What exactly is body language?
Well, body language is your nonverbal communication,
which means you’re not doing the talking
but it’s your body
your physical behaviour,
your hand movements,
your facial expressions are speaking for you.
So in the real world
when you make these body language mistakes
you don’t come out as a confident person
Now, probably you are making these mistakes unknowingly
but it’s important for you to notice them
and work on them
So we are gonna look at eight worst body language mistakes
that probably you are making unknowingly.
So let’s have a look at the first one.
第一条是”Avoiding eye contact”
The first one is avoiding eye contact.
Well, at times when we are talking to people,
you get a little distracted or probably you are so nervious
that you fail to make an eye contact while you are speaking.
So what happens is when you’re speaking
or when you’re talking to that person, you do this,
oh yes, I actually did that but it failed.
So when you are not looking into the person’s eye,
it shows that you’re either nervous,
you’re not confident about yourself
and you’re being a little disrespectful.
So you definitely don’t wanna show these emotions.
probably it’s just that you’re nervious
but then try to work on this
and having an eye contact is extremely important.
So this is the worst mistake that you are making
if you avoid eye contact while talking to a person
all right, let’s move on to the second mistake
that people make is slouching.
When you are talking to someone
and you’re not standing,
your body posture is not straight but you are slouching.
You’re talking like this, mm-hmm.
All right, I’ll do that.
Well that is a mistake,
because when you slouch in front of people while you’re talking to them,
imagine he’s a very important client,
and you’re slouching in front of him
and you talking to him,
it shows that you are not confident,
you have very poor self-esteem
and again, you have no energy levels.
All right, you’re not very excited about the job.
You’re just so bored that you are slouching.
So if you slouch then please stop doing that
because this is one of the worst mistake that you’re doing.
The next one weak handshake.
When you shake hands with someone,
it has to be a very firm handshake.
that you, give a firm handshake to the people that you meet
because it’s a sign of authority.
It’s a sign of confidence.
When you give this poor handshake
or a one little finger handshake.
It just shows that you are least interested in shaking hands
or dealing with that person.
Again, there are people
who shake hands in a very aggressive manner.
It’s a very, very, very firm handshake,
that is also not acceptable.
so, not an aggresive handshake
where you just press that person’s hand so bad
that it just starts hurting.
So do not do that
and please avoid making a weak handshake
Let’s move on to another mistake that you might probably make
which is arms folded.
You’re talking to someone,
you’re giving a presentation,
you are in a meeting
and your hands are folded.
Well, when you are talking,
make the use of your hands
because using hands gestures really help.
It just shows your confidence
and it also helps you too by words
okey, so just gives you the time
and it just explains you much better in front of a person.
So when you are presenting something
or when you are in a meeting,
then try to use your hands while you are talking
rather than folding your hands.
Again it just shows that you nervous,
you’re not confident and you’re not interested in.
Okay. So, if you fold your hands while you talk,
stop doing that, just open up
and start using your hands,
just the way I do. All right.
Let’s move on to another mistake
就是”Frowning or scowling”
which ia frowning or scowling.
When you walk into an office
and you see people who are frowning,
who are making these awful facial expressions
while they’re doing their work.
oh I gotta send this email.
Well these expressions show that you’re bored,
and you’re least interested in your job.
Also when you’re talking to a person
and you make these weird frowning or scowling expressions,
Do you think the opposite person would be interested in talking to you?
Imagine I am talking to like this,
All right people,
you’re all making these mistakes
and it’s not acceptable.
Well, that is not fun,
you would not really like to watch my lessons
if I talk to you like this.
So no frowning or scowling
which shows that you’re bored,
you’re least interested
and you’re unhappy with the things that you’re doing.
So stop making these awful facial expressions.
我们接着看下一个错误”Invading others space”
Let’s move on to another mistake, which is invading others space.
Well, there are people who love to invade others’ space.
you’re at your workplace
and your co-worker comes in
and just sticks around you way too much
and you don’t want that.
You want him or her to maintain distance.
There are people who treat your possessions
or your office space
as if it’s their own.
You don’t want that
because they’re crossing their personal boundaries.
It’s important to maintain your boundaries
when you’re talking to a person
or when you’re visiting someone’s desk.
You can’t just stick around all the time
and you just can’t keep seeing what they’re doing.
All right. That’s not acceptable.
So stop invading others’ space,
maintain distance, maintain your personal boundaries.
The next one, fidgeting.
imagine I am teaching you something
and I’m fidgeting with my marker,
with my hair,
or I am biting nails while I’m teaching.
Well, that’s not acceptable, right?
So again, when you are fidgeting with your phone,
these days people love their phone too much.
So when they’re in a meeting,
when they are in a presentation,
when they are talking to people,
they keep fidgeting with their phone，
or they keep fidgeting with their hair,
they keep biting their nails,
that’s not acceptable people will not appreciate that
and it just shows that there’s no interest,
you are bored and you are nervous.
Okey, it’s also a sign of nervousness.
So, stop fidgeting with things
when you are talking to people.
Okay. And then the last mistake
that I would like to tell you that usually people make unknowingly
那就是”Glancing at the clock”
is glancing at the clock.
We all want go home early
Yes, we do.
We don’t wanna stay back,
we don’t wanna work too much.
So we wanna go home
and then people get into this habit
of glancing at the clock or glancing at your watch.
Do you do that?
Probably you’re doing it unconsciously,
but then you need to notice
and you need to stop making this mistake.
Everybody is in a hurry
but every time you’re talking to a person,
your boss is giving you some pointers,
your co-worker is talking to you
and you keep glancing at the clock
that what time is it?
I need to leave or I’m getting late
People will not like it
and your boss would definitely not appreciate it.
So stop glancing at the clock or your watch.
Alright. Finish talking andthen probably you can rush back home.
So these are the eight worst body language mistakes that you are making.
Please do notice these mistakes and work on them
so that you come out as a very confident person
And I’ll be back with a new lesson soon
till then you take care and have a great day.