How’s it going?
This is Charlie from Charisma on Command with your daily charisma tip of the day.
So I’ve been talking a lot in the last couple of days about open body language, right?
What we’ve basically been doing is diagnosing where your shoulders were and what you could
do physically to correct any imbalances you have.
But I want to talk about why is this so important?
So this goes back to cave men days.
回看旧时代 人的生命安全受到许多威胁 没错吧
Back in the day, there were actual physical threats to your safety, right?
There were claws and there were fangs and all these sort of things that could
end your life.
So what people did when they were out and a lion or some other sort of threat is they
intend to close up, almost like a boxer or an MMA fighter today.
They lower their chin.
They tighten up here.
They hunch down.
In that way, they could protect their vulnerable areas.
时至今日 这个动作流传下来 当人们受到社会威胁时
Now, their civil hold over today, when people feel under social threat, what they actually
do is they adopt that same body language.
他们低颌 收紧身躯 就像这样
They lower their chin, they tighten up and they go like this.
And that’s oftentimes why we get the phrases like “Keep your chin up,” right?
That is all from chin down, signifying sadness, nervousness; chin up, signifying pride and
所以在社会交往中 你要意识到 紧绷的身体语言
So when you’re going out there in the world, you want to be aware that close body language
is going to signify to other people and to your own nervous system that you’re not comfortable,
所以如果你要去面试 你像这样摆姿势 不管
So if you’re about to do a job interview and you’re taking it like this, it doesn’t matter
你回答得多好 表现多亮眼 你遇到麻烦了 但如果
how good your answers are, how spot on there, if you’re gonna have issues, versus if you
你坐得很舒适 微微昂首挺胸 露出
sit comfortably, you open up your chin, your chest, your neck, you expose the inside of
your arms and your palms — all these traditionally vulnerable areas.
You’re going to come off as much more confident because you’re literally showing your vulnerability
— those points in your body where you could get hurt.
Now, the cool thing is, today you don’t stand a chance of an actual physical violence in
an interview, so you have nothing to lose.
You just need to get in your conscious brain that when you share, when you’re about to
和某人交谈 或者是某些对话 让你觉得有点不舒服时
speak to someone and some sort of situation in life that make you a little bit uncomfortable,
the best thing you can do is open up your body.
So that’s why I’ve been trying to help you with the shoulders and go to the lower body
and that sort of stuff.
But just some things to keep in mind.
当你开始意识到 自己不舒服 最好的方法就是
When you find yourself out, if you start to feel uncomfortable, the best way, hack your
The best way is to open up.
So what does that mean?
你要肩膀用力往后 抬起下巴 掌心向前
It’s gonna be to pull your shoulders back, lift your chin up, turn the palms out so that
they’re exposed a little bit, stand a little bit wider, right?
Back in the day, you have to cover your genitalia because that was an area that would be attacked.
你双脚站宽 张开身体 像这样站好 只要深呼吸
So you stand a little bit wider, you open up, stand like this and just breath deeply
for 30 seconds is often enough.
Amy Cuddy has a TED Talk on this.
She calls them power poses and there is scientific evidence that this will physically transform
your brain chemistry.
This will put more of the chemicals that you want.
The chemicals that will make you confident.
通过它 大脑运作得更好 你的能力得以提升
The chemicals that actually make you competent, that made your brain function better versus
this ones, which you’re just gonna make those fight or flight chemicals kick in and make
you much less eloquent, much less able to get what you want out of any given social
So that is the charismatic tip of the day.
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