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Now, most people have a pretty good idea of
whether they’re an introvert or an extrovert.
So, here’s an easy question for you:
are you an introvert or an extravert?
Whatever you replied, I’m sure you’re right,
but there’s a little bit more to it.
Within introversion and extraversion you have a lot more detailed personality traits.
And understanding more about these can help improve your well-being:
particularly if you’re introverted.
In the west, we live in a world designed for extroverted behaviour.
To get ahead in a typical workplace, for example,
you have to survive an open plan office,
attend conferences and their networking mixes,
and do presentations to rooms full of people.
In her book Quiet, Susan Cain calls this The Extravert Ideal –
即认为理想中的自己是合群的 擅长交际的 并喜欢成为众人的焦点
the belief that the ideal self is gregarious, highly social and comfortable in the spotlight.
Even studies have found
that extroverted people land more frequently in leadership positions
and enjoy higher levels of happiness.
A lot of these findings are based on broad definitions,
即认为外向型的人善交际 外向 又坚定自信
where extroverts are sociable, outgoing and assertive
and introverts have a more reserved demeanour.
But there are many nuances of your personality.
A 2017 study looked at which detailed personality traits indicate high levels of well-being.
They found that higher enthusiasm predictedpositive relationships,
self-acceptance and life satisfaction.
Those with more intellectual curiosity experienced more personal growth,
which is probably good news for everyone watching this video!
And more industrious people
were more likely to be satisfied with their purpose in life
and experience positive mood.
Even if these personality traits aren’t well-developed right now,
they can evolve over the course of your life.
You can aim to be more enthusiastic or industriousover time.
But it is a slow change.
Another line of research looks at how you feel in your environment right now.
This feeling of how well you fit into your surroundings,
whether that be your school,workplace or social settings,
is known as person-environment fit.
A lot of people in the west who are more introverted feel like they don’t fit in,
so then they fake being extraverted, and this leads to lower self-esteem.
This was the basis for a 2018 study,
where researchers looked at the relationship between person-environment fit, introverts and well-being.
Participants were asked how introverted or extraverted they were
and then how introverted or extroverted they wanted to be.
The majority of participants wanted to be more extraverted,
particularly those who were introverted.
This was largely because they live in a society that values extraversion.
More than 80 % of the participants said
they felt like it was necessary to show extraverted characteristics
in just going about their dailylife.
Now researchers called this desire to
be more extraverted than you are your extraversion-deficit belief.
And it highlights the importance of self-acceptancein your beliefs.
For example: this study found
introverts who were self-accepting and comfortable with their introversion
experienced higher levels of well-being,
closer to the level experienced by extraverts.
Well-being didn’t come from people having a particular personality trait,
It came from how their beliefs about themselves interacted with those traits.
So becoming more accepting of your introversion
and your place on this introversion extroversion continuum
is essential for introverts to increase their well-being.
Luckily your beliefs can be changed.
For starters:Remember that schools and workplaces in the west
are often geared towards extraverts.
Feeling uneasy in these situations doesn’t mean that you don’t fit in,
it means that they weren’t designed for you.
Focus on your strengths and situations whereyou can use them.
Know that not all introverts are the same.
Some are shy, some are anxious,
some are reflective and others just prefer quiet time.
A good task is to add a qualifier to how you are introverted,
so you can understand more
about how you will respond to a specific environment.
And don’t force yourself to be someoneyou’re not!
More than one-third of people fall on the more introverted side of the spectrum.
You can try to mould your personality traits
to be more enthusiastic or intellectually curious or industrious over time.
And this may lead to increased wellbeing.
But the biggest thing that leads to happiness
is acknowledging that being an introvert is okay.
And practicing self-acceptance leads to thegreatest boost in well-being.
Now if you are part of the 1/3 of people who prefer alone time,
Try using that to listen to Quiet by Susan Cain on audible.
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