Hey guys. This is going to be a book review.
But you’re also going to get some awesome tips on charismatic body language.
How do you feel any emotion that you want to instantly.
And how you can win $20 by the end of this vidio.
The book Charisma On Command was written by Charlie Houpert.
who has a very interesting story.
but currently owns and runs the YouTube channel Charisma On Command.
As well as the webside where he sells his Charisma university.
It’s like $600 in-depth course.
And if you enjoy this vidio or his book, I highly suggest checking it out.
Anyway, Charlie was voted most likely to break out of shell in college, when he graduated high school.
But it mentioned when he was in college, that didn’t actually happen.
In fact, it only happened when he decided to go on a city of broad trip to Costa Rica.
He said it was there when he realized Charisma was like a muscle,
that could be developed and built overtime with the right routine and perseverance.
And I believe the same.
He search one chapter off from the book by setting that Charisma is needed.
You know your friend in college, who gets great grades even though the academic passion is subpar.
While that co-worker who isn’t technically as skilled as you.
But still gets the promotion.
Or even a guy who droped out of high school,
yet manages to get a date with, eventually marriage your deam girl.
The simple fact is that nepotism and favoritism still exist.
And always will.
You can say it isn’t fair all you want.
But it’s a lot easier just to accept it,
and start understanding what it takes to get what the people we mentioned earlier had.
Charlie thinks Charisma is an equation.
And I think It’s great idea to help us understand what Charisma actually is.
See, technically Charisma is an outward expression of inward thoughts and thinking patterns.
它们细微 迅速 有时候你并不会察觉
Stuff so small and quick you can’t even notice.
Like someone’s eyes squinting 25% more.
Hold in eye contact for twice as long.
The set of head nods, the positive energy boost you feel after being with them.
Our brain can’t process all of this information in a conversation so quickly.
So it just declares the state I like this person and I want be around them more.
Which push that person in your charismatic category.
So, Charlie says that the equation is conviction+energy+presentation.
So the first one is conviction.
Conviction is confidence in your beliefs.
For example, the famous Steve Jobs was hiring one of his friends John Scholly.
And in the process Steve looked his friend in the eye who is working at Pepsi that time and told him,
“You wanna sell sugar for the rest of your life, or you wanna come work with me and change the world.”
And the conviction that he had when he said that was so strong.
And Steve had so much confidence in his own conviction that he got his friend to believe him too.
And that’s what successful leaders do.
And that’s why most of the successful leaders in history are also charismatic.
One important thing about conviction,
is that someone who with it carries more about their own character than the opinions of others.
That’s really difficult if you struggle with the pressure of others.
But it could be overcome with practice and mental mind shift.
For example, Charlie mentions that he was thinking about moving to South America.
All of his friends and family were discouraging him and tell him why he shouldn’t do it.
But he win anyways, because he feel like he needed to it and it was his character to do so.
This is because people don’t want you to do something,
doesn’t think that they won’t respect you if you do it.
Or your charismatic path will go down the dream.
In most case, you will be seen as even more charismatic in a long run.
As long as the thing you are doing is in line with your character.
The second part of the equation is energy.
So, what is energy.
There are many things that make up charismatic attitude in presence.
But the first is very high energy.
Take a look at MLK or Hitler.
They both had high energy,
to lead a large amount of people to follow their own ideas, whether for good or for bad.
There’s an example of famous Oprah Sing.
Where she screams “you get a card, you get a card, you get a card, everybody gets a card.”
The energy in that building was contagious and people love to be around it.
Somebody break down energy into a couple of subcategory.
The first is positivity.
Positivity is another part of energy thing.
Now you might be arguing Hitler wasn’t very positive and you’d be wrong.
While his ethical thought process might not agree with yours.
He very positive in leading these people.
For example, he didn’t lead with the thought his follower will going to lose the world.
They will all going to win it.
And he believes it with all of his heart.
On the other hand, the people who got a free card from Oprah saw her as pretty positive.
As well as the people who watched the episode, so positivity is important.
The second thing is to be supportive.
One thing Charlie hits pretty good on in his book,
is that there’s a common misconception among friends.
We are so close.
We can joke about anything by being rudes or castigating mean to each other.
He says this ruins relationship.
And that biting sarcasm towards your friends should always be avoided.
And i believe this too. Behind every lie there’s a little bit of truth.
When you call you large friend fat, you are labelling him.
And he might joke about it too.
But deep down it is really offensive on a psychological level.
Avoid being mean to people and your friends, even on a joking level.
Just changing this can meet a lot on your Charisma Meter.
Another very important part of energy is to be passionate.
Charlie says people are bored.
They are bored at work. They are bored when they go to lunch.
They are bored when they come home. They are bored when they turn on the TV.
And bored when they scroll their social media.
So give them something to be passionate about. It’s contagious.
Just be passionate about something and long see it and want be part of it.
Just like John Scholly saw Steve Jobs.
The last part of energy section.
Charlie gives an awesome tip to chose any emotion you want,
and how to instantly feel that emotion.
Now I’m not gonna tell you this tip.
Because I don’t want ruin it and you probably wouldn’t try it anyways.
Facial feedback hypothesis is the basic idia this tip though. I’ll explain it in a simple version.
So there was a experiment.
Where scientist give two people a pencil to hold in their mouth.
One to write with her none dominate hand.
They told participants they had to write with their none dominate hand to distract them.
But in fact the scientist were actually looking for something else.
One group held the pencil in their mouth with their teeth which caused them to smile.
And the other group had to use only their lips, could not touch their teeth.
Which caused them to pucker.
After they were done writing a little bit, they were told to leave.
And write down on an accessory how they felt.
Those who were forced to smile with a pencil on their mouth,
found they were happier which leads us to the conclusion of body language,
being one of the things you can actually fake untill you make it.
I give you some body language tips to increase your Charisma a bit.
But let’s get on to the presentation part.
So the last part of the equation is presentation.
And this part of the book was dedicated towards,
how charismatic people give attention to other people and make them feel important.
There’s a lot of symbolism here from this part of the book to how to win friends and influence people.
Here is some tips to increase your Charisma by uping your presentation game.
Use their name and remember it.
Make jokes and favor of them to boost their own self esteem.
Give them genuine Non-Reaction Seeking Compliments.
This is really important. Cause a lot of people give compliments.
So that the other person can give them a compliment back.
Non-Reaction Seeking Compliments ask for their opinion.
Look at this figure when you are listening.
And also, when you are speaking, look at the audience.
All of them.
Charlie goes a little bit in depth in this book about what real smile is.
It should be with your eyes.
Pull your shoulders back.
Raise your chin and align your pelvis properly.
If you need to check on some vidios on anterior pelvic tilt.
Since I know a lot of people struggle with this,
and a lot of people don’t even know that they have this condition.
Use open body language to keep your body in chest point towards people.
Charlie also talks a lot about how to use gestures properly.
He says he used a lot of them.
And in his vidio on his YouTube channel you can see that he enforces this.
And the last tip is to touch others to build trust.
There’s a ton of information in Charisma On Command.
And I really hope you guys enjoy my review.
If you wanna check out this book, I’ll leave an Amazon link in description.
Also if you want a free audio book,
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I made it within 24 hours.
I read the book.
I took notes.
I wrote an article.
I narrated it and animated it, all on one day.
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