So fundamentally the friendzone is a bit of a relationship purgatory
where although it’s not exactly gender exclusive
It’s more often than not when a guy’s sexual interest in a girl
is met with only platonic friendship.
And realistically, It’s totally fine
for a girl to like a guy’s personality,
but not really be interested in a relationship.
The trouble usually comes from the fact that
a lot of the time
guys don’t even realize they’ve been friend-zoned,
And this can happen for a lot of reasons.
But sometimes even though a girl might not be interested,
a guy can misinterpret the signal
she’s giving off and get too attached.
So if you’re a girl,
try to avoid being in the same room,
looking in a general direction, or
winking both eyes at the same time.
And sometimes if a guy really doesn’t get it,
you might have to clearly tell him that you’re only friends
or he’s probably gonna end up with hurt feelings
at one point or another.
Like I was recently a Starbucks,
and there’s a really cute girl taking my orders.
So we chatted for a second
and she asked for my name to write on the cup
and when I got my drink,
I saw that my name had two hearts around it,
and I was honestly one of the best feelings of my life
And I was about to say something
when I saw that she also drew a couple of hearts
for a guy named Aaron right behind me.
Now I’m sure some of you are wondering
if you’re in the friend zone right now.
and it usually progresses in stages,
so you can see which one you might fall into.
The first stage is denial
which is believing you aren’t in the friend zone
The second stage is anger
which is coming to the realization that maybe you are
The third stage is bargaining which is
begging to take her on a date
even though she’s always showing you pictures of other guys.
The fourth stage is depression
which is realizing she was showing you those pictures
because she thought you were gay.
And finally the fifth stage is acceptance
Just realizing that one of them is pretty cute
and what do you have to lose?
Now the most important question of all is
can you get out of the friendzone
And interestingly not too long ago,
I was reading that a few psychologists at Penn State
actually compiled a practical guide
for men to get out of the Friendzone.
It looks like this.
Of course the first thing is identifying
you’re actually in the friendzone.
then you execute the following steps.
Step 1: be more attractive.
It’s worth mentioning while this guide is certainly effective
can be kind of difficult to implement and at least takes a bit of time.
So one last piece of advice I was given a while ago was
if you ever in doubt,
ask the girl out.
The logic being that she either says yes and that’s great,
or she says no and you have your answer.
But I realized that the same greatly underestimates
my power for debilitating retrospection
Which is why next time we’re talking about how to get out of the friendzone
into the friend with benefits zone,
where nothing goes wrong and no one gets too attached.