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伴侣是反社会人的九种表现

9 Signs You're Dating a Sociopath

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9种与你约会的是反社会人的标志
Nine signs that you are dating a sociopath.
你如何得知
How do you know
自己在与错误的人恋爱?
when you are in a relationship with the wrong person?
有时恋爱中的你分辨不出来
Sometimes, you can’t tell when you are in such a relationship,
因为爱情会使人盲目
as love can often blind you.
这儿有九种标志可以帮你辨别
So, here are nine signs to help you identify
你是否在与反社会人约会
if you are dating a sociopath.
1.只有私欲才能激发他们的积极性
1. They’re motivated solely by their own personal desires.
激励人们的基本需求为食物 水或金钱
Basic human needs like food, water, or money are what drives them.
如果和他们讨论让世界变得更好的话题
If you talk to them about making the world a better place,
其不会有积极性
they won’t be motivated.
在恋爱情境中
In a relationship context,
只有诸如金钱 性 食物
only things like money, sex, food,
或你能提供的所有东西才是他们感兴趣的
or whatever you can offer are interesting to them.
2.他们的操控力很强
2. They are highly manipulative.
反社会的人通常会在精神上折磨你
Sociopath usually prey on your emotions.
他们发现你的弱点并加以利用
They find your weak spots and take advantage of them.
在社交方面将你隔绝于朋友甚至家庭之外
They socially isolate you from your friends and even family,
如果你没有让他们知道 也未得到首肯
not allowing you to go anywhere, such as the grocery shop,
他们不会允许你去任何地方 比如杂货店
without letting them know and gaining their approval first.
这一行为弱化了你与他人的关系
This behavior weakens your relationship with other people,
由此你会越来越需要自己的伴侣
so you end up needing your partner more and more.
3.他们会口是心非
3. They don’t walk the walk.
你的伴侣会说一套做一套
Your partner will tell you one thing, but do another.
或会说自己有多恨某样东西
Or they’ll say how they hate certain things,
却容许其存在于生活中
but allow those things into their life.
他们告诉你自己的宏伟计划
They tell you their grand plans,
但都不会付诸行动
but none of them shows in their actions.
这一行为会令人困惑不解
This behavior can be confusing and disorienting,
尤其是在他们表现虚伪之时
especially when they are being hypocritical.
例如他们可能会说自己
For example, they may tell you that
痛恨约会迟到的行为
they hate when you are late dates,
因为这表明你不尊重他们
because it shows that you have no respect for them;
但他们自己却会经常迟到
yet they themselves will often be late,
甚至在没有任何正当解释
or even reschedule plans with you,
或道歉的前提下与你重定计划
with no valid explanation or apology.
4.他们缺乏同情心
4. They lack sympathy.
共情是了解某人情感的能力
Empathy is the ability to understand someone’s emotions.
反社会人当然了解你的情感
Sociopath certainly understand your emotions,
只是对你毫无同情之心
they just have no sympathy for you.
当你感到沮丧时
When you’re feeling sad,
他们不仅仅认为这是自己应该关心的事
they simply don’t see it as something that should concern them,
而是将其看作是挖掘你的情感弱点的机会
but rather as an opportunity to exploit your perceived weakness.
5.他们不承担责任
5. They don’t take responsiblity.
反社会人通常很自恋
Sociopath are usually narcissistic.
他们相信自己在任何情况下都不会出错
So they believe they’re never at fault no matter what.
在遭到抵触 被要求改变自己的方法之时
When confronted on their behavior and asked to change their ways,
他们会为留你在身边而说“好的”
they will say “yes” to keep you by their side.
但却不会真的作出任何改变
However, there won’t actually be any changes,
仍会继续无休止地对你进行虐待和操控
continuing the cycle of mistreatment and manipulation.
6.他们不断地羞辱你
6.They constantly insult you.
来自伴侣的刺激可能并不总是很直接的
Your partner’s jabs don’t always have to be direct.
例如 你俩同时遇到了
Let’s say you are wearing an outfit
一位穿着与你差不多的人
similar to another person you both encounter.
你的伴侣可能会评论
Your partner might make a comment about
那个人的衣服有多丑 有多粗陋
how ugly and gross the other person’s clothes are.
但如果你说了同样的话
And if you confront them,
他们便会以受害者的身份指责你为偏执狂
they will accuse you of being paranoid and play the victim.
7.你总是心怀内疚
7. You are always guilty.
你是承担所有罪责的过错方
You are the one at fault for every mishap,
你的伴侣永远不会承认自己的过错
and your partner will never admit when they are wrong.
他们会在显然不是受害者的情况下
They will manipulate the situations to become the victim
操纵局面成为受害者
when they are clearly not.
结果 你便是作出道歉的人
In the end, you are the one apologizing.
8.他们将不安全之感投射在你和其他人身上
8. They project their insecurity on you and everyone else.
这源于他们的自恋情结和操纵习惯
This is the result of their narcissism and manipulation habits.
他们总是试图让自己看上去完美
As they are always trying to look perfect
或至少比其他人强
or at least better than the rest.
9.他们能调整自我
9. They can adapt themselves.
如有必要的话 他们会以消极方式
In negative ways, they will adapt to the situation
适应环境 适应你
and to you, if need be.
例如 他们可能会冲你吼叫
For example, they may yell at you,
让你闭嘴 玩弄你的情感
making you shut up and playing with your emotions.
但当你反应强烈时
But when you lash out,
他们承诺会改
they promise to change.
但长此以往
In the long run, however,
却会更具操控力
they actually become more manipulative,
使你愈发没有安全感
causing you to become even more insecure.
根据这些特性
Based on these characteristics,
你认为自己了解那些
do you think you know anyone
可能与反社会人约会的人吗?
who may be dating a sociopath?
你以前和反社会人谈过恋爱吗?
Have you ever been in a relationship with a sociopath before?
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