Hey,everybody. This is me,Meera.
and you are watching me on Skillopedio.
a place to learn skills for the real world.
We all have one thing in common ,and what is that?
That is a tendencu to get confused between choices.
The good choice or the right choice?
We repeatly go back and forth with our decisions.
We also listen to few people,
we end up looking on Google
watch a lot of videos probably
but then at the end of the day,
we are still at the same point.
and not comfortable making any decision right now.
So where are we?
We are at the same start where we started
and still can not decide.
Well, by the end of this video
you would have learnt points to ask yourself to be able
to reach that right decision for yourself at that point.
Well ,let us first understand
what is a right decision and what is a good decision?
Making a decision is just as good as a game,
that, that game that time plays on us.
It is about the time, isn’t it?
the place, the situation and the people involved.
包括地点 情境 相关人物
If you are on a diet and you are very hungry
It is the decision that you take at that time
whether to eat a burger or not,
choosing any job, just any job,
because you don’t have one right now.
What state of mind you are at?
that point to make a decision will ultimately decide,
if it was a good decision or a right decision?
But we need to avoid that confusion, right?
So let’s get started…
You will believe me when I tell you,
that we are all emotional fools that way.
Once my friend wanted to shift her career path
from working in a bank to becoming an air hostess,
so she started her research
and later informed her family and friends
that she is going to switch her job and her career path.
Everyone in her family and friends
told her it was very risky decision and she would
end up not only spending a lot of time but also
a lot of money, right?
Her logic told her
that she will have to spend most of her savings,
leave her job start studying and go for classes.
辞职 然后开始学习 上课
It was against everyone’s logic but you know what
her intuition told her it was worth it.
She got out of her job, started her classes
in aviation and French language as well,
spent most of the savings and took one whole year
before she even got a job in an international company.
The efforts here were worth it.
Worth her career wise as well as her happiness.
But she taught me something very important
when I said I wanted to switch my career too.
She said Meera, it worked for me at that point
她说 Meera 在当时这样对我有用
and at that time to follow my intuition
but it might not work again
and it might not work for you
and that is the point you guys,
a good decision makes you feel good
a short period of time.
A good decision is so much to do about just you know feeling good.
Thinking more from the heart and going with it.
It might work once but it might not work again
and might not work for others
just because it has worked for you.
Another short incidence that happened with me
as a fresh high school graduate,
I had to choose a stream and I chose Science,
you know why?
Because all my friends were choosing the same.
Has it happened to you guys?
I was not getting any time for sports,
dance practices because of study in classes
and I still scored less.
I realized, I had made a decision
just because I didn’t want to get of my comforts
and wanted to stay with my friends.
Follow what they are doing.
Later I really regretted that decision.
So why don’t you tell me what I should have done?
Do one thing, write to me in comments,
how I should have handled this situation better?
Moral of the story was,
short term vision is safe only in the moment,
not for the long vision.
Guys, after making many, many mistakes time and again,
I understood that I must use my brain for analysis
and then check it with my heart,
so here are few tricks and tips
on how I started doing that.
Ask yourself, does the decision that you are making,
expand you, your future
and open possibilities for you?
If the answer is yes, then the decision is yes.
No matter how terrifying the road or the path is for you.
It could be moving out of your parent’s house.
Studying and working full time at the same time.
Or it could be changing your career path all over again,
even when you are thirty.
You must appraise for impact for the long term
as it is a slow process at times, you know?
The best decision, when you are confused
between heart and logic is, here it goes,
Write all what you think.
Write down both the things
all the things that you are thinking of, their pros and their cons.
the steps that you will take to reach both the goals.
who else will your decision impact?
When you will be able to see it in front of you,
then evaluating it would be much much clearer
and then you would be confident in your decision as well.
Let us see how to strengthen decision making muscles
First, write what is the result you want.
For example I want a career that will help my travel.
I want to lose weight.
I want to speak fluent English,
reach managerial position in just two years, simple?
Now it’s written.
List all your options as many as you can.
So let’s say I want a career
that will help me travel all around.
So my options are,
I can choose photography, tours and travels,
write for a travel magazine probably?
If I want to lose weight, my options are,
just diet, diet plus workout,
just workout and exercises and no diet, right?
Now that I have written, I will move on.
List all pros and cons in front of each option.
For example, photography as an option,
my pros that means advantages are I will get to travel,
I get to see new things and different things,
my work would be all over social media
okay now let’s looks at cons that means disadvantages,
it will take a long time to earn enough money,
I will spend a lot of money on my camera and lenses,
right? Working hours can be really extreme, okay
So the next thing,
write down the worst thing that can happen for each option,
as a photographer, I will not get recognized easily
and hence won’t get paid enough, right?
Worst thing as a travel guide, what could happen?
I could get a desk job.
Worst thing if I want to lose weight,
I will just not lose weight no matter what.
Now once you’ve written all this in, the next logical step is,
who else will this impact?
My family, my kids, my colleagues, my own body?
我的家人 孩子 同事 我自己的身体？
Could be few options that you decision can impact, right?
By now you guys have a complete sheet and all the things you need,
you steps, your advantages, your results, disadvantages,
和所有需要的东西 步骤 优点 结果 缺点
who all will it impact?
With the help of this,
you will be able to pick the most suitable and logical option.
Now with continues practice this with this method
slowly you wouldn’t have to write it down as well.
But guess what, I’ve got some tricks
不过 你猜怎样 我还有一些
that will help you even further.
I call this body check test.
What does your physical body say,
when you put yourself in that situation,
when you start imagining it?
Sudden shifts in your body can make you realize
how you feel about it,
your stomach feels heavy,
your head feels light, your body just gets encouraged,
you know your body doesn’t lie.
Fast forward test,
here you have to travel to the worst case scenario,
you know what can happen?
What’s the worst that can happen?
What if it all goes wrong?
How would you feel or how would you deal with it?
It is about, is it about losing some money?
Losing a job or a family?
Just write it down.
You must write down how you would deal with it.
Or how you would lift yourself up
when everything goes wrong when everything goes bad?
The best thing ever, test.
Think through what all other possible advantages,
will you grow creatively, financially, emotionally?
你会更有创造力 更富有 情感更丰富？
Make it detailed and specific.
What is the best thing possible with this decision?
How long lasting will it be, right?
I call this test drive.
Check if there is some way you can test your option.
Just probably take up a class before you choose a subject
Borrow a camera to see if you have the skills,
post it on instagram and see what are your comments.
If you were supposed to do a career shift
before you quit the job,
check if you can possibly get into any internship or studying,
just to see it suits you
and if you love it.
So there you go,
this brings me to the end of the video.
I’m sure you will now be able to think
before every decision,
as to what you want to do.
But remember at the end
make sure you are happy, because when you smile,
you can make others smile
and that in itself has a great rush.
That is all for today you guys,
I will see you very, very soon
until then be good, do good, keep smiling.
在那之前 请你们保重 保持微笑
This is me Meera signing off for the day.
这就是我 Meera 今天带来的内容