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心理强大的人不会做的8件事

8 Things Mentally Strong People Don't Do

Hey there Psych2goers, welcome back to another video.
嗨《来吧心理学》的观众们 欢迎回来
Once again, Thank you so much for all of the love and support that you’ve given us.
再次感谢您的爱与支持
Our mission is to make psychology and mental health more accessible to everyone!
我们旨在让精神与心理健康知识更普及
Let’s begin!
让我们开始吧
There are a lot of stereotypes surrounding mental strength.
有很多关于精神力量的刻板印象
Most of them are about the idea that in order to be mentally strong,
大多是你要保持强大的心理
you have to always be happy or immune to negative emotions.
就必须保持快乐或是避免消极情绪
In reality, it has more to do with maintaining a strong sense of self
事实上精神力量与强大的自我感知更加相关
and making sense of your emotions, whatever they may be.
无论是哪种情绪你都要去体会它
In order to understand what mental strength is,
为了更好的理解精神力量是什么
it might help to learn about what it isn’t.
先了解精神力量不是什么也许会有帮助
Here are 8 things mentally strong people don’t do.
先来看看心理强大的人不会做的八件事吧
1. They don’t bottle their emotions
1 他们不会封闭自己的情绪
To understand this, we need to think about what bottling your emotions actually means
要理解这点 我们要知道什么是封闭情绪
and why we do it.
以及为什么会那样
According to a psychologist Leon Seltzer,
根据心理学家Leon Seltzer的观点
hiding emotional pain comes from a place of fear.
隐藏情绪的伤痛是由于恐惧
We may fear judgment, ridicule or social rejection,
我们可能害怕被议论 被嘲笑或被排斥
but choosing to hide your emotions might lead to
但选择隐藏情绪可能会产生持续的影响
strong, unresolved feelings with lasting effects.
这种影响就是一种强烈的无法排遣的感受
Fear and mental strength have a complex relationship.
恐惧和精神力量之间有非常复杂的联系
Mentally strong people tend to
心理强大的人倾向于
acknowledge, accept and actively work through their fear.
了解 接受 积极应对恐惧
They don’t let it get in the way of life.
他们不会让恐惧阻碍生活
2. They don’t live in the past
2 他们不会活在过去
Whether they’re big or small, regrets don’t escape anyone.
每个人或多或少都会有些遗憾
You may find that you tend to dwell on your regrets.
你也许会发现自己总是在细细回味那些后悔的事情
For mentally strong people, they know to let go of what they can’t change
但是心理强大的人知道要在沉溺过去之前
before their thinking becomes obsessive.
放下那些不能改变的事情
Being remorseful is a good thing.
有懊悔的感觉是件好事
Thinking about the past in a healthy productive way is great
用健康与有所助益的方法思考过去是很好的
because it lets us grow into our best selves,
因为这让我们成为更好的自己
but when that thinking turns into rumination or unwarranted guilt
但如果思考变成沉思或者无根据的内疚
it becomes unhealthy.
这可不是一件好事
3. They’re not easily influenced by others
3 他们不会被其他人轻易影响
Being easily influenced by others speaks largely to having a weak sense of self.
容易被别人影响很大程度上是对自己的不自信
Mentally strong people are not ones to follow crowds or jump on bandwagons,
心理强大的人不会跟随大众追随潮流
because they’re firm in who they are.
因为他们确切地知道自己是谁
This isn’t to say that mentally strong people don’t listen and adapt to others.
这不是说心理强大的人不去倾听或适应他人
Instead, they understand that you should not
事实上他们明白你不应该让来自旁人的压力
let peer pressure drive your actions or beliefs.
左右你的行为或者信念
So, they’re less likely to find themselves roped into
所以他们很少说服自己
something they aren’t comfortable with.
去做那些令人不舒服的事情
4. They don’t let people overstep their boundaries.
4 他们不会让别人越过自己的界限
Mentally strong people are aware of their own boundaries,
心理强大的人无论是在个性 专业 情绪
whether that be personal, professional, emotional or anything else.
或任何其他方面都对自己的界限有清晰的认识
Setting boundaries is a crucial aspect of mental well-being.
建立界限是保持精神愉悦的重要部分
According to Jane Collingwood from Psych Central,
根据Jane Collingwood在心理中心的研究
the ability to set personal boundaries is directly related to
建立个人界限的能力
having a high level of self-esteem.
与高水平的自尊有直接的关系
It’s important to understand that setting boundaries is not about
我们一定要知道 建立界限并不是要变冷漠
being cold, distant or dismissive.
变疏离或者不屑一顾
By making your boundaries clear,
通过设立清晰的边界
you can build and maintain healthier relationships.
你可以建立并维持健康的关系
These boundaries allow your relationships
这些边界会使你与其他人
with others to be more caring and supportive,
更好地互相关心 互相支持
without being emotionally draining.
而不是陷入身心俱疲的人际关系中
5. They don’t stick to their own perspectives
5 他们不会固执于自己的观点
Even though mentally strong people have a strong sense of self,
即使心理强大的人有非常强的自我感知
they’re still open-minded to other people’s perspectives.
但是他们仍然以开放的思想面对他人的观点
In fact, mentally strong people often re-evaluate
实际上心理强大的人会时常重新评估
their ideas and beliefs often.
他们的想法和观念
The difference is that this re-evaluation is internal and based on
不同的是 这是一种内部的
newly acquired insights and perspectives,
基于新获得的思想与观点的重新评估
not peer pressure.
而不是因为同辈压力
Being open to new perspectives is healthy
对于新的观点保持开放的态度是非常好的
because it fuels growth and change.
因为这是成长和改变的燃料
In order to become better people, we need to be receptive to the idea that
为了成为更好的人 我们需要接受一个想法
there is a lot we don’t know
那就是 我们不知道的事情有许多
and will never know.
并且可能永远都不知道
Mentally strong people not only accept this idea,
心理强大的人不仅是接受这种想法
but embrace it,
还会亲身实践
using each new perspective
他们把每一种新的观点
as a tool to better understand the world around them.
都作为理解周围的世界的工具
6. They don’t blame others for their mistakes
6 他们不会因为别人的错误而责备他人
Mentally strong people don’t play the blame game.
心理强大的人不玩责备游戏
They typically take ownership of their mistakes and decisions,
他们典型的做法是反思自己的错误和决定
and they recognize that their emotions, thoughts and ideas are their own,
并意识到情绪 思考和想法只是其本身
rather than trying to blame others for influencing them.
而不是试图责备那些影响到他们的人
Mentally strong people also avoid blaming others for self-pity.
心理强大的人也会避免去责备那些自怜的人
They have trained themselves to focus on progress and problem solving
他们训练自己去关注过程以及解决问题
rather than dwelling on things out of their control
而不是沉浸在那些不能控制的事情之中
such as what or who might have put them in an unfavorable situation.
比如是什么或是谁把他们推到了这种不利的境地
7. They don’t fixate on perfection
7 他们不痴迷于完美
Contrary to popular belief,
与普遍认知相反
mentally strong people are not perfectionist.
心理强大的人并不是完美主义者
They have a healthy view of failure
他们用健康的态度看待失败
and continuously learn from their mistakes.
并从错误中不断学习
However, although they are not perfectionists,
然而尽管他们不是完美主义者
they do strive to become better.
但他们会努力做到更好
The difference lies in that they strive to become better in comparison to their past selves,
不同的是他们努力比过去的自己做得更好
not better in comparison to others.
而不是比别人做得更好
In order to grow, these individuals embrace failures and constructive criticism,
为了成长 他们接受失败和建设性的批评
viewing them as lessons rather than testaments to who they are as people.
把这些看成是一堂课而不是对自己的考验
And 8. They don’t dread their own company
8 他们不惧怕独处
Do you dread, avoid or fear being alone?
你是否会担心 避免甚至害怕独处?
For some people, time spent alone can be difficult because it invites loneliness,
对于某些人来说 独处并不容易因为会感到孤独
obsessive thoughts and other insecurities to come up towards the surface.
强迫性的想法和不安全感会包围他们
To people who are mentally strong,
对于心理强大的人来说
time alone is time to reflect, relax
独处是反思 放松
and get to know themselves better.
更好地认识自己的时候
This is different from introversion,
与内向的人不同
as mentally strong people don’t necessarily
心理强大的人并不是更喜欢
prefer or need time alone.
或者需要独处时光
It’s just something they take comfort in when it happens.
只是独处的时候他们会感到舒适罢了
Did this video help you differentiate
这个视频可以帮你分辨
mentally strong people from others?
哪些是心理强大的人了吗?
Did anything surprise you or can you relate to this video
你有什么新发现 或者你身边有视频中
or does this describe someone you know?
所描述的这类朋友吗?
Let us know in the comments below. We’d love to hear your thoughts!
请留下评论 我们非常愿意听听你的想法!
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人们对心理强大的人会有些刻板印象,心理强大的人到底是怎样的呢?来看看你身边有没有这种人吧!

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