept and,
instead, they choose to deny it.
That halo effect around a perpetrator can be so strong
that you can have cases like Cosby’s,
where nearly 60 women come forward and report
and people still don’t believe that anything happened.
Sometimes the perpetrator even go so far as to say:”I didn’t do it. They’re lying.”
This affirms people who don’t want to believe that the sexual assault hapenned.
There are a lot of people particularly in the states
who believe that in order for a rape to be real,
you have to have reported it and in order for that report to be true
a court must convict them as guilty.
Now in reality, about 68 percent of victims of sexual crimes don’t report
and only 2 percent of rapists ever see a day in jail.
Does that mean that 98 percent of people are just lying?
No,it means that our courts aren’t arbiters of truth
and they’re not always adequately equipped to handle sexual crimes.
Then there are myths about how a real victim would act.
In reality there’s no one response to sexual assault.
Different people handle it in lots of different ways.
Another myth, when it comes to men,
is the belief that men can’t actually be raped.
“Men want sex all the time.”
“He had an erection.”
“He was into it.”
But an erection is not consent and increased blood flow can be a fight or flight response.
最后 我认为 人们不相信幸存者的
Lastly,one of the sneakiest and, I think,
most perversive reasons why people don’t believe survivors
is that most survivors are women.
There are many subconscious, sexist beliefs
that we learn all throughout our lives that come in and inform our opinions.
女性经常撒谎 我们不可靠 我们容易被操控
That women lie a lot, we’re not trustworthy, we’re manipulative,
you know,”bitches be crazy.”
And those attitudes and biases within ourselves go unchecked,
they absolutely do real damage.
哦 等一下 万一这的确是真的 或者假的呢？
[RECORD SCRATCHES]Oh wait! What if it really is actually truly really, truly false?
False reports are illegal
and they’re typically taken pretty seriously when they surface.
It’s really, really important to talk about them,
because ultimately in this fight we’re fighting, for justice for everyone.
So we need to pay attention in the rare moments
that this happens to address them,
to better understand them
and we do a whole lot of talking about false reports
which is why we also need to talk
about the reality that sexual assault accounts are nearly always true.
How we more readily believe someone who says they’ve robbed than they been raped.
How men are far more likely to be sexually assault
than to be falsely accused.
How it’s far more common
that a survivor is convinced to back down
在大众 朋友 家人 甚至警察的劝说下
by the public, friends, family,
even the police when something horrible did happen.
We need to talk about
how widespread myths and disbelief protect abusers
and allow them to keep on abusing others.
If false reports are something that worries you,
记得这点 从数据来看 你是有理的
know that, statistically, you’re on the side of reason,
and justice, and truth to believe someone who comes forward.
We need to be willing to face the truth,
to approach justice honestly,
even when the perpetrator is someone that we know and love.
So to April Fletcher and any survivor who
finds the strength to come forward on YouTube or beyond:
I believe you and one day I hope that the world does, too.