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做好的决定还是对的决定

Confused Making GOOD vs RIGHT Decision? | Goal Setting | Secret to Success | #SelfImprovement

《技能大全》 现实世界中的技能
好的决定和对的决定的区别
Hey,everybody. This is me,Meera.
大家好 我是Meera
and you are watching me on Skillopedio.
你正在观看《技能大全》
a place to learn skills for the real world.
这是一个学习现实世界中的技能的网站
We all have one thing in common ,and what is that?
我们都会有一个共同点 是什么呢?
That is a tendencu to get confused between choices.
那就是 我们在做决定时都会感到困惑
The good choice or the right choice?
做好的选择还是对的选择
We repeatly go back and forth with our decisions.
我们总是对我们的决定犹豫不决
We also listen to few people,
我们也会听几个人的意见
we end up looking on Google
在谷歌上搜索
watch a lot of videos probably
也可能会看大量的视频
but then at the end of the day,
但是到这天结束
we are still at the same point.
我们仍然停在同一处
and not comfortable making any decision right now.
而且无法立刻做出任何决定
So where are we?
所以进展如何?
We are at the same start where we started
我们仍然在最初的起点
and still can not decide.
无法做决定
Well, by the end of this video
看完这个视频
you would have learnt points to ask yourself to be able
你将会学到 让你自己能够
to reach that right decision for yourself at that point.
做出正确决定的方法
Well ,let us first understand
首先让我们了解一下
what is a right decision and what is a good decision?
什么是正确的决定 什么是明智的决定?
Making a decision is just as good as a game,
做一个决定 就像做游戏一样
that, that game that time plays on us.
这是时间和我们玩的游戏
It is about the time, isn’t it?
这是关于时间的游戏 不是吗?
the place, the situation and the people involved.
包括地点 情境 相关人物
If you are on a diet and you are very hungry
如果你在减肥 感到十分饥饿
It is the decision that you take at that time
你这时需要做的决定
whether to eat a burger or not,
就是是否要吃一个汉堡
choosing any job, just any job,
选择一份工作 任何一份工作
because you don’t have one right now.
因为你此时恰好没工作
What state of mind you are at?
你当时处于什么样的思维?
that point to make a decision will ultimately decide,
在那个时候 做一个决定就会是最终决定
if it was a good decision or a right decision?
它是一个好的决定还是一个对的决定?
But we need to avoid that confusion, right?
但是我们需要去避免这种困惑 对吗?
So let’s get started…
所以让我们开始吧
我们都是情绪的傻瓜
You will believe me when I tell you,
你会相信我告诉你的
that we are all emotional fools that way.
我们都是情绪的傻瓜
Once my friend wanted to shift her career path
我的朋友曾想要改变她的职业道路
from working in a bank to becoming an air hostess,
从银行上班族转行成为一名空姐
so she started her research
所以她开始研究这件事的可行性
and later informed her family and friends
后来 她告诉她的家人和朋友
that she is going to switch her job and her career path.
她要换工作 改变她的职业道路
Everyone in her family and friends
她所有家人和朋友都告诉她
told her it was very risky decision and she would
这非常冒险
end up not only spending a lot of time but also
她不仅需要耗费大量的时间
a lot of money, right?
还要花费很多金钱
Her logic told her
她的理智告诉她
that she will have to spend most of her savings,
她将花掉她的大部分存款
leave her job start studying and go for classes.
辞职 然后开始学习 上课
It was against everyone’s logic but you know what
这与每个人的逻辑相违背 但是你知道吗?
her intuition told her it was worth it.
她的直觉告诉她 这是值得的
She got out of her job, started her classes
她辞职了
in aviation and French language as well,
开始了航空以及法语的课程
spent most of the savings and took one whole year
花费了大部分的存款 耗费了一整年
before she even got a job in an international company.
直到进入了一家国际公司
The efforts here were worth it.
这些努力是值得的
Worth her career wise as well as her happiness.
值得她获得事业发展和快乐
But she taught me something very important
但是她告诉我们一些非常重要的道理
when I said I wanted to switch my career too.
当我说我也想要换工作时
She said Meera, it worked for me at that point
她说 Meera 在当时这样对我有用
and at that time to follow my intuition
当时我跟着直觉走了
but it might not work again
但这可能不会再次成功
and it might not work for you
可能对你不会奏效
and that is the point you guys,
这就是我要说的
a good decision makes you feel good
一个好的决定会让你
a short period of time.
在短时间内感觉良好
A good decision is so much to do about just you know feeling good.
一个好的决定会让你心情好
Thinking more from the heart and going with it.
更多的从内心来思考 并且跟随内心
It might work once but it might not work again
这个决定一次有效 不代表再次有效
and might not work for others
也不会因为它曾对你起作用
just because it has worked for you.
就对别人也有用
Another short incidence that happened with me
拿另一件发生在我身上的小事来说
as a fresh high school graduate,
作为一个高中毕业生
I had to choose a stream and I chose Science,
我必须选择专业 我选了科学
you know why?
你知道为什么吗
Because all my friends were choosing the same.
因为我的朋友们都选了它
Has it happened to you guys?
你经历过这种事吗
I was not getting any time for sports,
因为课堂学习
dance practices because of study in classes
我完全没有时间来运动 练舞
and I still scored less.
但我成绩仍然不好
I realized, I had made a decision
我意识到 我做的这个决定
just because I didn’t want to get of my comforts
仅仅是因为我不想走出我的舒适区
and wanted to stay with my friends.
我想和我的朋友们在一起
Follow what they are doing.
追随他们正在做的事情
Later I really regretted that decision.
之后 我真的很后悔做那个决定
So why don’t you tell me what I should have done?
所以 你能告诉我应该做什么吗
Do one thing, write to me in comments,
来吧 在评论中告诉我
how I should have handled this situation better?
我怎样才能把这件事情处理好
Moral of the story was,
这个故事的寓意就是
short term vision is safe only in the moment,
目光短浅只在当下是安全的
not for the long vision.
但长远来说却不是这样
Guys, after making many, many mistakes time and again,
朋友们 在一次次犯了许许多多的错误后
I understood that I must use my brain for analysis
我明白了 我必须用我的头脑去分析
and then check it with my heart,
再用心去检验
so here are few tricks and tips
所以关于我如何开始进行这些
on how I started doing that.
这儿有一些窍门和建议
Ask yourself, does the decision that you are making,
问问你自己 你正在做的决定
expand you, your future
扩展了你自己 扩展了你的未来
and open possibilities for you?
并且为你带来其他可能性了吗?
If the answer is yes, then the decision is yes.
如果答案是肯定的 那这个决定也是对的
No matter how terrifying the road or the path is for you.
不管路途多困难 这条路是为你而铺的
It could be moving out of your parent’s house.
它可能是搬出你父母的房子
Studying and working full time at the same time.
学习和全职同时兼顾
Or it could be changing your career path all over again,
或者是完全改变你的职业道路
even when you are thirty.
即使你已经30岁了
You must appraise for impact for the long term
你必须评估它的长期影响
as it is a slow process at times, you know?
因为这往往是个漫长的过程 明白了吗?
仔细检查你的决定
The best decision, when you are confused
当你在感性和理性中纠结时
between heart and logic is, here it goes,
最好的决定是
Write all what you think.
写下你所有的想法
Write down both the things
写下这两种决定
all the things that you are thinking of, their pros and their cons.
所有你能想到的好处和坏处
the steps that you will take to reach both the goals.
要达到这两个目标需要的步骤
who else will your decision impact?
会影响到其他哪些人
When you will be able to see it in front of you,
当你面对这些时
then evaluating it would be much much clearer
评估这个决定会变得越来越清晰
and then you would be confident in your decision as well.
然后你就能对你的决定有信心了
Let us see how to strengthen decision making muscles
让我们看看如何增强做决定的能力吧
First, write what is the result you want.
首先 写下你想要的结果
For example I want a career that will help my travel.
比如 我想要一份可以让我旅游的工作
I want to lose weight.
我想要减肥
I want to speak fluent English,
我想说一口流利的英语
reach managerial position in just two years, simple?
或是在两年内达到经理级的职位 简单吧
Now it’s written.
现在开始行动吧
List all your options as many as you can.
列出所有你能想到的选择 越多越好
So let’s say I want a career
比如说 我想要一份
that will help me travel all around.
能让我到处旅游的工作
So my options are,
所以我的选项
I can choose photography, tours and travels,
可能有摄影 旅游
write for a travel magazine probably?
为旅游杂志写文章
If I want to lose weight, my options are,
如果我想减肥 我的选项有
just diet, diet plus workout,
单纯的节食 节食结合健身
just workout and exercises and no diet, right?
锻炼但不节食 对吗
Now that I have written, I will move on.
现在我已经写完了 要进行下一步了
List all pros and cons in front of each option.
在每个选项前列出所有的优点和缺点
For example, photography as an option,
比如 摄影师这个选项
my pros that means advantages are I will get to travel,
优点就是我能旅游
I get to see new things and different things,
我能接触新事物 看不同的风景
my work would be all over social media
我的摄影作品会遍布社交媒体
okay now let’s looks at cons that means disadvantages,
好了 那来看看缺点吧
it will take a long time to earn enough money,
要赚到足够的钱需要很长时间
I will spend a lot of money on my camera and lenses,
我需要花很多钱来买相机和镜头 对吧?
right? Working hours can be really extreme, okay
工作时间可能很极端 是吧
So the next thing,
所以接下来
write down the worst thing that can happen for each option,
写下每个选项可能出现的最糟的情况
as a photographer, I will not get recognized easily
作为一个摄影家 我不会轻易得到认可
and hence won’t get paid enough, right?
所以我不能得到很多钱 对吗?
Worst thing as a travel guide, what could happen?
如果是写旅游指南 最差会怎样呢?
I could get a desk job.
我可能做的是办公室工作
Worst thing if I want to lose weight,
如果我想减肥
I will just not lose weight no matter what.
最糟糕的情况是 我可能怎么也减不掉
Now once you’ve written all this in, the next logical step is,
一旦你写下了所有这些 下一步是
who else will this impact?
想想这个决定还会影响到谁
My family, my kids, my colleagues, my own body?
我的家人 孩子 同事 我自己的身体?
Could be few options that you decision can impact, right?
总有一点东西都会受影响吧?
By now you guys have a complete sheet and all the things you need,
现在 你们有了一张完整的表
you steps, your advantages, your results, disadvantages,
和所有需要的东西 步骤 优点 结果 缺点
who all will it impact?
以及谁会受影响
With the help of this,
有了它的帮助
you will be able to pick the most suitable and logical option.
你就可以选择最适合 最理智的选项了
Now with continues practice this with this method
现在 不断练习这个方法
slowly you wouldn’t have to write it down as well.
你逐渐就不再需要把它们写下来了
But guess what, I’ve got some tricks
不过 你猜怎样 我还有一些
that will help you even further.
可以更进一步帮助你的小窍门
I call this body check test.
我称之为身体检查测试
What does your physical body say,
当你开始想象
when you put yourself in that situation,
自己处于那样的情景下时
when you start imagining it?
你的身体怎样反应?
Sudden shifts in your body can make you realize
你身体的突然变化
how you feel about it,
会让你知道你的感受
your stomach feels heavy,
你的胃觉得不舒服
your head feels light, your body just gets encouraged,
你的头感觉轻松 身体觉得有力量了
you know your body doesn’t lie.
你的身体不会说谎
Fast forward test,
快进测试
here you have to travel to the worst case scenario,
你要快速进入最糟的情景
you know what can happen?
会是怎样呢?
What’s the worst that can happen?
最糟的情况是什么?
What if it all goes wrong?
假如一切都不如愿呢?
How would you feel or how would you deal with it?
你会是什么感觉?你会怎么处理呢?
It is about, is it about losing some money?
会损失一些钱吗?
Losing a job or a family?
丢掉工作或是家庭?
Just write it down.
把这些写下来
You must write down how you would deal with it.
你必须写下你会如何处理这些情况
Or how you would lift yourself up
或者当所有事情不顺时
when everything goes wrong when everything goes bad?
你会怎样振作起来?
The best thing ever, test.
最好的方法 测试
Think through what all other possible advantages,
想想所有可能的优点
will you grow creatively, financially, emotionally?
你会更有创造力 更富有 情感更丰富?
Make it detailed and specific.
具体点写下这些细节
What is the best thing possible with this decision?
这个决定可能带来最好的事情是什么?
How long lasting will it be, right?
它会持续多久 ?
I call this test drive.
我称之为测试驱动
Check if there is some way you can test your option.
看看是否有方法 可以让你测试你的选择
Just probably take up a class before you choose a subject
例如可能在你选择专业前试听一节课
Borrow a camera to see if you have the skills,
借一台相机看看你的摄影技能
post it on instagram and see what are your comments.
把照片放在instagram上看看评论
If you were supposed to do a career shift
如果你想要改行
before you quit the job,
在辞职前
check if you can possibly get into any internship or studying,
看看你是否能获得任何实习或学习机会
just to see it suits you
来试试你是否适合
and if you love it.
和喜欢这个新工作
So there you go,
所以
this brings me to the end of the video.
我们来到了这个视频的结尾
I’m sure you will now be able to think
我确定你现在能够
before every decision,
在做每个决定前想想
as to what you want to do.
想想你想要做什么
But remember at the end
但是总要记住
make sure you are happy, because when you smile,
确定你是快乐的 因为当你笑时
you can make others smile
你能让别人也微笑
and that in itself has a great rush.
这是非常重要的
That is all for today you guys,
这就是今天的所有内容
I will see you very, very soon
我马上回来
until then be good, do good, keep smiling.
在那之前 请你们保重 保持微笑
This is me Meera signing off for the day.
这就是我 Meera 今天带来的内容

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本视频给出了在做决定的方法建议,帮助减少面对不同决定时的犹豫不决

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