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We want to experience so much in life,
we can often ignore and neglect the quality of what we actually experience.
We are so often drawn to lifestyles
full of busy schedules,
active social lives, frequent travels
and elaborate goals and achievements.
We end up in lives focused on all of these things,
but very little on ourselves.
The busy life is promoted to us by culture
电影 表演 新闻 畅销书 社交媒体等文娱产品
in movies, in shows, the news, best-selling books, on social media and so on.
For much of the modern world,
the ideal of this life is transfused into the blood.
But is this way of life even good for you?
Since oftentimes people who live very simple modest quiet lives
那些过着简单 谦虚 安静的生活的人
are viewed as unexceptional unsuccessful losers and so on,
it can perhaps be hard to see a quiet simple life of relative obscurity
as something appealing, noteworthy, intentional and difficult.
人们很难认同这种生活是吸引人的 值得注意的 有意义的 困难的
But in truth for at least some portion of us,
this sort of life is in fact a redeeming endeavor,
indicative of immense discipline and wisdom.
“If a man does not keep pace with his companions,
perhaps it is because he hears a different drummer.
Let him step to the music he hears,
however measured or far away.”
wrote 19th century American transcendentalist writer and philosopher Henry David Thoreau.
Thoreau was a figure who focused much of his life and philosophy
on the value of simplicity, self-reliance, authenticity
强调简朴 自立 真实的价值
and separating from the influences and conventions of modern life.
He not only wrote about these concepts
but he lived them.
After avoiding the expected standard career paths
and befriending the founding father of the transcendentalist philosophy movement Ralph Waldo Emerson,
for years Thoreau lived by himself in a cabin in the woods
on a plot of Emerson’s land.
Here he led a simple quiet secluded life,
focusing only on what he believed he truly needed and valued.
He worked only one day a week reduced his material possessions to a minimum,
separated from the social and cultural world,
immersed into nature and focused on his passion of writing.
During this time he wrote his master work Walden,
in one passage of this book,
he reflects on his time and reasons for living alone in the woods, writing:
“I went to the woods because I wish to live deliberately
to front only the essential facts of life
and see if I could not learn what it had to teach,
and not, when I came to die discovered that I had not lived…
I wanted to live deep and suck out all the marrow of life…”
We all want to live a good life and be successful,
but how often do we stop and evaluate
what a good successful life might be for us?
How often do we consider not how it would look from the outside
but how it would feel from the inside
the only place it is actually experienced?
Plainly being successful merely means
having adequately accomplished a predetermined goal or task,
and so arguably, being successful in life
depends solely on having mindfully determined an overarching goal
for how you want to live and then living adequately that way.
Thus those who live a quiet modest simple life
are just as successful as someone who lives a busy and culturally significant one,
so long as in both cases, both ways of life are intentionally pursued
both are equally successful when obtained.
Only in the case in which someone is living unintentionally and without deliberation
is one unsuccessful.
Thus even on the highest of thrones,
the remotest of destinations and the most private of rooms,
we might just as likely find examples of failure
as we might in a small cabin in the woods.
Of course, some of us might find ourselves in conditions and circumstances we did not choose
that cannot easily be broken free from,
conditions that come with financial, mental or health constraints
涉及金融 精神 或健康 责任束缚的情况
and responsibilities that require ways of life that we may not prefer.
And of course, many of us do prefer busy frantic material lives,
but for the number of us for whom this is not the case.
If we choose to give up our time to people and things we don’t value
that take us from people and things we do,
where a different accessible orientation of our life would not require this,
then perhaps we have ventured the wrong direction,
and would benefit from some amount of simplification
or at the very least a reasonable renovation of our lives.
Inevitably, we almost give up some portion of our time
to people, things and tasks that we do not want to.
将自己的部分时间分给一些人 事 和任务上
But the essential question we must ask ourselves when we can
is how much, why and for what.
是要花多少钱 为什么 以及为了什么
We all know that time is the only
commodity that cannot be earned or bought back when it is gone,
and in a fundamental sense it is the only thing we truly have,
and yet we often exchange it haphazardly for reasons we don’t think much about.
We would never let anyone take our money
or our car or any of our stuff,
but yet we often freely let people and things and experiences
但我们常常让人 事 经历自由地
take our time every day, month, year and decade.
每天 每月 每年 每十年地夺走我们的时间
And here is where we might call upon Thoreau,
Emerson and other great thinkers alike
to realize the value of our deliberateness
and focus on our time, our perception
and the internal experience of our lives,
and not on things other people’s opinions
and that which we cannot control outside of ourselves.
“In short,” Thoreau wrote, “I am convinced both by faith and experience
“总之” 索罗说 “我相信信仰和经验
that to maintain one’s self on this earth is not a hardship but a pastime,
if we will live simply and wisely…”
Perhaps we don’t always need to take that new job with those greater responsibilities,
accept that invitation to that concert or that party,
go to that place we’ve seen everyone go,
keep as many relationships with as many people as we can,
try to keep up with everyone we know and see online,
or buy that new version of that new thing.
Perhaps rather for some of us,
we would be better served by focusing on
how to draw down the items on the to-do list,
the events on the calendar,
the people we engage with
and instead, keep a relatively concise schedule
with just a few important things and a few important people.
In truth, an exciting life is
a life in which we are excited to be alive,
not necessarily one in which we are always frantically doing things.
There is nothing impressive about living a life you do not like,
if you do not have to.
And there is great virtue and heroism
in simply staying sane, kind,
spending meaningful time with a few close loved ones
and maintaining authenticity in one’s work and life.
Of course, none of this is to make light of
the difficulty of doing such a thing and living such a way.
Swimming against the current of social conventions
of personal and cultural expectations of what you’re currently doing
is like trying to get back to the shoreline,
while the force of the ocean’s current pulls you further and further out to sea,
and moreover, the ambiguity of what we actually want
and what is actually good for us is always present.
The temptation of the alleviation of responsibility
by just letting the current take us and living how others live,
defining success and excitement how others define it,
spurs in every post on social media
and intimates in every encounter in which we are asked.
What do you do?
But in the words of Thoreau,
“Rather than love, than money, than fame, give me truth.”
“给我真理 而不是爱情 金钱 名誉”
To find truths and values,
Thoreau look to nature, independence and a life of simplicity.
梭罗向往自然 独立 和简朴的生活
But arguably, where we look is perhaps
far less important than why we look where we do.
It is in Thoreau’s deliberateness that we should draw inspiration from
not necessarily his lifestyle.
A successful life is not one filled with important meetings,
active social lives, high wealth or fame,
but nor is it one reduced to its most basic form,
也并非一无所有 以最原始 基础的方式去生活
filled primarily with free time and leisure.
A successful life is simply a conscious one,
one made of authenticity, self-reliance
and continual adaptation toward who we are and how we want to live.
In the end, the only shame of being unsuccessful in life
is being unsuccessful in living how you want to the best you can.
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